Note, don’t criticize your children here. No matter how angry you are, you have to endure it.

At 4:30 on Saturday afternoon, I went to pick up my son from the training class. Soon, children from one class to another came over under the leadership of the teacher. I stretched my head here and looked, looking for my son’s class team. Suddenly, I heard a particularly sharp woman\’s voice coming from next to me: \”Why are you so ignorant? You get such a small score on such a simple test paper? What\’s the point of raising you?\” This series of scoldings successfully It attracted the attention of all parents picking up their children. I also turned around and saw the scolded boy at a glance. The boy held his head high, tears welling up in his eyes, but I saw more anger in these eyes. If this anger could kill people, I felt that the boy\’s anger had killed his mother who scolded him thousands of times. The parents who were watching were talking a lot. Most of them were asking why this woman criticized her children in front of so many people. Isn’t it too late to take care of the children after returning home? I could tell from the boy\’s expression that the shame of being criticized by others had already exceeded the shame he should have felt for not doing well in the exam. Children in elementary school already know self-esteem. I think they don’t want to be scolded by their mother in front of everyone, right? As for this angry mother, she continued to curse while holding her son\’s ears, and walked away with her child. I don’t know if this mother’s approach can make the boy realize the importance of learning. I only know that his experience of being laughed at in public will leave a deep mark on his soul. We all know that parents are the first guardians of their children and are responsible for raising and educating their children, but many parents do not know the correct way to educate their children. When children have problems, they should criticize education, but not criticize education in front of outsiders. This will only be counterproductive. Our ancestors once summed up the \”seven things not to blame\” when raising children. The first one is \”not to blame in public\”, which means don\’t criticize your children in front of everyone. Don\’t think that children are young, no matter how young they are, they have self-esteem. Even if the child makes a mistake, you cannot teach the child a lesson in public. Because you teach your child in front of others, what the child thinks about is not that he has made any mistakes, but that he has been embarrassed and lost face. Therefore, when a child makes a mistake, even when the child makes a mistake in front of everyone, you have to find a suitable time and place to teach the child a lesson. Some time ago, the news that Britain\’s little Prince George was criticized by his mother for stepping on his aunt\’s wedding dress made everyone see how cute the aggrieved little prince is. However, I noticed that Princess Kate did not criticize George in front of so many people. Instead, she took her son to a corner and began to point out his mistakes. This is the wisdom of Princess Kate. When children make mistakes, they should be criticized and educated, but they should not be educated in front of everyone. This is to protect the child\’s self-esteem. Even Princess Charlotte was laughing when she saw her brother being criticized, but was criticized a few times by Princess Kate. Some people say that Princess Kate is making a fuss out of a molehill, but I think what the princess did is great. It not only gives the child face, but also tells the child what should be done. Even if the child is young, he should understand the truth. Once during the festival,A dozen of our family members went to a restaurant for dinner. My son and his cousin, who was three years older than him, were very excited. The two of them started running around in the private room from the moment they met. I saw that the tables and chairs in the private room were too densely arranged, so I asked my son to sit at the dining table and not to run around casually. It would be bad if he stumbled. At that time, my son was just over five years old, and he was at a very naughty and mischievous period. It took a lot of effort to coax him to sit at the dining table and eat something. But his cousin over there didn\’t eat anything and was already running around the room. Of course, the son couldn\’t sit still and said he wanted to play with his cousin. I asked him if he could stop running and jumping around and play quietly? In order to get me to agree to play, the kid nodded in a hurry and promised not to run around. But, can you trust a five-year-old child? The facts tell us, no. My son and his cousin didn\’t say a few words before they started running after each other, shouting loudly as they ran. The two voices completely drowned out the adult\’s speech. I quickly stood up, called my son to stop, and asked him why he didn\’t fulfill his promise to his mother. My son was completely excited at the moment. He looked at his cousin and didn\’t listen to my words at all. If I hadn\’t pulled him, he would probably have started running again. Looking at his situation, I guessed that it would be difficult to calm down for a while, so I picked him up and walked out of the private room, went to an empty room next door, and put my son down. My son stood in front of me. I looked at him. Now he finally calmed down. I asked him if he could run away. The son thought for a while and said, \”Yes!\” I said, \”Okay, mom believes in you. Let\’s go back now. If you run away again, mom will beat you. Do you hear me?\” The son nodded to show that he heard it. Later, my son and I returned to the private room, and he was able to stop running. He sat with his cousin and talked about cartoons. Even though his cousin couldn\’t sit still and started running again, my son could restrain himself and not run after him. . I gave my son a thumbs up and praised him for doing a great job. My son was also very happy. Just imagine, if I criticized my son for running around in front of so many relatives and friends, not only would my son not listen, but everyone would probably advise me to forget it. Not criticizing your child in front of everyone not only protects your child\’s self-esteem, but also prevents your education from being interfered by others. So, when we criticize our children, what should we do in the best way to educate them? First of all, when a child makes a mistake, remind the child to pay attention. We realize that when children make mistakes, they are usually not excessive. Parents should first remind their children that what they did was wrong and not do it again. Just like I told my son in advance that it would be dangerous not to run around, this is to give the child a psychological expectation and let the child know that it is not correct to do so. Secondly, if a child cannot listen to the advice of his parents, he must be taken to a place where no one is around for education. The reason why children are children is because many times they know that their behavior is wrong, but they can\’t control themselves and still do things that adults prohibit. At this time, parents should take action to educate their children, but they must not do it in front of everyone, but find a place where no other people are present according to local conditions. Because at this time, there are only two of you and your child. If you educate your child, your child will listen to you carefully.Only then will you reflect on your mistakes. Third, discuss the matter on a case-by-case basis and point out the child\’s specific mistakes without elevating it to moral evaluation. When educating their children, many parents will magnify their children\’s small mistakes into moral issues, which will actually make their children unconvinced. For example, I criticize children that they should not run around because it is dangerous. If I say that running around means he has ADHD or that his brain is broken, the child will definitely not be willing to accept it. If the child\’s behavior is wrong, we should clearly point it out and tell the child how to correct it. This is the best way to educate the child. Everyone has self-esteem, and parents should pay more attention to protecting their children\’s self-esteem from an early age. Criticize when it\’s time to criticize, but you need to pay attention to the occasion and content of criticizing your children. Because when we educate our children, we want them to become better, not to trample on their self-esteem. I hope that our children can receive the wise education of their parents and grow into better people. We also hope that we, as parents, will accompany our children in their growth process and learn along the way.