My child, you don’t need to get 100 points on the test

These two days are the days of final exams. Some in the parent circle are happy and some are sad. My friend Wen is the one who is worried. This morning, she sent her children to school, gave them a few instructions, and then rushed to work. There was still more than half an hour before work, and everyone came one after another and saw her sitting alone on a stool in a daze. So someone asked her if she had anything on her mind. She sighed and said, \”Today\’s final exam, I wonder how my child will do?\” I said, \”Your daughter usually studies very seriously, and she will definitely do well in the exam.\” She gave a wry smile and said, \”The first few exams will be good.\” In the Tianjin exam, she only scored 99 points in one class.\” I opened my mouth wide: \”99 points! What else do you want?\” She continued: \”The lowest score in their class was 97 points, and most of them were 100 points. At that time When I saw her score, I was so anxious that I shed tears.\” Everyone quickly comforted her, saying that 99 points was only 1 point away, which didn\’t mean anything, so don\’t take it too seriously. Obviously, our comfort did not have much effect. She was still worried about whether her child could get 100 points in the test this time. I don’t know when a 100-point test became the highest standard for testing a child’s academic performance. Parents focus on 100 points, and even the children themselves will not take the test unless they have 100 points. My daughter has not yet entered elementary school, and I do not expect her to score 100 points frequently in the future, but in her little heart, she also has a natural liking for 100 points. In order to make her literate, I downloaded a literacy software for her. Literacy software is much more interesting than simple literacy books and flashcards. Every time you learn a few new words, you can choose to take a test to see how many you can remember. This is also for consolidation. There will be a prompt sound during the test. If you answer a word correctly, the system will say \”You are awesome\” or \”Great\”. If you answer it incorrectly, the system will say \”Try again\” or \”What a pity\”. After answering a set of words, there will be a score. If you get more than 80 points, the system will say \”This answer is good, you got 80 points, and you will be rewarded with three five-pointed stars.\”; if you get 100 points, the system will prompt \”This time You answered well and got 100 points. I will reward you with five five-pointed stars.\” At the beginning, my daughter just thought it was fun and didn\’t care how many points she got. A set of words would be tested from beginning to end. After taking the test for a few days, I discovered her changes. During the test, if she made a mistake in a word, the system would say \”What a pity\” and she would stop answering immediately. She would quit the test and start from the beginning again, and so on until a group of After all the answers were correct, her tight little face softened a little, and then she clenched her fists and said \”Yeah\”! Although she could score 100 points several times a night, I was not happy, but rather worried. When she was taking the test again, she made a mistake and she was about to quit and take the test again. I quickly stopped her and said to her: \”It doesn\’t matter if you are wrong. Remember which one is correct. Just do it right next time. You can do it directly like this When I go back, I don’t know which one is right.” But she didn’t buy it and insisted on getting 100 points to be happy. I had to remind her not to be anxious during the test, and take her time to get the answer right. It is true that the learning effect needs to be tested by test scores. Children should also be a little stressed in learning, so that they are motivated to learn without competition.Competition and stress are not necessarily good things. But taking 100 points as the test standard is indeed a bit excessive. It is not easy to test 100 points every time, and it is not a good thing. I have a classmate in high school who studies very seriously and gets good grades. She usually ranks at the top of the class in self-tests in every subject. But when it comes to big exams like midterms and finals, she usually doesn\’t do well. We all said that she performed abnormally, but it was a bit abnormal to perform abnormally every time she took the exam. During the college entrance examination, I still performed poorly and got into an ordinary third-level school. Later, at a class reunion, she talked about those years again. Now that she was a mother, she couldn\’t help but feel emotional when talking about the exams in high school. She said that when her child goes to school, she will not force him to take a certain number of exams, nor will she ask him to get 100 points. She is the only child in her family. Her parents are both intellectuals. She has been very demanding of her since she was a child. She wants to learn what others learn, and she also learns what others don\’t learn. When she went to school, her parents even required her to get first place in every exam. When she was just in the lower grades of elementary school, she could still meet her parents\’ requirements because she learned early and put in a lot of effort, so she naturally did better than the average child. But as she gets higher in grade, it\’s not so easy to get first place every time. Easy. As long as she failed to take the first place in the exam, even if she missed it just a little bit, her parents would criticize her, so she was very nervous before every exam. She began to have trouble sleeping a few days before the exam. Later, the more she worried about not doing well in the exam, the more she would not do well in the exam. She was afraid of seeing the disappointed eyes of her parents, so she studied hard, but it still backfired. \”If your child is in the first place, then let him stop working so hard and easily reach seventh to seventeenth place. Only then can he succeed. If your child is in the bottom few, then let him work hard to get into the front. Among the 17.\” This is the personal experience of the famous prose writer Lin Qingxuan. Lin Qingxuan believes that good education is based on the characteristics of children and awakens their hearts. He said that he is a child who has found his heart since childhood. He has determined to be a writer since the third grade. He started writing 500 words a day in elementary school, 1,000 words in middle school, 2,000 words in high school, 3,000 words in college, and has been writing 3,000 words a day since then. Character. He was not a child with good grades since he was a child, but he was more successful than many children with good grades. This example does not mean that parents should not care about their children\’s grades or value their children\’s grades. It means that parents should not pay too much attention to their children\’s grades. It should not only focus on grades, nor should they focus on perfect grades. Thinking about my nearly 20 years of study experience, I can probably count on ten fingers how many 100-point exams I have passed. Therefore, when my child goes to school, I will not ask her to get 100-point exams. As long as she is interested in learning, can take learning seriously, has her own requirements for academic performance, and has good study habits, it doesn\’t matter whether she gets 100% or not. The important thing is that children can treat learning correctly. Only when parents are not anxious can children not be anxious.