Only after passing the 985 exam did I dare to say: There are three types of friendships in high school that are untouchable, and any one of them can ruin a child.

Friendship is the most indispensable emotion in life, and true friendship can benefit people for life. Especially for adolescent children, friendship is of extremely important significance. 01 Friendship has special significance to adolescent children. Adolescent children gradually establish their self-awareness and become more and more independent. But this kind of independence is not only psychological, but also physical. Dudu’s mother always complains that her daughter is only in the second grade of junior high school. She shouts words like “this is my privacy” and “you have no right to interfere with my freedom” every day. She slams the door as soon as she enters the room after school. I don’t know what I’m doing in there, I can’t even shout when I’m eating, and I’m still clamoring to lose weight from time to time. I’m as thin as a bamboo pole, and I don’t know where I’m “fat”… These are all okay, acceptable, and most satisfying. What makes me speechless is that she can\’t say a bad word about her friends at all, even though she often complains about her friends doing this and that to her. As a mother, I want to guide her to view the relationship with her friends correctly. She said, \”Only state officials are allowed to set fires, and ordinary people are not allowed to light lamps.\” As soon as Dudu\’s mother said that her friends should not do this, Dudu would immediately jump up. Resenting her mother… made Dudu\’s mother exhausted mentally and physically. She was afraid that her daughter would suffer on the road of friendship, but she had no good way to help her daughter see her friends correctly. For adolescent children, friendship is indeed an indispensable existence in life and is of great significance to their lives. First, friendship is an important source of emotional support. In this adolescent stage of rapid physical and mental changes, full of confusion and challenges, the understanding, care and encouragement among friends can help them relieve their inner stress and anxiety, make them feel accepted and recognized, thereby enhancing their sense of self-worth and self-confidence. . Secondly, friendship helps expand adolescent children’s social skills. By spending time with and interacting with friends, adolescent children learn how to communicate, cooperate, compromise, and resolve conflicts, skills that are critical to their future interpersonal development. Friendship also provides space for children’s self-exploration and growth. Communication and mutual influence among friends can prompt children to think more deeply about their own values, hobbies, and life goals, thereby gradually forming an independent personality and self-awareness. In addition, friendship is also an important way for adolescent children to establish a sense of belonging. In a group with friends, they can feel that they are part of it and are no longer alone. This sense of belonging can bring them a sense of security and psychological stability. 02 During high school, don’t touch the three kinds of friendships. Friendship is very important for adolescent children. Good friendships can make children successful, but bad friendships can destroy children’s lives, especially for high school students. . My nephew, who had received the notice from the prestigious 985 school, accidentally talked to his sister about the friendship between high school students when they were having dinner together. He said: \”The friendship between you girls is really incomprehensible, but there are three kinds of friendship. You\’d better not touch them, otherwise it will ruin not only your high school life, but also your whole life.\” Dabao originally We wanted to refute the first half of his sentence, but in the end we were attracted by the second half. We all couldn\’t help but want to know which three kinds of friendship are untouchable. The first kind of friendship is profitUse friendship as a friend who asks a lot of you. This kind of friendship is more likely to happen in the first year of high school. The other person may be more social and can see that you are more introverted, don\’t like to talk much, and cherish friendship. Such a friend will use friendship to carry out various kidnappings. For example, if you want to study well in the classroom, he will let you play with him. At first, you may think \”it doesn\’t matter if you play for a while\”, but in this way If something happens for the first time, it will happen countless times. Over time, you will waste a lot of study time. Sometimes, he will also name you with various nicknames to make you feel important to him. Although I really disliked some of his ways, I couldn\’t say it out loud, so I followed him unknowingly, and three years of my time were wasted. I feel like I have a good friend but I feel a lot of unspeakable discomfort. The second type is American-style friends. As the name suggests, they are friends who are better than yourself in all aspects of academic performance. Such friends will give you all kinds of help in the beginning, especially in studies. But if one day your results are close to his or about to surpass his, he may suddenly stop talking to you and treat you coldly. At first, you may think that he is going to study hard, but slowly you will find that he is playing with classmates who are much worse than him. You will start to feel internal, wondering if you have done something wrong, or if you have said or done something that offended him. This kind of internal friction is enough to destroy all the energy of an adolescent child and even lead to depression. The third type is a friend who treats you like a tree hole but does not provide you with any emotional value. In the beginning, this kind of friend will make you feel that you are very important, so you are willing to spend a lot of time comforting her and helping her. It seems that the friendship between you is indestructible. But when you feel depressed and want to talk, she will be very perfunctory and say things like, \”Oh, what do you have? You\’re not as good as one-third of me.\” You should also stay away from such friends, because you will not get any help. On the contrary, they will consume your energy and double your pain. Friendship is indeed indispensable in life, especially the friendship of high school students, but these three kinds of friendship are not worth killing. 02 Treat the friendship of high school students correctly In this world, no one is an island, and the same is true for children. After all, their understanding of the world is still very weak and not deep enough, and they are more likely to hit the rocks in the ocean of friendship. So how to guide children to correctly face friendships in high school? 1. Observe the behavior of classmates around you. Encourage children not to rush to give and affirm a new classmate. Be sure to observe the behavior of friends in different situations, such as whether they are honest and trustworthy in daily life and study, and respect teachers and classmates around them; When you encounter difficulties, do your friends actively help you or pretend not to know or even just avoid them? 2. Respect differences and cultivate empathy. High school students come from different schools, families, and grew up in different environments. Therefore, children must be taught to respect the differences between classmates, think more empathically, and understand the positions and feelings of their friends, because True friends respect each other\’s personalities and choices. 3. The identity of a high school student determines the high schoolChina is not here to make friends. This is what my best friend who has been a high school class teacher for 20 years told Dabao. I was a little surprised at the time, but when I think about it carefully, it is true. The main task of high school students is to learn and master enough knowledge in the three years of high school, work hard for their dreams, and at the same time form their own correct outlook on life, values ​​and world view. Friends are indispensable in life, at any stage. It is a shining wave in the long river of life, but it is not the whole of life. If children can understand this truth early, they will not be bruised and bruised on the road of friendship. I hope our children can harvest their own beauty smoothly on the road of friendship.