My child, your circle determines your future. Who you go with is very important.

How far a person can go depends on who he has with him; how good a person is depends on who guides him; how successful a person is depends on who he has with him. From here we can see the importance of circle and environment to a person. Therefore, as a child\’s first teacher, we have the responsibility and obligation to build a good living environment and life circle for our children. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together, and people flock together, that’s what it means! This is what I deeply felt after reading \”The Myth of Parenting\” recently. It turns out that in addition to parents, the most profound influence on children is the environment, friends, and peer groups, which may affect the child\’s future. It doesn’t matter who you are, it’s who you’re with. We become who we are with the kind of people we are with. If we are with diligent people, we will not be lazy. If we are with positive people, we will not be depressed. If we are with wise people, we will be extraordinary. ; Only by working with experts can you reach the top. The same is true for raising children. If we want our children to become outstanding when they grow up, as parents, we must help our children create a good living environment and provide a different life circle from an early age. Confucius said: There are three friends for those who benefit, and three friends for those who suffer harm. Zeng Guofan once said that the success or failure of a person\’s life is all related to the virtuousness of his friends. Zeng Guofan also had a principle of making friends with eighty-nine friends. To put it simply, he should make friends with virtuous people and stay away from villains. The Importance of Environment to Children We often say that environment creates people. In fact, it means that children in different environments will become different types of people in the future. People are all products of their environment. A good environment will make you successful, while a bad environment will bring you down. There is an ancient saying of \”Meng\’s mother moved three times\”, which is enough to illustrate the importance of environment. If you want to be excellent, then you must be in a positive and progressive environment. An excellent environment will affect your thinking and make you better. excellent. If you want to be lazy, then be in an environment where you are not enterprising. Over time, you will become lazy and unenterprising. I went shopping in the supermarket the day before yesterday and heard the waiter complaining to the colleague next to him about his son, saying that his son\’s consumption concept has changed since he entered high school. In the past, it was enough to buy shoes and clothes that could be worn. Now, everything must be brand-name. If you don’t buy it, you won’t go to school. He also said that his classmates are like this. Everyone wears brand-name shoes. If he wears ordinary shoes, his classmates will look at him. Everyone would laugh at him and look down upon him. In the end, I couldn\’t make trouble with my son, so I spent a thousand and seven dollars to buy a pair of shoes for my son. You said, why do children nowadays love to compare so much, and they want famous brands for everything they buy. Colleagues said that there is no way, they are affected by the environment, and the classmates around them are like this. Over time, children will naturally be affected by the environment. Nowadays, when children go to school, they don’t go to school to compete with others. Instead, they go to school to compete with others who dress better or whose classmates drive better cars [picking nose]. After listening to their chat, I sighed that the environment is really important to a person. People are products of the environment, so they are easily affected by the environment. Sometimes it’s not the children who love to compare, but the environment that drives them forward. We often say that parents influence their children’s lives. In fact, in my opinion, sometimes the influence of parents is far less than the influence of the environment.One person\’s influence. When I say this, I don\’t mean that parents are unimportant, nor do I mean that parents should do nothing. I just feel that for a child, the environment is really important. Since the environment is so important, as parents, we must try our best to create a good small environment at home for our children, help them effectively choose and create an environment, and at the same time strive to be a role model for our children. The Importance of Peer Groups to Children I mentioned earlier that the environment is very important, but in fact it should be the people in the environment that are very important, especially those who belong to the same size peer group as the children. When children grow up, they long for a group and don\’t want to be isolated, so they will actively integrate into the peer group. If the people in the group are outstanding, the children will naturally be infected and become even better. But if the peers in the peer group are not enterprising, fight, smoke and drink, they will also become part of that type of group that is not enterprising and fights. Therefore, as a parent, do not underestimate the importance of peer groups for children. The influence of children from different types of groups on children can really affect their lives. As the old saying goes: \”Those who are close to vermilion are red, and those who are close to ink are black.\” This is what it means! Just like my child recently bought princess glass slippers, maybe he was praised by the teacher after going to school and recognized by the children who have princess dreams. The princess shoes directly set off a craze among the peer group. Especially one day, when I was picking up my children from school, three little girls pointed at my children’s shoes and said, “Mom, I want princess glass slippers like this.” This is enough to show the influence of peer groups on children. Children in peer groups are similar in age and have almost the same hobbies, so they are also the easiest to relate and influence. Psychologist Piaget once said: There are two worlds in children\’s childhood, one is the world where parents and children interact, and the other is the world of peers. Peer groups play as important or even more important roles in children\’s development than parents. Don’t underestimate the influence of peer groups on yourself. Many people will ask, are peer groups really important for children? I want to say that it is really important. This is not an exaggeration, but a fact. In \”The Myth of Upbringing\”, the author said that if everyone in his peer group smokes, then he will also learn to smoke. He smokes not because he likes it, nor because he wants to become bad, nor because his peers force him to smoke, but because he doesn\’t want his peers to think he is an alien, and he also doesn\’t want to be isolated. Isolation does not mean that his peers deliberately isolate him, but that he feels that his peers do not want to do anything to him, and he feels that he is not loyal and united. When this kind of thinking appears mentally, it is easy to lead to this type of group. For children, the biggest pressure actually does not come from their parents, let alone teachers, but from the opinions of their peer groups. When children have not established a sense of order and no one reminds them, they usually take the practices of most peer groups as the norm. So, kids, don’t underestimate the influence of your peer group on you, and don’t overestimate your endurance. If a relationship makes you unhappy or painful, or evenIf it even makes you less like your original self, or if you do something that goes against your original intentions, you must stop your losses in time. Only by bravely leaving this big dye vat can you continue to work hard and move towards a better future. Good circles and groups encourage us to work hard and good circles and groups will only influence each other and make us better and better. I read a story a long time ago about the ancient ancestor Ti and Liu Kun. One day, Zu Ti heard the crow of a rooster in his sleep. He kicked Liu Kun awake and said to Liu Kun, \”Did you hear the crow of the rooster?\” Liu Kun said, \”It is unlucky to hear a rooster crow in the middle of the night.\” Zu Ti said, \”I don\’t think so. How about we get up and practice swordplay when we hear the rooster crow?\” \”Liu Kun readily agreed. So they got up and practiced swordplay every day after the rooster crow. Just like that, spring went to winter, cold came and summer came, without interruption. Finally, their hard work paid off. After long-term hard practice, they finally became An all-rounder who was both literary and military, he was able to write articles and lead troops to fight. Later, Zu Ti was named the General of Zhenxi, realizing his wish; Liu Kun also became the Zhonglang General of Zhengbei, and also took charge of the war. The military of the three states of Merger, Hebei and You has given full play to literary talent and military strategy. From here we can see the importance of friends to us! The purpose of education by British educator Whitehead PDF As the saying goes, fish look for fish, and shrimp look for shrimp , dragons look for dragons, phoenixes look for phoenixes, and heroes look for heroes. Good friends will only make us better and better, while bad friends will only pull us backwards or even push us into the abyss. A particularly popular saying recently: with Those who fly with the phoenix must be handsome birds; those who fly with tigers and wolves must be ferocious beasts. Surrounded by treasures, it is a cornucopia, and surrounded by grass, it can only be a straw bag. My child, in the future, whether you are a cornucopia or a straw bag depends on you. Who you walk with now, because the people you walk with are really important to your future life!