Only calm and calm parents can stabilize frivolous and confrontational teenagers

Education expert Wang Lining once shared her own parenting experience in a video. When his daughter was young, Wang Lining had been working hard outside in order to give her a better growing environment. However, despite this, her daughter\’s academic performance has always been unsatisfactory. Especially in junior high school, the situation got worse. She only scored 100 points in Chinese, mathematics and foreign languages ​​combined. Faced with such results, Wang Lining was furious and said to his daughter rudely: \”If you continue like this, you are not worthy of being my daughter! Get out of here!\” Her daughter also showed no sign of weakness: \”I I’ve wanted to leave for a long time, I’m annoyed when I see you, why don’t you wait until today?” At 11 o’clock that night, my daughter slammed the door and left the house. When Wang Lining was in panic, he chased his daughter and wanted to take her home, but her daughter refused her persuasion. He even yelled at her: \”I no longer want this family, I no longer want you as my mother!\” During the dispute, Wang Lining was so emotional that he eventually fainted to the ground. However, her daughter walked past her indifferently, stepped over her, and left without looking back. At this moment, Wang Lining\’s heart was broken. She didn\’t expect that the child she had worked so hard to raise would be so indifferent to her. This huge blow made Wang Lining start to reflect. She stayed in her room all night and couldn\’t sleep. Later, she started to sign up to study psychology and family education. After a week of studying, when she opened her daughter\’s bedroom door again, she was no longer the self-righteous and condescending person she was before, because she had completely realized her failure. When her daughter saw her mother like this, she asked with a soft attitude for the first time: \”Mom, what\’s wrong with you?\” Wang Lining knelt in front of his daughter and sincerely apologized to her for his mistakes in the education process. Only then did the daughter open up her heart completely, and the two had an in-depth conversation for four hours. Wang Lining listened to her daughter\’s pressure, thoughts, and expectations for her mother. She also told her daughter clearly for the first time: \”Mom loves you, but she expresses it in the wrong way.\” In the next year, she gave up all her work and devoted herself to her daughter. She changed the way she got along with her daughter, no longer scolding her harshly or making various demands on her. As the antagonism, entanglement and love-hate emotions between mother and daughter slowly resolve, the relationship between mother and daughter becomes closer, and the daughter naturally becomes more motivated. 02 Psychology supervisor Chang Jun shared that her 14-year-old daughter did not call her daddy, but called him by his first name. In the end, her grandma couldn’t stand it anymore. You are a psychology student, and your own daughter is not well-educated. He can only discuss with the child that when grandma is at home, call him daddy, and when grandma is not at home, you can call him whatever you want. Her daughter often has a sign on the door to prevent outsiders from entering. They are mom and dad at home, and the children call them outsiders. Whether they are education experts, psychology experts, or entrepreneurs, their children have the same characteristics of adolescence as ordinary parents. They will not behave well just because their father or mother is an expert. Therefore, we need to be calm and calm parents. Only in this way can we stabilize the frivolous and antagonistic teenagers. 03How to achieve calmness and calmness? Qi means to keep calm and manage it wellmood. Don\’t get angry immediately when you see your child\’s problems and be swayed by your emotions. Instead, give yourself time to calm down when you encounter problems, calm down your emotions first, and don\’t communicate when you have emotions. Ding means to stay stable and become the anchor of the home. As adolescent children develop their personalities, they will definitely encounter various problems that challenge their parents. No matter how noisy their children are, parents should stay calm and listen to their children\’s needs, which can give their children a sense of security. God is the essence and life state of parents. Parents are in high spirits and full of life every day. They don\’t struggle with problems and actively find solutions, becoming the best role models for their children. Leisure means relaxation and a sense of humor. Parents with a sense of relaxation are approachable, and children are willing to open up to their parents. Mr. Liang Qichao said that being a parent should be a bit interesting and interesting. Don\’t be a bitter face all day long, and be a bit \”childlike\”. \”Family on a Hot Pot\” wrote a sentence: The essence of mental illness is the loss of humor and the ability to relax. Families need to learn to make life fun again. Let us all become calm parents, listen to our children\’s voices, and accompany them attentively. Love can resolve all conflicts.