\”My child is not that material\”, this sentence has ruined countless people

When chatting with friends, I often hear a sentence: My child is not that material! This sentence is mostly accompanied by their innocent, helpless or hopeless expressions, as well as a case around them that \”the parents rarely care about other people\’s children, but they are very diligent and outstanding themselves\”. The implication is: I tried my best, but the child failed to live up to expectations, and I had no choice but to do this! Running Dad strongly disagrees with this view! What\’s more important is that this sentence is extremely scary and can ruin countless people! First of all, I want to ask: Why should children be given such a negative label? Is the child really not that good? Have you ever thought about what your words mean to your children? Haim Ginot, one of the founders of Parenting Education, advises: \”Never give your children negative labels, because this can really lead to these behaviors!\” If parents think their children are ugly, clumsy, or inappropriate, Being smart, and using similar words to describe a child, is an invitation to rudeness, stupidity, and stupidity on the child\’s behalf. The famous American adolescent scientist Adele Farber said: \”Never underestimate the impact of your words on a child\’s life.\” Because in many ways, children are like sponges. They do not have enough experience to understand what is going on. They will absorb everything others do to them without judging them. There is also a saying about inspiration in traditional Chinese culture. Good children are attracted by you always saying good things about them; bad children are attracted by you always saying bad things about children. It seems that all roads really lead to Rome! In fact, God brings every child into this world and gives him the opportunity and possibility to succeed. Everyone should and can do better. The most important thing in education is to believe in children, discover their potential and personality, and let them truly become themselves. Even if there are some setbacks and changes in the process, children have room for growth and the potential to change at any time. And \”my child is not that material\” not only arbitrarily ignores and rejects this potential, but also cruelly attacks the child\’s already fragile self-esteem. A running mother who is a senior victim once told me this: Whenever I think of this sentence, my forehead will sweat, my back will feel cold, and I want to burrow into the ground. When things happen, it\’s like being under a spell. I have no self-esteem and don\’t believe that I can do well. Yes, these poor children often even grow up thinking that when a door is closed to them, a whole life is lost! They don\’t know that even if this door really cannot be opened, another door may be quietly opening for them. One of the core meanings of education is to help children open more doors! Nowadays, many people are discussing the solidification of class. Have you ever thought that such a sentence may give your children who are originally in a low-class class and still have expectations of rising up, a heavy blow to their souls? There is no greater sorrow than the death of one\’s heart! What is even more pitiful and terrifying is the way of thinking and behavior behind this sentence – full of negativity, shirk and destiny! Have you really tried hard? Is it really all the children’s responsibility? Is there really nothing you can do? I do not believe! At least draw a big question mark! The first thing that needs to be exposed is the educational fairy tale: parents don’t have to worry about it, and their children will still be great! runBefore he was in high school, Dad Pao was always known by his family and others as the \”academic master\” boy who \”does not need to raise his whip\”. In my mother\’s words, \”Our little Chao doesn\’t let anyone worry about it, we never care!\” My own feelings are more literary, just like what Liu Ye\’s wife Anna said in an interview: I know very well that all those who are praised are just edited fragments. What we see is just an image of the world, not the truth. Undoubtedly, my status as a \”student master\” at that time was indispensable for my unremitting efforts. My parents who were busy with farm work really had little or no ability to worry about my studies. But now that I think about it, without my mother\’s praise of Dafa and my father\’s hard work and hard work, my outstanding performance would never have appeared out of thin air like \”The Monkey King was born\”. Although my parents do not understand such educational concepts and methods, their own words and deeds naturally conform to the three important concepts of educational art: abundant and controlled love, appreciating children, and leading by example. Also in their hometown, many parents regard beating, scolding or pampering their children as commonplace, while they themselves spend the whole day in numbness and mahjong. When telling the folks about it, my parents simply attributed my success in studying to myself, and the folks naturally couldn\’t understand the real secret. In the end, I can only say: \”My child is not that good!\” In the future, I will be even more absent and indifferent to my children\’s education! Dad Running just wants to say, don’t believe in such fairy tales anymore! On the contrary, there are three most basic laws of education that must be believed. One is that there are no children who cannot educate well, only parents who cannot educate them well. Every child is an angel, family is the child\’s first school, and parents are the child\’s most important teachers. Coercion will naturally put great pressure on children. Being simple and rough will only make children learn to use violence to solve problems. Rebirth and under-raising are bound to be huge disasters. Excessive pampering is raising naughty children. Only by cherishing the great fate of the birth of a child, fulfilling the great responsibility of being a parent, and learning and practicing the art of education well can angels not break their wings. The other is that pie does not fall in the sky, and good children need to be carefully nurtured. As \”Doctor\’s Father\” Cai Xiaowan said: \”There is no panacea for raising children. We have just done some things that people have not thought of or dare not think of, and sacrificed some things that people are not willing to sacrifice.\” Only by firmly believing in \”the world\” \”It\’s fair, and educating children must not be adulterated.\” Only by using the hard work in the past can we win the joy of the future and give our children a bright future. Another is that leading by example is the best way. A father is better than 100 principals. If you want your children to fight hard, you have to fight first. If you want your children to be steady, you have to do your duty first. If your children can afford to lose, you have to stand up first. If there is a sentence that says \”Don\’t worry about children\”, it must be followed by: \”It all depends on your sense of virtue\”! Only when parents set an example through words and deeds can \”positive energy\” shine in their children. This is also the best interpretation of \”family tradition\”. \”My child is not that good!\” If you have said this, never say it again in the future.