Only children who have been truly loved will feel relaxed

The word relaxation has become really popular recently. But it’s not easy to do it. Unless the rich second generation was born with a silver spoon in their mouth, or the second generation whose old house was demolished and built in the center of the plan, they have unlimited financial support and can make trial and error again and again. Also, living a tight life is the norm in East Asian families. Parents are as busy as ants on a hot pot every day, serving leaders, doing PPT, dealing with DDL, and when they get home, they have to accompany their children to do homework. Naturally, they are easily irritated by the slightest success. Of course, it is not impossible to live a relaxed life. I\’m just afraid that parents will tell their children to just work hard and the results will be left to chance. But in private, piano lessons, eloquence classes, and programming camps come in different forms. Also, only by trying your best can you look effortless. It\’s a pity that the more you worry about it, the more your child will lose. Not to mention the sense of relaxation, it is difficult to maintain emotional stability. How about other things? Children who have not been loved can easily reach their limit. As parents, when we think of being responsible for the fate of our children, we will worry and pay attention. This is also human nature. But you should note that the consequences of the disaster you imagine, \”the future will be like this if the child does not learn well\”, are all artificially constructed by you, and are not established facts. In other words, your worries are not your child\’s. Even if you are not doing it for vanity, you really want to do your best for your children. Giving great value and meaning to your children\’s future is also your narcissism and can\’t be counted. Yes, from the moment he is born, you are you and the child is a child. From the perspective of love, there are originally two types of love in this world. One is just the right kind of love, loving her true self, not the perfection after a filter. The other kind of love is love with conditions attached. I hope he will be what I want him to be. No matter what your purpose is, as long as the love you give your children comes with conditions and restrictions, it is conditional love. He does not do things subjectively, but does things as a drive for your happiness. Over time, children will subtly feel that only if they do well and are excellent can they be qualified to be \”liked by you.\” Children who pay too much attention to external evaluation will always be tense and prone to internal friction and anxiety. You must be very confused. I am a parent. I must be responsible for my children and hope that they will grow up. Without healthy habits, your health will be bad; if you can\’t find a job, you will have to gnaw at your old age. What will you do then? You have to make a clear distinction between children knowingly committing crimes and being ignorant. Whether a child has bad habits or doesn\’t like to learn, we can only guide the child on the right path, but we don\’t want to force him to accept it or beat him up indiscriminately. Moreover, there is an interesting phenomenon in relationships: the more you worry about something, the more it will happen. This is true whether it is parents, children, lovers, or friends. You tell your kids not to notice the pink elephant in the room. The information their brains receive is a \”pink elephant\”, and it is useless to forget it deliberately. Therefore, there is no use in deliberately obliterating it. It is better for parents to be themselves and influence their children to follow them subtly. Whatever you look like, your child will look like. A good relationship will also nourish the children, take off their guard and relax them. Only this is the fatherThe greatest wealth a mother can give her children.