My son goes to Tsinghua University, but I can’t even afford to live in a nursing home.

There is a popular article on the Internet titled \”My two sons went to Tsinghua University and Renmin University, but I still ended up in a nursing home.\” The article stated that Mr. Li is 70 years old this year and his wife is 68 years old. Before retirement, Mr. and Mrs. Li were researchers at the Provincial Electronic Research Institute. Mr. Li\’s two sons, one graduated from Renmin University of China and the other graduated from Tsinghua University, and then continued their studies and obtained high academic qualifications. Now, both sons have settled in Beijing and have bought a large house of 150 square meters, which can be said to be a complete success. When they first retired, the old couple often traveled. They even rented a private house in Lijiang. They spent the summer there for three consecutive years, buying and cooking their own food, just like living at home, and living a carefree life. . However, as the health of the old couple became worse and worse, they were both hospitalized due to illness and needed someone to take care of them. Although they were not short of money, it was always difficult to hire a nanny as they wished. Although the two sons both lived in a large house of 150 square meters, they did not take the initiative to invite them to live at home. In the end, the old couple decided to move in. Nursing home. The old couple\’s late life is sad. From them, we seem to see our own future. But rationally speaking, Mr. and Mrs. Li\’s old age is already the most ideal outcome that many people can achieve. When they are healthy, they travel around and enjoy life. When they are no longer able to run, they live in a nursing home and ask for care. All this is due to their relatively well-off economy and the pension they can receive. In fact, not everyone can enjoy such old age. We can make an assumption that if an ordinary peasant couple raises a son who goes to Tsinghua University, and their son also stays in Beijing after graduation, I believe that their later life will be far inferior to that of Mr. and Mrs. Li. If they could also write an article, the title would be \”My son goes to Tsinghua University, but I can\’t even afford to live in a nursing home.\” The media also reported two days ago that a university teacher with a bachelor\’s degree, master\’s degree, and doctorate degree from Tsinghua University had a monthly salary of only 6,000 yuan. Even if other benefits are added, it won\’t be too much. With such an income, even with added value such as a Beijing household registration, it is good enough to enable oneself and the next generation to gain a foothold in Beijing. However, if one wants to give back to the previous generation, it is probably too much to do. To take a step back, even if the income is high enough, it is difficult for modern people to have fun at their parents\’ knees every day due to the pressure of life and the pace of work. For example, Mr. and Mrs. Li, even if they live in their son\’s home in Beijing, they are still \”empty nesters\”. Their children have to rush to work every day and cannot always stay at home with them. If they cannot take care of themselves, they have to hire a nanny to take care of them. If they are sick and hospitalized, they will need to hire a caregiver for a long time. This is a very objective reality. There is really no direct connection between children not being able to go to Tsinghua University and elderly people not being able to live in nursing homes. No matter whether the child goes to Tsinghua University or Peking University, he has no ability to change the fate of a family, let alone solve the current dilemma of providing for the elderly. Deep down in the hearts of Chinese people, there is a traditional home care complex. What the elderly need more is emotional comfort. Because of this, when Mrs. Li was ill and hospitalized and the children appeared at the door of the ward, “At that moment, I really felt emotionally satisfied.However, he felt a little sad, as if he had suffered some great grievance. My wife was crying like a mess. The more the children comforted her, the harder she cried. \”But home care has one of the most basic prerequisites, which is a slow-paced, low-stress life, preferably with more children. For example, in a farming society, it is easier for four generations to live under one roof, and the work of several generations Life is not far from home, and some people even stay at home all the time without going out to work. In this way, as long as financial conditions permit, the elderly can be better supported at home, and they can often see their children and meet their emotional needs. And now , such a life has become increasingly impossible. There are too few children, the pace of work is too fast, and the pressure of life is too great. Even if the elderly have money, they cannot buy their children’s constant companionship. When people reach middle age, when they are with friends , it is inevitable that we often discuss the issue of old age in the future. The unanimous answer everyone got is that we can’t count on children. Generally, there is only one child in the family, and the most is two. And they are likely to have more than one child, and it is impossible to be like us. This generation also has a stable and leisurely job. How can they have the time and ability to take care of us! All we can do is to save more money and exercise well at the same time. When we can take care of ourselves or semi-self-care, we can spend time with our children Keeping a \”bowl of soup distance\” will not cause trouble to each other, but we can see each other often. When we really can\’t take care of ourselves, what financial conditions we have and what kind of nursing home we live in, no matter whether we are willing or not in our hearts, it is The same destination. Really, traditional home care is gradually becoming a thing of the past. Moreover, children not only belong to us, all we can choose is to let go.