Only by doing these two things can you have a chance to deal with adolescent children.

I once read a story: A middle-aged man has always had a harmonious relationship with his son, and the child even worships him as a superman. However, everything changed since my son entered the second grade of junior high school. He began to become rebellious, going against his father in everything, and the air was often filled with the smell of gunpowder. When the wife saw the tense situation between her husband and the child, she was worried that something might happen, so she asked her husband to go back to his parents\’ house for a few days to calm down and give the child a buffer period. After staying for a day, he still didn\’t want to go home. The old man thought it was a quarrel between the young couple and drove him back. The man had no choice but to tell the real reason. Unexpectedly, his father no longer chased him away. Instead, he asked his wife to heat up some dishes, sit down and drink with the man, and slowly told him about his rebellion back then. The man also began to alienate his father from junior high school. Instead of being obedient to him, he began to fight against him. Seeing that their well-behaved children have become more and more rebellious, disobeying their parents at home, contradicting their teachers in class, and even carrying fruit knives in their schoolbags, their parents often wake up in their sleep, fearing that their children will do something. The most impressive thing is that once, the child had a conflict with his father and ran away from home and stayed in an Internet cafe for three days and four nights until he was penniless. What he didn\’t know was that his father also stayed outside the Internet cafe for three days and four nights, silently guarding him, and watched as he was slapped by the Internet cafe owner for having no money before letting him go home. After arriving home, his parents did not dare to say anything for fear of intensifying the conflict and making the situation more serious. They just cooked him a table of delicious meals with all their heart. The man\’s youthful rebellious period seemed to come to an abrupt end with that slap in the face, and he began to work hard to become a dark horse and successfully enter college. 02 When he finished listening to the past, he slowly remembered how he had been so generous and made his parents worry and worry. As he grew up, especially after becoming a father, his relationship with his parents began to become closer and closer. Thinking of this, he began to understand what his parents did and how to get along with his children. Before leaving, his father\’s words made him even more enlightened: \”As a parent, you need to do two things: love and endure. Only if we can survive, the relationship will have a chance to be re-established, and the children will also have a chance to get back on track. Of course, the premise is that we must love the child enough. When he is less cute, it is exactly when he needs love the most. Even if there are times when a child grows up in love, he will become more reliable. Spectrum.\” After returning home, he began to treat his son as his father treated himself. No matter how rebellious his son was, he would hold back even if his heart was in turmoil. Instead, he would be patient and communicate calmly. If the child doesn\’t want to listen, he shuts his mouth and waits. Slowly, the child\’s hedgehog-like appearance began to soften, and the relationship with him gradually improved. And he finally learned to stand with his children to defeat the problem, instead of standing with the problem to defeat his son. As his mood became more stable, his son\’s condition got better and better, and he was finally admitted to a university that was better than expected. And when his son apologized for his rebellion back then, he comforted his son not to feel guilty. Because most people go all the way like this, adolescence is the only way for everyone. After passing through it smoothly, a new life will come.03 I was touched by this story because I very much agree with what my father said: Being a parent requires two things: love and endurance. Maintain unconditional love for your child, and do not reduce this emotion just because he has poor grades, is rebellious, or is tired of studying. On the contrary, we should give our children enough love and let them feel that no matter what they are, they will always have the support and tolerance of their parents behind them; no matter how unlovable they are, there will always be someone who loves them deeply behind them. This kind of unconditional support can give the child the confidence to face various problems that arise in adolescence. When children develop behavioral problems, after the anxiety and worry have passed, parents must learn to slowly adjust their emotions and try to view their children\’s adolescence with a more peaceful attitude. Give your children time, and give yourself time, and try to \”get through\” it, and maybe there will be a bright future. Love is the foundation for raising children, and endurance is the practice of raising children. Only by doing these two things well can we have a chance to deal with adolescent children.