Overseas study camps with a sky-high price of over 100,000 yuan are the most ruthless \”killing plate\” for ordinary families.

The summer vacation has not yet come, and the neighbor next door has already arranged a study tour for her son during the holiday. This trip to Canada will cost more than 30,000 yuan per child. Their family conditions are actually quite average, so they didn’t consider studying at first. But seeing that all of her son\’s classmates were going abroad to study, she and her husband gritted their teeth and signed up. The couple didn\’t have that much money in their pockets, so they had no choice but to shamelessly ask their son\’s grandparents for help. With the help of the whole family, we finally got the money together. In the past few years, the trend of studying has become more and more fierce. There is a chain of contempt about children\’s summer vacation circulating in the parent circle: first-class summer study, second-class summer travel, third-class summer tutoring, and fourth-class summer vacation return home. Studying is at the top of the summer vacation despise chain, and the cost is naturally the highest. It can range from a few thousand to tens of thousands, and some high-end routes even cost more than 100,000. But when they think that their children may fall behind and be looked down upon if they don\’t go, parents have to tighten their belts and follow suit. A mother had complained before that she had never cared about those summer study groups, but she would take time to take her son on domestic trips every year. Because her family\’s living conditions were average, and a study trip would cost her at least three months\’ salary, she really couldn\’t afford it. But when her son graduated from elementary school, he repeatedly asked her to participate in research this year. After some questioning, she found out that in the past six years, he was the only one in her son\’s class who had never been abroad. Every time school starts, the classmates will talk about their vacation life and share their experiences abroad, but my son can’t get in the middle of the conversation at all. She was immediately forced into a panic and told her son to go abroad and gain experience. Statistics show that among parents who have participated in international study tours, nearly 40% have a monthly salary of RMB 10,000 to RMB 20,000, and nearly 25% have a monthly salary of RMB 8,000 to RMB 10,000. Not many have a monthly salary of more than RMB 30,000. Most of the people who support the study abroad market are just ordinary parents. Most of their original intentions are to let their children see the world and not to let their children lose at the starting point. But is it really necessary to have study camps that make parents empty their wallets and flock to them? I saw two parents sharing their children’s study experience. A mother said that she and her husband are ordinary workers, with a combined monthly income of less than 10,000 yuan. The two of them usually care about themselves, but they never skimp on their daughter\’s education. When her daughter was in the third grade of elementary school, she spent nearly 10,000 to sign up for a study tour to the north of Qing Dynasty. First, she wanted her children to see the capital of the motherland, and second, she wanted her children to experience the atmosphere of a prestigious school. I thought my daughter would gain a lot from this trip, or be inspired to fight and plant the seeds of studying hard. But when asked about the details and feelings of her daughter’s study, she couldn’t answer anything and complained that she was “too tired and will never go again next time.” At that moment, the mother realized that \”a week in Beijing will affect a lifetime\” was just a gimmick by businesses to attract parents. I am really too idealistic if I expect that a quick check-in will improve my children\’s knowledge. This kind of superficial \”research and study\” will hardly have any big impact on the child\’s body and mind. A father also said that one summer vacation, he enrolled his son as aA one and a half month sailing trip. For his son\’s voyage, he worked overtime for several months, just to earn more bonuses. But when his son came back, there was no trace of happiness or satisfaction on his face. After careful questioning, I found out that my son was complaining about not buying him the same high-end equipment as his classmates. Naturally, what he prepared for his son were some basic daily necessities. But the other children all have high-end telescopes, diving suits, and professional photography equipment. In contrast, the son felt inferior to others, felt inferior and jealous, and naturally was not in the mood to have fun. This father regretted very much. He had worked hard and spent a lot of money, but he failed to support his child\’s vision, but instead fueled his vanity. Many parents, like them, hope that their children will gain more knowledge by studying. By looking at the Bird\’s Nest and the Water Cube, children can deeply understand the Olympic spirit; by visiting a prestigious school, children will become self-disciplined and motivated; by traveling abroad, children can be influenced by different cultures; but education is a long-term investment. , it is not like ordinary goods that can be bought immediately. It is very likely that the parents have spent money, but the children have not gained much knowledge, but their tempers have grown, and their sense of comparison and vanity have also increased. That’s why I say that the sky-high price study group is nothing more than a “killing plate” for ordinary families. I read a netizen’s childhood story on Zhihu. Her father was a truck driver and he often took her out with him when he was a child. So she has been to many places, but she has no impression of the scenery and customs along the way. What remains fresh in my memory are all very small things. At noon, my father would park the car on the side of the road, get some bricks to build a small earthen stove, pick up some branches, and stew rice in a small iron pot. It was really delicious. Her father would also pick wild pea pods on the roadside for her to play with. The black shells contained thin yellow-brown seeds, which rustled like a sand hammer when shaken. Her father also caught a frog and tied one of its legs with a string to prevent her from getting bored in the car. When it was dark and raining heavily, there was no way to go to the village or store. When my father was driving for a while, he would stop and use a big flashlight to shine on the road ahead, and then drive forward cautiously. It drove for a while, then stopped, took another photo, and started again. She always remembered that while her father was exploring the way, he would not forget to comfort her, \”You don\’t have to be afraid because daddy is here.\” And every time after repairing a car, my father would insert a plastic pipe into the fuel tank, take a deep breath at the mouth of the pipe, and quickly put the pipe mouth down into the iron bucket to draw out the gasoline to clean the repair tools and the car. Component. Therefore, netizens knew what the \”siphon principle\” was before they entered junior high school. She couldn\’t remember where she had been or what beautiful scenery she had seen, but she was deeply impressed by these small things. In her eyes, her father had no education, but he was optimistic, knew many life skills, read many books, and gave her a lot of love and companionship. It was also her father who taught her to love nature and life, and made her understand that even if life is not easy, she should remain sincere and enthusiastic and strive to find the joy of life. We often limit our children\’s growth and knowledge to expensive study tours. But they neglected that the things that can really broaden children\’s horizons are the eyes of adults.Seemingly ordinary little things. This world is far more than one side. Whether it is good or bad, painful or happy, as long as it is beyond the children\’s cognition, it is a \”world\” to them. And these don’t require going far, let alone a lot of money. Life itself is the best education. An educator once said that good education is the construction of the soul, not the accumulation of money. I think of Dong Yuhui, a child from a poor rural family, but his knowledge and structure are admired by everyone. His father, just an ordinary farmer, gave him the best education. His father would take him with him to feed birds, raise ants, catch grasshoppers, and catch snakes in the grass to satisfy his curiosity; his father would hold up books himself and copy them, subtly awakening his love for reading; His father will also pass on correct values ​​​​to him through life and setbacks, and teach him the wisdom of life. In Dong Yuhui\’s childhood, there were no various study groups, summer camps, or even an ordinary trip. The father carrying the hoe enriched his spiritual world with his simplest qualities and wisdom. Therefore, ordinary families should not always think about using money to support their children. An outstanding child can never be cultivated by enrolling in a group study program or wandering around outside. Instead of sending your children to follow the trend and check in, it is better to let them do something \”down to earth\”. Bring your children closer to nature, understand the magic and mysteries of nature, and let them take the initiative to observe, think, and find answers. When you have time, go to the countryside to experience transplanting and planting, listen to the cicadas and frogs, and experience a completely different world. lifestyle; give him some real life experience, set up a stall, take the bus, even get up early to go to the vegetable market; put down your mobile phone, read, think, communicate with him, measure the world in books, and improve your horizons… …These things that can be done with just snacks can truly be seen in the nourishment and quality building of children’s character. Give it a thumbs up and encourage all parents.