No matter how exhausted you are, you can’t raise these 4 types of happy families

Many parents have always said that their children are introverted, taciturn, and never see a smiling face all day long. But these parents never thought that all children\’s performance is inseparable from their parents\’ education. The following will list several types of \”unqualified\” parents. These types of parents will find it difficult to raise happy children, especially the second type, so change quickly! Raising Boys Collector\’s Edition PDF download [On the bestseller list for 15 consecutive years] Families that often quarrel. Do you know what children who live in quarrels for a long time will look like when they grow up? Are parents\’ quarrels really just about the parents? Many parents think that quarrels are a matter between adults, but families that often quarrel will not have happy children. Children are very sensitive to emotions, and a long-term depressed and tense life is very detrimental to a child\’s growth. When the two people closest to them are at odds with each other, the child will feel that the safe haven he thought was the safest no longer exists. If children muster up the courage to persuade their parents but to no avail, they will feel frustrated, helpless, and unappreciated, and may even begin to pessimistically believe that life is meaningless. If children live in a disharmonious family for a long time, in addition to a significant increase in aggression, the child\’s emotional and personality development will be distorted, and the child will become emotionally indifferent, lack trust in others, be mean, picky, and have a bad temper. Or they may be introverted, depressed, easily withdrawn, and lose interest in external things. Children who grow up like this can easily go astray. If you don\’t know how to speak well, family language is emotional. Every word you say may bring warmth to others, but it may also bring harm. Typical Chinese parents rarely give their children praise and recognition. Teasing, sarcasm, and hitting are their usual methods of educating their children. This kind of education method has a special term called \”percussive education\”! Common sayings are as follows: Look at how sensible so and so is. As for you, I will burn incense for one tenth of the price! As long as you still want to do XX, forget it. I think you are only three minutes hot. If you can\’t do such a simple thing well, what use are you? You\’re simply stupider than a pig. …Behind these blows, there are hidden the tears secretly shed by many people when they were young. Download the PDF version of Raising Girls e-book [on the bestseller list for 15 consecutive years] There is a saying that goes well: The impact of a blow from parents is not limited to the immediate moment, it runs through the years and pierces their children as deeply as a needle. heart. In a family where the wife has not been respected for a long time, the relationship between husband and wife is always greater than all relationships, including the relationship between parents and children. The foundation of a good relationship between husband and wife is respect. Therefore, whether a husband respects his wife will make a big difference in the children he raises. Without a good relationship between husband and wife, there is no hope of having a good parent-child relationship. This is almost an iron law. I used to have a neighbor whose husband often beat and scolded his wife in front of the children. As a result, sometimes because of a trivial matter, the child would scold his mother in the same tone as his father: \”I think you are a bitch! If my father doesn\’t beat you for two days, you It won’t stop.” This is simply rebellious. It turns out that his kid is a well-known bastard in our neighborhood, loves to fight, is arrogant, and even his dad can\’t control him… Not long ago, I heard that my cousinHer husband actually violently abused her! He usually curses at every turn. According to my cousin, every time she goes to her husband\’s house, she will see her father-in-law yelling at her mother-in-law. The scene is very similar to what her husband did to her. Aren\’t these what we often talk about, the influence of the original family on the children? Moreover, studies have found that children whose husbands often scold and insult their wives often have poor interpersonal relationships as adults and are withdrawn and indifferent. The children of those husbands who beat their wives like to talk dirty and fight in groups during school. It is not difficult to see from the above examples that when a husband does not take his wife seriously and the wife has no status in the family, the children will not have a mother\’s image in their eyes, and the mother\’s education of the children will naturally not be effective. When a child makes a mistake, any mother\’s teachings to him will be ignored or even despised by the child: Dad said you are too stupid, I don\’t want to listen to you. Over time, the child will stop listening to anyone. Children\’s EQ training + Explosive learning ability + The power of good habits + Thinking ability training series of parenting courses [Audio + PDF + Materials] Families that cannot live without mobile phones When your children are doing homework, you are playing with your mobile phone; when your children are reading, You are scrolling through Moments; when your children want you to accompany them, you are reading Weibo… In this smart information age, people are indeed inseparable from their mobile phones, but they are far from the point where they cannot live without their mobile phones. . Do you think being with your children is called \”accompanying\”? Do you think it’s correct to use your mobile phone to search for answers for your children? Not really! What your child needs is not \”pretend\” help. Even if you calm down and stay with your child for 30 minutes, it will be more useful than spending 2 hours with your child on your mobile phone. You can play with your mobile phone anytime. It can\’t walk or run, but children are different. Cooperative Parenting: The Importance of Parent-Child Communication and Parent-Child Education PDF download Time passes in a blink of an eye. When your children need you, you choose to accompany them with your mobile phone. This will miss their growth story and make their feelings weaker. There will be no chance for the parent-child relationship to become closer. Moreover, children have strong imitation abilities. When their parents are concentrating on playing with their mobile phones, they will also imitate them. So when the children became obsessed with mobile phones, they discovered that mobile phones turned out to be \”harmful\”.