On the dining table at home, children’s future is hidden

After dinner yesterday, my son wanted to go play with his classmate Xiaojie. Although we live in the same community, it was dark and it was raining lightly outside. I was worried about it, so I went to Xiaojie\’s house with my son. Knocking on the door, Aunt Zhang, who cooks at his house, came out. When she saw us, she smiled and shouted inside: \”Xiaojie, your classmate is here.\” Xiaojie jumped out, grabbed my son, and we The little guy kept chattering. Aunt Zhang was clearing away the dishes at the dining table. I glanced at it and saw that there was a lot of food left. A plate of stir-fried shrimps was almost untouched, so I asked, \”Are you just the two of us?\” Aunt Zhang said, \”No, Xiaojie\’s parents are having dinner tonight. There was a lot of entertainment, and I had promised to go home to eat today. Xiaojie was looking forward to it, but at the end of the day, he called back and said something happened again. \”I know Xiaojie\’s parents. They opened their own company, and the business is good, but the social life a lot of. Just as I was thinking about it, Xiaojie stood in front of me at some point and said, \”My parents haven\’t had dinner with me for a long time.\” The aggrieved look on his face was really heartbreaking. What important thing prevents parents from having dinner with their children? I couldn\’t spend time with my children, so I paid for a nanny. Little did I know that although the nanny could cook sumptuous meals, she couldn\’t give her the love and companionship that my parents should give me. \”Parents who are busy working will always neglect their children. Why not treat being a parent as a job?\” I completely agree with what Tian Liang said. If you leave a little child in an empty home, will he eat well? Many children will sit in front of the TV with their rice bowls in their hands because they are not being supervised, and they will eat everything in their mouths without knowing the taste. From a nutritional perspective, this is definitely not a good thing. Even if he is really sensible, he will naturally feel lost when he is alone at the dinner table. Children need not only three meals a day in life, but also spiritual companionship. The loneliness and desolation experienced by empty-nest children is even more severe than that of empty-nest elders. The child of a relative in our family is very good at studies and is also very sensible and polite. For the sake of my son, I once went to seek advice. My relative laughed and said, \”We all raise children the same way, so what\’s the secret?\” It wasn\’t until he asked me to have dinner with him that I discovered something was different. First of all, the dining table is very clean and tidy, and the tableware is all matching. Even an ordinary cold dish, my mother arranges it carefully, making it look like a work of art. During the meal, we don’t chat about anything nutritious. Most of the time we talk about what’s new in our children’s school or the latest hot news, and everyone exchanges opinions together. The humorous father likes to tell jokes, and the mother is responsible for adding food and soup to everyone, always smiling. Although the dishes are simple, everyone eats them in a happy mood. A relative\’s child secretly told me: \”The dinner time is only twenty minutes, but it is my favorite twenty minutes of the day.\” Having dinner with your children is a ritual in a family\’s daily life, and it is something worth paying attention to. thing. Most of our families now leave early in the morning and return home late in the evening, and have lunch at work at noon. It happens to be dinner time when the family meets. Don’t underestimate this time. I think if you make good use of it, your children can learn a lot. There is a scene in \”Where Are We Going, Dad\”? Once dinner was late and the children were all hungry. As soon as the food was served, they didn\’t care.Gu Di started chewing. Guo Tao\’s son Shitou told his father, \”I want to serve some rice to the village chief.\” After serving the rice, he held it in both hands and handed it to the village chief Li Rui: \”Uncle, give it to you.\” Li Rui, who had been busy all day, said, \”Uncle, he was in tears.\” This warm little detail reflects that Shitou has a good upbringing, respects his elders when eating, and knows how to share. Guo Tao once responded with a smile: \”This is how our family eats dinner.\” I found that there are many children who do not understand table manners and shout when dining out. Before the elders have sat down, the children have climbed on the table to reach themselves. If you want to eat a dish, you pick and choose it on the plate, even taste it and then throw it back into the dish. Children\’s literacy is a reflection of their parents\’ education. Good habits are not developed in a day. When eating at home, children should be educated to be polite, understand what is wrong, and know how to advance and retreat. A small dining table allows parents and children to sit together, forming a more private small space without outsiders. There is no interference, and there is no external interference. In terms of communication, we have the best time and place. Parents pass on correct values. Children eat not only some food, but also life experience and wisdom. Smart parents are good at creating a good family atmosphere during dinner. My nephew Xiaolei said: \”I\’m really afraid that my parents will have dinner with me, especially my mother. She will nag and scold me as soon as we eat. After a meal, my head will feel big.\” His words made me feel uncomfortable. I couldn\’t help but laugh. Xiao Lei had just entered junior high school, and my sister-in-law was most worried about his studies. She usually talked about \”other people\’s children\” and couldn\’t control her bad temper. She often turned the dinner time into Xiao Lei\’s. Criticism meetings and ideological education classes. It\’s not enough to miss your child\’s dinner, but releasing negative emotions during dinner makes this beautiful moment even worse. Table education should not be opened in a critical manner. When I have dinner with my son, I don\’t ask him how he did on the exam today or whether he made any mistakes in school. If he does well in the exam, I will definitely take the initiative to tell him. Even if he does not do well in the exam, I will not criticize him during the meal and affect his mood during the meal. I also don’t bring my work emotions to the dinner table. Dinner time belongs to the family. We talk about today’s dishes, the latest news, choose some relaxed topics, and create a happy atmosphere. As long as we put some thought into it, an ordinary dinner can be interesting and emotional. The talented girl Wu Yishu in \”Chinese Poetry Conference\” has a bookish dining table at her house, and her mother often gives poetic names to common vegetables. Stir-fried shredded pork with green peppers is \”green fat, red and thin\”, and a bowl of stewed tofu is \”white clouds disappear\”. These table games made Wu Yishu more fond of traditional culture. I like to ask my son to help me when cooking, choosing vegetable leaves, peeling garlic cloves, and letting my son accompany me to arrange the table and arrange the dishes carefully. He was happy to participate and looked forward to the evening meal. Delicious food paired with a good mood can create a warm night. Correct dinner companionship is a high-quality family education and the transmission of love. I hope that no matter how busy parents are, they should take one day a week to have dinner with their children. Don’t wait until the children grow up and regret looking at the empty dining table. This small dining table can not only serve delicious meals, but alsoLoaded with the education of love and the tenderness of the years.