My son is an ordinary kid

From childhood to adulthood, my son has been very well-behaved and sensible, and has performed well in all aspects. Many parents who are familiar with him praise him when they mention him. He seems to be an enviable \”other people\’s child\”. He surprised me again and again, and I took it for granted that he was smart and capable, so I unknowingly raised my requirements for him, hoping that he would develop in an all-round way and perform well. When he was in kindergarten, they once held a storytelling competition. First, they selected a few children in the class and the best ones participated in the whole park competition. The son was chosen by the teacher, and he got back a piece of paper with the story he wanted to tell. He was very serious and recited and practiced morning and night, but his speech was not good, mainly because his tone and emotion were not contagious, dull and tasteless, and his movements did not look natural. I gave repeated guidance, but there was still no big change. As a result, he failed and another girl from the class participated in the competition. I\’m a little disappointed. My son has always been very good. Why can\’t he tell a good story? Maybe, I haven\’t practiced enough, I just need to train more. In fact? After all these years, his storytelling is still not vivid enough, and his expressions when hosting a show are not natural enough. I finally figured it out, he is just an ordinary child, he can be nervous, he also has weaknesses, his personality is more reserved and his desire to express is not strong, so he can\’t let go and show his lively and cheerful appearance. Perhaps, in the future, through hard work, he can appear calm and emotional. Perhaps, even though he tried very hard, his performance was still unsatisfactory. As long as he works hard, let the results take their own course, no need to be demanding. Not long after the start of last semester, my son came back to tell me that his class held a debate competition and his team won. Seeing his cheerful look, I said, \”Congratulations! Are you the lead debater?\” \”No, I didn\’t participate.\” He said casually, as if to say, \”I didn\’t eat\” or \”I didn\’t do my homework.\” \”Just as commonplace. When I heard this, I was very angry. As the squad leader, he didn\’t even participate in the debate! I said: \”Why don\’t you actively participate in such a good training opportunity? Are you afraid to speak? Are you afraid that you will say the wrong thing? What is there to be afraid of? It doesn\’t matter if you say the wrong thing. Only after practicing again and again can you make progress. . You are always like this, habitually hiding back instead of rushing forward. This way you will never show your talent.\” He was unhappy: \”I just don\’t like to show off. Who stipulates that I have to show off? I just like to be quiet. Reading and drawing, can\’t you?\” His words left me speechless. After thinking for a long time, I said, \”Well, it\’s my mother\’s fault. I shouldn\’t expect too much from you. You are not omnipotent. Just do whatever you like. Just do whatever you want! But you have to remember, no matter what you do, be brave and don’t be afraid of failure.” No one is omnipotent, aren’t there things we ourselves are not good at? Or maybe he really wanted to participate, but was timid and cowed. This is human nature. It\’s just a small debate. There is still a long road ahead in life. Just let your child\’s development take its course and let him take his time. My son was born left-handed and uses his left hand to eat and write. After many people learn about this situation, they will tell me: \”Your son is left-handed.\”ah? He must be very smart and will be great in the future. \”When my son was young, I was very happy because I had a left-handed child. I even searched online for descriptions of left-handers and imagined what he would be like when he grew up. Will he be particularly talented in certain fields? ? Will he become a scientist? Or an architectural designer? After so many years, except that I found that my son is more interested in painting and has a strong sense of space, there is nothing special about him. His academic performance is acceptable, and it is not that his talent is different from others , mainly because he is very serious in class, has high efficiency, and has a solid grasp of the subject. He does not have a photographic memory, nor is he particularly diligent or careful. On the contrary, he is very sloppy and often writes typos, reads wrong questions, and misses questions. , which makes people speechless. When talking to many parents about their children’s carelessness, they all complained: Yes, yes, it’s the same, I’ve said it dozens of times, but I still can’t change it. It turns out that many children have such a problem .Remembering that when I was a child, I seemed to have carelessness. My child is just an ordinary child, and it is inevitable that he will have various problems. Fortunately, he is self-aware, he also works very hard, and he also hopes that he will become better. It\’s getting better and better. In fact, his shortcomings are getting fewer and fewer, and his advantages are getting more and more, and he is heading towards comprehensive development of morality, intelligence, physical fitness, art and labor. It is natural for people to hope that their sons will succeed and their daughters will succeed. Many parents take advantage of \”all For the all-purpose reason of \”It\’s for your own good\”, we plan the future for our children, make suggestions, and force them to attend various cram schools and learn various skills, regardless of whether the children are interested or willing. Everything has its own laws of development. , the same goes for children\’s development. We should respect, understand, and encourage children, rather than treating them as their own appendages or possessions, thinking \”you are mine, and you have to do whatever I ask you to do.\” Every day When an individual comes into the world, he is independent and should be respected. No one has the right to dictate or interfere arbitrarily. As a parent, neither can. What parents should do is to understand the characteristics of their children, understand their behavior, and guide them towards the future. Develop good aspects, encourage them to overcome difficulties, and make them better and better. No one is perfect, and no one is perfect. No adult is perfect, let alone children who are not fully developed in all aspects. As long as they are human, they are There will be shortcomings, hesitation, and shrinkage. There are very few people with extraordinary talents. Most people have close IQs and are ordinary people. However, why among these thousands of ordinary people, But some people have achieved excellence? In addition to their own efforts, family education and guidance are crucial. So, what should parents do? In the process of children\’s growth, just keep in mind a few key words: respect, understanding, understanding , encouragement, and companionship. If parents do the above points, even if the child is not good enough, he must be physically and mentally healthy and happy. Isn\’t this the biggest expectation of parents for their children?