My mother gave such a gift on June 1st, and my daughter, who was originally in high spirits, was instantly heartbroken!

The Children\’s Day gala is going on, and the children on the stage are performing energetic street dances. Parents and children in the audience are enjoying it with relish. As the scheduler of the party, I run between the front desk and the backstage from time to time. When I take the time, I have to see if the parents of the children in the audience have any problems that need to be solved. When I rushed backstage and saw that the next program was ready, and the children were well prepared, and there were no problems that needed to be solved, I returned to my seat in the auditorium. When I turned around, I found that Wenwen from Class 2 next to me was crying, and Wenwen\’s mother looked unhappy next to her. I just wondered, what\’s going on? Today is a children\’s day. Each child has their own activity display project. Just now, Wenwen was happily performing the girls\’ chorus on the stage. Her little face smiled like a flower. How come she turned into tears in the blink of an eye? Where are the people? Who bullied her? Wenwen\’s mother next to her looks unhappy too? So I took the initiative to ask Wenwen\’s mother what happened? But when I knew the cause and effect of the matter, I couldn\’t help but sigh from the bottom of my heart: Maybe the adults themselves will regret giving such a holiday gift to their children! It turns out that Wenwen performed two programs today, one was a girls\’ chorus and the other was a parent-child game. The teachers carefully considered the arrangements for the children\’s performances and also solicited the children\’s opinions. Wenwen is a timid girl. Her voice condition is good, but the softness and coordination of her body are still poor compared to her voice condition. Therefore, based on these factors, the teacher arranged a small chorus for Wenwen to showcase Wenwen\’s beautiful voice, and also arranged a parent-child game activity so that Wenwen could show herself on the stage accompanied by her parents, which not only exercised her courage but also Gained the joy of gaming! And these are what Wenwen likes to do. During every rehearsal, Wenwen was very serious. She even quietly told the teacher that she wanted to behave like a little singer so that her mother could see her. But who would have thought that when the day of Children\’s Day came and Wenwen happily showed off herself on the stage, Wenwen\’s mother said to her child: \”What kind of performances have you performed? Just sang a few times, Look at the dance and skit they performed, why weren\’t you chosen by the teacher to perform? We will leave as soon as we finish the game.\” After saying this, Wenwen, who was originally in high spirits, turned into an aggrieved ugly duckling, so I wiped away tears unhappily. Looking at Wenwen\’s aggrieved little face and the unhappy expression on Wenwen\’s mother\’s face, I told Wenwen\’s mother the reason why Wenwen asked why she would perform chorus and parent-child game shows. At this time, the unhappiness on Wenwen\’s mother\’s face lessened a little. Due to time constraints, I did not talk too much to Wenwen\’s mother. Instead, I made an appointment to have a good chat with her about the child\’s problems after the festival. In fact, many parents are like Wenwen\’s mother, who always ignore the advantages of their own children. They always think that other people\’s children are good, and their children should learn the skills that other people\’s children can learn! And never consider whether this skill is suitable for your child\’s own conditions! Children can\’t learnYes, if you can’t do it, it’s the child’s fault! Blame and blame fall on the children. Complaining and blaming are easy to say, but the harm to children may be serious that no one can imagine! Take a look at the reports in many news magazines today. How many children have made mistakes because of their parents’ unnecessary comparisons, which ultimately led to tragic consequences? Especially in public! Just like Wenwen, her original happy holiday mood was dampened by her mother\’s reproachful words! Is this a holiday gift from adults to children? But adults don’t care much about all this! However, the child\’s inner negativity and resistance are slowly growing. When the adults understood, all they had left was regret. Therefore, parents who always like other people\’s children may wish to calm down and take a look at the following suggestions: First: Pay more attention to your own child and understand her strengths and weaknesses. Spend time with your children at home, chat and play games with them, and listen to their inner voices and needs. In school kindergarten, if you have time, you can ask the teacher how your child is doing. Combine the two to see what you, as a parent, can do to help your children grow, give full play to their strengths and weaknesses, and make up for their shortcomings and weaknesses. Second: Don’t make unnecessary comparisons. If other people’s children are good, your own children are not bad either! Every parent loves their children, and since they love, they must pay attention to the way they love! Don\’t always talk about other people\’s children. Our own children can learn from the advantages of other people’s children, but it’s not a comparison! Change the tone of comparison. Instead of just saying \”Why are other people\’s products so good and how come you are so bad?\”, change it to \”Other people\’s products are very good, but I think yours is better! You can try it.\” Try it?\”? This tone contains both encouragement and respect for discussion. Just imagine how children can be resistant to such communication?