No matter how young a child is, he deserves the same respect as an adult

Many people say how wonderful it is to be a child, with everything to eat and drink, not busy or tired, and no worries. However, there are actually a lot of worries about being a child, do you know? As a child, you cannot choose your parents or where you are born. Even if your family is well off, you still have to endure a lot of hardship when you encounter parents who don\’t understand you. Especially in childhood, material things cannot bring much happiness to children. Far less than the time spent with your parents, the attention in their eyes, and the attitude of respect that makes you feel happy. Being a kid can be hard sometimes. Especially when your own feelings are ignored. I still remember a friend saying, \”In the eyes of my parents, I never feel the same. They have the final say in everything. My mother\’s catchphrase is \”How do you feel when you are so young?\” \”Then I would throw the clothes over, or pour big bowls of soup into my rice bowl. So now I feel sick when I see someone making soup and rice. Whenever I see a mother holding clothes, I hear in my ears: \”Put it on quickly\” Clothes, it’s cold! In fact, I’m not cold at all, but I like the cool comfort.” Now she is a mother herself. I know how difficult it is to be a mother, and I also understand my mother’s good intentions. Looking at the little baby in front of me, I told myself no. Although I was anxious, I wouldn\’t force him to do it. When you think of yourself as a child, you will think more about how your children are feeling at the moment. Because no matter how young a child is, they should be respected like adults. Especially since they have their own feelings, we cannot take them away. Tell me something very interesting. After dinner, we talked about love, and mentioned that my cousin said she didn’t want to go on a blind date and was looking forward to true love. Unexpectedly, the little guy suddenly said to me mysteriously: \”Dad, I have a secret. I didn\’t want to tell you at first, but I decided to tell you.\” \”What secret? So serious!\” I replied jokingly. After a few seconds of hesitation, we expected him to speak quickly. \”Actually, I\’m in love too!\” When my mother and I heard this, our jaws almost dropped. Then we looked at each other and smiled, and continued to ask him. \”Then who are you in love with?\” \”I\’m not in love with anyone, but I just feel like I\’m in love!\” Oh my God! There is still feeling. \”So what does your love feel like?\” After thinking for a while, he said: \”It\’s an uncomfortable feeling, but it feels good at the same time.\” (Could it be unrequited love? It\’s really an accurate description. .) This is his understanding of love. It doesn’t need a partner, it’s just a feeling imagined by oneself. In fact, as long as you are good at listening and observing, you will find that children have very rich feelings. And their feelings are always different from those of us adults. But this is the real them. This is also the process of their mental growth. Many times, we blame our children for always making demands that seem to be unsatisfied. In fact, as long as you give your children enough respect, they will become more self-disciplined. Because when you truly respect your child\’s needs and feel his true feelings. Children will not be so eager to ask for help, nor will they find some rebellious behavior to fight for their own rights or gain attention. Therefore, you can say no to your child\’s willfulness, but you have to say yes to his feelings. When facing a child\’s needs, we must first make a rough distinction between his needs. For example, it is reasonableneeds, as well as willful needs. What needs are reasonable. We can think about it from a child’s perspective. For example, if they long for a hug from their parents, give them a good hug. Some mothers even told me that it was not good for their son to be hugged often because he was too clingy to his mother. If the child has to be held by the mother because it doesn’t want to walk, she can certainly refuse. But if the child needs a hug at certain moments, such as before going to bed or waking up, why not give it? There are also children who want their parents to play with them, so remember to accompany them and satisfy them. Don’t always neglect your children because you are working or busy looking at your phone. There are also things that children cannot do, such as filling a large kettle with a glass of water or hooking up the shower nozzle. If they raise demands for things that cannot be done, then help the children in time and satisfy them. As for willful needs, different children will behave differently. Parents can probably tell the difference. For example, if your child asks to eat three or four popsicles at a time, do you think you should take his feelings into consideration and be satisfied? No, this is just to satisfy the child\’s willful needs. Of course, some people will ask, isn’t it said that children’s feelings should be respected? This is true, but another important thing for parents is to help their children develop good habits, while guiding them and correcting inappropriate behaviors. For example, a child says he is too tired from studying and wants to take leave from school. Can this feeling be satisfied? If the child refuses to go to school simply because he is afraid of being tired, then if the parents continue to tolerate it, the child\’s future will definitely be worrying. So, love or doting? See if you are standing on the basis of respect. When you respect your child as an independent individual, you will not try to control him or do everything for you. Moreover, children experience the feeling of being respected when they are young, and when they grow up, they know how to respect others and defend their own dignity. The little prince said that every adult was once a child, but we have forgotten that we were all children once, but some people have forgotten. Did you get enough respect from yourself in the past? Everyone has a different answer, and the answer is closely related to the family in which they grew up. Parker said in \”The Road Less Traveled\”, \”Some parents do not respect the independent personality of their children and only regard their children as extensions of themselves. Children are like expensive clothes, beautiful jewelry, neatly trimmed lawns, and freshly wiped lawns. Like cars, it represents their social status and living standard.\” Indeed, there are many such parents who point fingers at their children and don\’t care about their children\’s feelings, but only care about their own face. Treat your children as your own works and compare them. How do parents respect their children? The poet Gibran gave us an answer. Your children are actually not your children. They are the children born of life\’s desire for itself. They came to this world through you, but not because of you. They are by your side, but they do not belong to you. What you can give them is your love, but not your thoughts, because they have their own thoughts. What you can protect is their bodies, but not their souls, because their souls belong to tomorrow, which belongs to a tomorrow that you cannot reach in your dreams. You canTry your best to be like them, but don\’t let them become like you, because life will not go back, nor will it stay in the past. You are the bow, and your children are the arrows that shoot out from you. The archer looks at the target on the road to the future, and he uses all his strength to pull you away so that his arrow can shoot fast and far. Bend it with joy in the hands of the archer, for he loves the arrow in flight and the bow with unparalleled stability. No matter how young a child is, he is an individual with an independent personality and needs to be respected. You should be respected like an adult.