My sister cut off her brother’s genitals: Chinese way of teasing children, which is both ignorant and vulgar

It\’s 2020. Adults should no longer say things like \”your parents don\’t want you anymore\” or \”your parents picked you up\” to children, right? Unexpectedly, I was still too naive. When I returned to my hometown some time ago and saw the interaction between my family and my niece, I realized that many adults still use the \”old\” way to entertain children. My niece is over 6 years old. She is very happy to know that she can come to Shanghai to play during the summer vacation. She is counting down every day until she can take a flight. She would discuss with her mother every night before going to bed, thinking about where she would go and what she would like to do when she came to Shanghai. The elders in my family took advantage of this to tease her. They told her, \”Oh, you won\’t be able to go to Shanghai. The plane is broken and it won\’t fly…\” When my niece heard this, she felt very sad and cried very hard and heartbreakingly. When they saw her like this, they found it very interesting… The adults had great fun playing this game. They played it every one or two days, and it made my niece cry every time… My mother told me about this, She also thought it was quite fun. What she actually wanted to say was that my niece really wanted to come to Shanghai. But it sounded very uncomfortable to me. I told my mother, you deliberately tease your children like this and make them cry so miserably. Don’t you think you are cruel? A few days ago, my niece finally came to Shanghai, and the adults continued to tease the children like this. We visited various attractions every day and got in the car. The children were very tired and wanted to sleep, and so did my niece. But her uncle and aunt always tease her, saying, \”Go to sleep. We won\’t call you when you get out of the car. When you wake up, you will find that there is no one in the car except yourself…\” The niece is frightened. I don\’t even dare to sleep anymore. I couldn\’t stand it anymore, so I stopped them from teasing the children like this, and then I sincerely told my niece, \”It\’s okay. You can sleep peacefully. When you get off the bus, your aunt will call you!\” My niece was very insecure and said, \”Really? Auntie, do you promise?\” I said, \”I promise, I will hook up with you…\” The niece confirmed again and again before she dared to sleep. I really don\’t understand, why should children be so worried? Why destroy children\’s trust in adults? For children, adults are their entire world. Is it fun that we take advantage of our age and experience to scare and harm children like this? Not fun at all! When talking about this in a friend group, everyone was very emotional. A friend said that when she was a child, she stayed in her hometown with her grandparents. Her parents were in Shenzhen, and she missed her parents very much. Her neighbors often tease her and say, \”I saw your parents on the street today. They said they would go home in the evening.\” Then she gets very excited and waits in front of her house for a whole day. Any movement will make her nervous and expectant. . But there has been no one. If there is no hope, there will be no disappointment. She waited until night with full hope every time, and then experienced despair again and again. Now that she thought about it, she really wanted to yell at those boring neighbors. A friend also told a particularly horrific example. When he was a child, there was a house next door toWhen an aunt was pregnant, her neighbor threatened her eldest child, saying, \”Your mother won\’t want you after she gives birth to a little brother or sister…\” Then a few days after the baby was born, the eldest child strangled him to death. The eldest child also earned the resentment of the whole family – little did they know that the culprit was the neighbor! Not a child! I remember reading a piece of news that a girl’s mother gave birth to a second child, a boy. The neighbor said to the girl, your brother is a boy and your mother will not want you! Go get a pair of scissors and cut off your brother\’s penis! Girls really do that. This kind of malicious neighbor should be cut to pieces! ! ! Yes, many times, adults will say, what’s the point of making a joke? Can\’t the kids be teased? cannot! Can I tease you like this? You tell your children all day long, \”Your parents don\’t want you anymore…\” Can I tell you all day long, \”Your wife/husband cheated on you and opened a room with someone else…\”? Maybe you don’t realize that a casual joke can have a huge negative impact on your child. First, it makes children feel very insecure. The words \”Your parents don\’t want you anymore\” will really cast a shadow on the child for the rest of his life. For a child, what he needs to feel most is that his parents will love him unconditionally no matter what happens. This is the cornerstone of his entire worldview. If you keep instilling in your child when he is very young that his parents will not want him, he will feel helpless. This lack of security is particularly terrifying and will cause him to not know how to love and be loved. Second, children will find it difficult to trust adults. When I was four or five years old, I went to a relative\’s house. He had an iron. I asked him, \”Will the iron be very hot?