Parents are doing it, children are watching

My son was recommended by his class teacher to participate in the selection of good boys, and he needed to register and take a photo. We went to the photo studio to take pictures and paid. When we were about to leave, my husband looked at the change in his hand and suddenly said, \”No, I changed too much.\” He handed 50 yuan to the owner of the photo studio. . The boss slapped his head and shouted: \”Oh, I was so busy that I thought you gave me 100 yuan. Thank you, thank you so much!\” My husband kept saying that it should be done. The son stood aside and watched quietly. The boss looked at him and said, \”With parents like you, this child must be great. Like father, like son! The owner of the shop next to me loves to play mahjong, but he doesn\’t care much about business. It’s almost turned into a mahjong parlor. His son comes back from school every day and watches around. He doesn’t do anything in his studies. He’s only in the third grade. He’s not very good at playing mahjong! Sometimes when business comes, his dad asks him to help out. If he wins money, his dad will praise him for his ability. This kid\’s grades are a mess now, and sometimes he even clamors to imitate his dad\’s smoking. Oh, what a sin!\” Say goodbye to the boss, and we go home. In the car, I said: \”Son, at any time, you must remember that you must be honest, upright and kind, be strict with yourself, and not get into bad habits.\” My son said: \”Mom, I understand, these families I already memorized the motto by heart when I was in kindergarten.\” Yes, this is the motto of our family: being open-minded, upright and kind. When my son first entered kindergarten, I posted these eight characters in a conspicuous place in the living room so that he could memorize them by heart and follow them. Passing by the river, under the dim street lights, many old farmers were selling home-grown melons. I got out of the car and wanted to buy two. An uncle enthusiastically asked me to try them, saying that his green melons were particularly sweet, and it turned out to be true when I tasted them. I picked two and was about to pay. My uncle was a little disappointed: \”Why don\’t you buy a few more? I won\’t be here in the next few days. I have to work in the fields…\” I thought for a moment and knelt down to pick again. got up. Finally, I picked out two bags full, eight big ones. It was too heavy, so I asked my son to get out of the car and help carry the melon. After getting in the car, my son said, \”Mom, why do you have to buy so much? You can buy it after eating! It\’s so heavy, I\’ll be exhausted carrying it upstairs later.\” I told him that the old man selling melons would be there next time. He has to work in the fields for several days. The melons he has worked so hard to grow will spoil easily if he cannot sell them at home. Let us help as much as we can. He suddenly understood and said with a smile: \”Well, we have to eat less and more melons these days!\” When he went upstairs, he trudged ahead carrying a bag of melons. I asked him if he was tired, and he answered loudly. : \”Don\’t be tired, serve the people!\” We happily entered the house, immediately cut a melon and ate it. It was really sweet, sweeter than any melon I had ever had. The son said: \”I know why this melon is so sweet, because if you help others and bring happiness to others, you will also be happy. There is happiness in this melon.\” The famous Japanese scholar and educator Daisaku Ikeda said something very educational. : Although children cannot say it, they can personally feel their parents’ attitude towards life. Instead of instilling justice and conscience into them with words, it is better for parents to set an example with their own actions in their own lives. It can be said that this isThe most brilliant method. I believe that being able to educate and guide children correctly, in the final analysis, is not a matter of educational technology such as what to teach children, but a matter of whether the parents themselves, as individuals, have a lifestyle in which they can correctly perform their duties. Parents are their children\’s role models and mentors. Children see what their parents do and learn from them. Parents are not greedy for petty gains or opportunistic, and their children are open-minded and aboveboard. If parents understand the suffering of others and are willing to give, their children will also be compassionate and willing to help others. If parents work hard, love life, and be proactive, their children will also study hard and be full of sunshine. On the other hand, if parents are greedy and opportunistic, their children will easily learn that trick. Parents are indifferent and only care about themselves, so their children are accustomed to \”everyone sweeps the snow in front of their own door and doesn\’t care about the frost on other people\’s tiles.\” If parents do not want to make progress and just muddle along, their children will easily become devoid of ideals and ambitions. They will waste their time being a monk and clocking in on the clock. It is said that parents are the originals and children are the copies. If the originals are clean and beautiful, the copies will not be much different. If the copy is not good, the problem is probably with the original. God knows what you did. Heaven is so good at reincarnation, who will God spare? This is about the relationship between karma and retribution. Everything has a cause and effect, including children\’s education. Any outstanding child is not a miracle, but a traceable cause and effect. Many people envy \”other people\’s children\”, but little do they know that children also envy \”other people\’s parents\”. If you want your children to become \”other people\’s children\” that other parents will envy, you must first become \”other people\’s parents\” that other children will envy. Is education difficult? It is indeed difficult, otherwise, there would not be so many problem children and so many painful families. In fact, it is easier said than done. In the final analysis, education is about fighting for parents and fighting against mothers. If the parents are of high quality and well-educated, and the children are immersed in a warm, kind, sunny and loving environment all day long, and are influenced by them day after day, they must be gentle and radiant. Parenting is no small matter, so don’t take it seriously. The parents are doing it and the children are watching. Your words and deeds will affect your child\’s life.