Once parents become enlightened, their children will become dark horses

Because of the characteristics of my profession, I come into contact with more parents and children, and because I am a teacher at an off-campus training institution, it is easier for me to see the \”true face\” of parents. Many parents have few opportunities and are relatively reserved in their performance in front of public school teachers. According to my findings, most parents are ignorant when educating their children. It can also be said that those parents who are enlightened have cultivated excellent children. Give a few examples around you, don’t stick to them. My daughter’s classmates and parents are the ones I have the most contact with. From elementary school classmates to current junior high school classmates, every time a parent comes to me and Lao Li, we will give unreserved advice. But I really found that these parents who came to ask about learning methods and education methods were really just like \”weighing weights in a pickle jar, and the oil and salt are not allowed to enter.\” Of course, this kind of \”oil and salt is not allowed to enter\”. Of course, I couldn\’t see this at the time, so I nodded and smiled. After agreeing, or applauding and agreeing repeatedly, there will be no after. For example, when I consulted on calligraphy practice, I was asked, \”Can I write the calligraphy like your daughter\’s?\” I was speechless and replied, \”To be honest, it\’s very difficult.\” More parents asked the question \”Can I practice it well?\” Most common. When you do something, don\’t make a wish, just do it in a down-to-earth manner. This is the logic behind doing something. Don\’t you practice if you can\’t practice well? What is the best level of practice? Just like studying, will you stop studying if you don\’t get first place in the exam? No matter how difficult the consultation is, I will reply, but Lao Li is different. One parent consulted three times. The distance was long and time was tight. In the end, Lao Li simply stopped replying to the message. It must not be that you persist only when you get results, but that persistence always comes before the results. Many times, when something does not achieve the expected results, it is not a problem of ability, but of hesitation and lack of determination in your heart. So, if you are sure about something, don\’t worry about the result. Let your heart be filled with determination and hard work instead of wandering. Remember, do it firmly. Once parents have this trait, the children will learn it invisibly, and it will become a weapon for their growth. Secondly, the characteristic of being unenlightened is self-righteousness. What I hate the most is those who don\’t make progress themselves, but dictate to their children to do this or that, as if they know a lot or are experts. It turns out that there are parents in the old school district who always say the same thing every week when they meet with the teacher: \”My child\’s calligraphy practice is ineffective, his writing is too bad!\” \”I feel like I can\’t use this reading comprehension skill at all, and I still get points deducted on the exam. . \”Teachers are frightened whenever they see such parents. Later, I told my parents: \”I can\’t write well. Did you practice with me?\” Parents: \”Yes, I did. I sat next to him when he was doing his calligraphy homework.\” Is that called accompanying? I would like you to write the same assignment in the same notebook. Try it out and see if it is easy to write a word well? \”When she heard what I said, she fell silent. People who have not been here will not listen to the words of a person who has been there. In the same way, an adult\’s request may not be suitable for a child who has just held a pen. You see, parents\’ Efficient companionship is about growing together, and then borrowing more experiences to share and influence the child\’s thinking, so that the mind can produce benign actions and then become excellent, rather than commanding a child to do certain actions and mechanically piecing together the parents.desired result. This kind of mechanical movement can be done by children at a younger age, but when your growth cannot keep up with the speed of your children\’s growth, it gradually becomes a kind of restriction. Also, there must be such a concept in cognition: any course must accept a \”process\”. Let me digress first. This is why I object to parents and students watching short videos. You will find that a person\’s brain is used to it.\” \”Fast-paced rewards\”, we can no longer accept \”slow process\”. And this kind of \”stifling\” of the brain day after day when you are unprepared is very scary. Why do you have to accept the slow process when enrolling in any course? Because everything on earth is like this, from a flower or a tree to the growth of a person or the development of a country, all of them are inseparable from the slow process. What you can have quickly, others can too. In this way, in my eyes, there are several manifestations of enlightened parents: first, they are determined, second, they love learning, and finally, they accept the law of slowness. Not much else to say, if these three points are achieved, the child will not only be a dark horse, but also a dark horse from a thousand miles away.