\” He smiled and said, \”No.\” Out of trust in him, I went to touch it. As a result, my hands were burned and blistered. He laughed triumphantly, and at that moment, I really felt that the adult was really bad. If adults always deceive children as they please, children will feel that what adults say has no credibility, and over time, they will no longer believe in what adults say. At the same time, they also learn to lie. Third, children will habitually please adults. Some children who do not cooperate with adults\’ teasing are criticized as \”not capable of taking jokes\”… Some children learn to read adults\’ faces and cooperate with various jokes, and are praised as \”sensible and good children\”. Fourth, and more seriously, it will cause the child\’s personality to be distorted. All teasing by adults is intended to arouse various emotions in children, such as sadness, uneasiness, fear, anger, etc. If you make this kind of joke too much, the child will have a strong rebellious psychology and become repellent from communication with others. To be honest, many adults in China are the least aware of propriety and are even more ignorant than children. The following ways to entertain children are all wrong. Don\’t ask your children, \”Do you prefer dad or mom?\” You are an adult, and you don\’t like to answer \”Wife or mom fall into the water, who can I save?\” The same goes for children. Besides, no matter how they answer, it will be wrong. If you answer your mother, your father will be disappointed; if you answer your father, your mother will feel that he has notConscience; If you like both, you will be considered too cunning… In the same way, don\’t ask your children, \”Do you like grandma or grandma\”, \”Do you like aunt or aunt\”… Are you all boring? ! Don\’t use red envelopes to tease your children. Send them red envelopes and make various demands, such as \”Sing a song and the red envelope will be yours\”, \”Call me daddy and the red envelope will be yours.\” Why? This child is neither a singer nor a thief. Don’t threaten your children, “The police will arrest you.” In order to save trouble, Chinese adults always use threats instead of education. They say “the police will arrest you” to make children particularly afraid of the police. In fact, we should tell our children that if anything happens, they can call the police. The police are here to protect us. Don’t lie to your children. It’s so common. My niece was reluctant to leave Shanghai, so the adults coaxed her, \”We\’ll come back to Shanghai to play in a few days…\” In order to appease the children, they said casually: \”Don\’t cry, mom will take you to have fun tomorrow.\” field. You go to bed now, and grandma will buy you toys tomorrow. Not a word can be fulfilled. Oh no, they have no intention of honoring it at all. And then if the child lies and they get so angry, what right do they have to be angry? They themselves are the biggest liars. Don\’t feed your children random food, or give them alcohol to trick them into thinking that the alcohol is sweet; feed them chili peppers to trick them into thinking that the chili peppers are particularly delicious. Then I feel very happy when I see the child being choked or being hurt. This kind of adult is really sick. In the past, adults fed baijiu to children, and the child died suddenly after drinking baijiu. Isn’t this kind of news deterrent enough? My friend also said that during the Chinese New Year in her hometown, relatives would always tease her son with snacks. When her son reached out to get them, they would not give them to him, and they kept laughing at the child for being greedy… Speaking from a grown-up perspective, this kind of \”Chinese-style teasing of children\” \”It is a culture of the weak and the strong. Many people in China always worship the powerful and bully the weak. Go ahead and bully your boss or your leader if you have the guts! When you go to hand in a report, tell your boss, \”Sing a song and the report will be yours\” or \”Call me daddy and the report will be yours.\” Isn’t it because you don’t treat leaders like this, but only children, because: who is weaker and easier to bully than children? When we learn to treat children equally and respect their feelings, will we truly be civilized and progressed. Finally, I want to say to all parents: If someone teases your child like this, please stand on your child’s side and fall out with them on the spot! No one is more important than your child.