Never say these words to your children

In a certain corner of life, there is such a phenomenon – parents always care about their children\’s studies and life in every detail, but the children don\’t seem to appreciate it. Instead, they behave in an ordinary way, and even frequently exhibit worrying behaviors. ; But some parents don\’t seem to worry too much about their children, but their children can thrive and even show self-awareness and excellence beyond their age. This makes people wonder why the more careful care is taken, the more likely children are to have problems? A child\’s growth trajectory is not only affected by education and guidance, but also by the emotions and expectations that parents hint to their children during the upbringing process. Xiaohua, a child in fifth grade who was suggested to have negative emotions, was sitting in the classroom, facing the homework assigned by the teacher, and he was always absent-minded. He forgot to bring his textbooks, so he needed his mother to take time out from her busy work to bring them to him; he often forgot the time, so he needed his mother to remind him to complete his homework; when he had conflicts with his classmates, he would only cry and not know how to solve the problem. My mother felt exhausted mentally and physically. She didn\’t understand why Xiaohua was still so uneasy even though she was so diligent. She often thinks: \”If I don\’t keep an eye on him, something will happen to him.\” But in fact, it is her mother\’s excessive care that makes Xiaohua feel that she is a person who is incapable and needs to rely on others. . Parents\’ excessive worries prevent their children from learning to be independent. As Xiaohua grows up, her mother\’s worries do not diminish, but become more serious. She constantly worries about Xiaohua\’s problems, constantly provides him with solutions, and even handles the trivial matters in life on his behalf. However, this excessive worrying did not make Xiaohua more independent and conscious. Instead, it made him more dependent on his mother and even less able to face the challenges in life. Mother\’s excessive worrying actually hints at a negative emotion to Xiaohua – she believes that Xiaohua cannot face life independently. This hint made Xiaohua feel powerless, making it even more difficult to get rid of her dependence on her mother. Breaking the Shadow To break the shadow of this suggestion, parents need to learn to let go and let their children face life\’s challenges on their own. They should believe that their children have the ability to solve problems, and even if their children fail, they should give them encouragement and support rather than blame and disgust. At the same time, parents also need to adjust their mentality and not worry too much about their children\’s future. They should understand that every child has his own unique growth trajectory and needs patient guidance and companionship from his parents. Only in this way can a child become a confident, independent, and responsible person.