On the road to education, parents should not be lazy, and children should not be lethargic.

On the road of education, strictness is love, looseness is harm. There is a question on Zhihu: What kind of people do children who grow up in free-range families eventually become? It seems that I grew up unfettered in the free environment given by my parents, but in fact I feel extremely insecure inside. Many parents use the name of \”being good for their children\” to allow their children more room to grow freely, but in fact they are avoiding participating in their children\’s growth process and covering up the fact that they cannot raise children in the name of free rein. Cecilia Cheung once revealed on the show that she adopts a free-range education method for her two children, and will not restrict their children\’s behavior, let alone prevent them from being themselves. But a phone call exposed many problems. Due to work reasons, Cecilia Cheung hoped that her children could transfer to stay with her, so she called her two sons to ask for their opinions. It happened that both children were playing games, and she became impatient without saying a few words and hung up the phone. Cecilia Cheung also said that her two children are addicted to games and their academic performance is not ideal, and she is also very afraid of her sons. If this is the result of free-range education, then it is undoubtedly the biggest failure. Freezing does not mean letting go, nor does it mean indulgence. Children grow up like saplings. Proper pruning is essential. Only in this way can they grow into towering trees. If it is allowed to grow wildly without rules and bottom lines, nothing will be achieved in the end, which is contrary to the ultimate educational purpose of parents. There is a saying that goes well: Just letting children go without raising them is the biggest irresponsibility of parents towards their children. When the day comes when the children find that their abilities are not enough to support them in striving for a better future and they always miss opportunities in life, they will blame their parents: Why didn\’t they force themselves in the first place? You must know that on the road of education, strictness is love, and laxity is harm. Parents\’ strict discipline on their children is actually responsible for their children\’s future. What seems to be loose indulgence and indulgence is actually the easiest way to plant hidden dangers for children\’s growth. Only if parents are stricter will their children\’s future be easier. Don\’t expect your children to be consciously happy in education. Nowadays, education is popular. I believe this sentence is familiar to many parents: \”Every child is the seed of a flower, but everyone\’s flowering period is different. Some flowers, at the beginning, \”It will bloom brilliantly, and some flowers require a long wait.\” \”Waiting for the flowers to bloom\” has become an education method recommended by many parents. \”Happy education\” has become an excuse for parents to let their children go. It is true that parents have good intentions, but the wrong approach will ultimately run counter to the original intention. Liu Huan once talked about her daughter\’s education in an interview, and she was full of regrets. \”My wife and I believe that we should educate our children on happiness from an early age and not force them to do things they don\’t like, so we have never forced her to learn these things. Now I feel a little regretful.\” Because of pursuing happiness education, we lost the ability to educate our daughter. The best time, even if the child has musical talent, is wasted because he did not push it in time. In fact, many parents are like this. They pursue happy education, but in the end they only give their children \”happiness\” and lose \”education\”. When children are still young, giving them too much freedom is irresponsible in a sense. If you expect your children to be conscious, it is basically impossibleAffection. Everyone is lazy. Even adults have a hard time controlling themselves and being self-disciplined, let alone children. Faced with countless temptations in reality, how do children know what self-discipline is? We must understand that conscious children must be the result of parental supervision in the early stage. Only when self-discipline and consciousness form a habit can \”free-range\” achieve the purpose of \”happy education\”. Leaving things alone and expecting children to be self-conscious is the biggest misunderstanding parents have about education. Teachers teach, but parents must educate people. I believe many parents have said similar words: Teacher, the children will be left to you; Teacher, the children will only listen to what you say, and nothing we say will work; Teacher, my children He\’s too naughty, so you should take good care of him; if he doesn\’t know how to do this, how did the teacher teach him? …Parents send their children to school, hoping that teachers can better discipline their children. This feeling is understandable. But don’t rely too much on the teacher. The teacher cannot take care of all the children in the class, nor can he take care of everything for the children. Education is not just the responsibility of school teachers, they cannot be responsible for all the growth of children on their own. Parental involvement is also very critical, because teachers cannot create good habits and conduct for children, nor can they effectively cultivate children\’s will and inner strength, and ultimately cannot give them long-term happiness. So please don’t think of school as the only place to solve all your children’s problems, and don’t think of teachers as the omnipotent ones who can solve all problems. Yu Minhong once said: \”The family is a copy machine, the parents are the originals, and the children are the copies. If there is a problem with the copy, then we must go back to the original to find the problem.\” To teach a child well is by no means the responsibility of the teacher alone. There is a \”5+2\” theory in the education industry: The \”5+2\” theory believes that if 5 days of school education achieves results, but 2 days of home education does not keep up, then the child\’s education will stagnate or even change. Worse. “5+2=0” emphasizes the importance of balanced home-school cooperation. It also shows that if a child wants to achieve success, it is often not possible to rely solely on the efforts of teachers and schools. Successful education is inseparable from the joint efforts of teachers and parents. At the same time, every step of a child\’s growth requires the participation of parents. It is said that parents are their children\’s first teachers and family is their children\’s first school. Teachers teach and parents educate. The two complement each other to educate excellent children! If parents let go and their children\’s future depends only on their teachers, and there is a lack of \”nurturing\” in the education process, how can they raise outstanding children? Li Ka-shing once said: No matter how successful a parent’s career is, the lack of education for their children is the biggest failure and will not be made up for. Parents, please keep in mind: Excellent children cannot do without their parents\’ attention and companionship. Educating children well is the most successful career for parents in their lives.