Parents are the most important teaching materials for their children

Last week I took Nanking to an event at the Science and Technology Museum. Standing behind Nanking in the queue was a girl of the same age as Nanking. She was wearing the uniform of one of the top elementary schools in Shanghai. The parents next to her looked at the girl with envy. Because it\’s too difficult to get into that school. Just when everyone was filled with envy, Sleepy had already reached the entrance of the Science and Technology Museum, but the girl behind him suddenly squeezed in. Unprepared, Sleepy\’s shoes were stepped off and he was almost knocked down. Sleepy looked back at the girl with dissatisfaction, only to be met with a look of disdain on her face. The girl obviously didn\’t realize that her impatience had brought trouble to others, and her natural look made people angry. Unexpectedly, the image of a good student was ruined in minutes. I suddenly remembered what the teacher in charge of Jiongjie said. She said that we don’t necessarily train our children to go to any school, or we must make them superior to others, but we will pay great attention to cultivating children’s emotional intelligence. We will educate children how to adapt to this society and teach them Necessary social etiquette, a child\’s ability to cover his mouth with his hands when sneezing is more important than the amount of book knowledge he has learned. I agree with what the teacher said. After seeing a lot of people and things, I finally believe that a person\’s cultivation is more important than academic qualifications. The cousin of a friend of mine got admitted to Tsinghua University with one of the top scores in the province\’s college entrance examination. At that time, he was a prominent figure in his family, but perhaps talented people are a bit arrogant. When he was a child, he and several brothers and sisters They are not very close to each other, they feel very cold, and they always give people a feeling of being superior. Moreover, not only did he not take his brothers and sisters seriously, he even ignored his elders. He never used the word \”you\” when talking to his elders, and he simply called some uncles by their first names when talking about them. Later, he had a girlfriend, and I heard that his future mother-in-law couldn\’t stand his arrogance and refused to agree to the marriage. Until now, he is still lazy at home, working during the day and playing games at night, unable to take care of himself. The aunt and uncle who were proud of their son were very anxious, fearing that he would not marry a wife in the future, so they always entrusted friends to introduce him to girlfriends. But anyone who has been through marriage knows that in family life, a person\’s character is more important than academic qualifications. What really determines whether a person\’s marriage can be happy is not which university he went to, which popular major he studied, or what decent job he did, but whether he can think about his partner and consider issues from his partner\’s perspective. , whether you can be considerate and caring to your partner in life, and whether you can be tolerant and magnanimous in the trivial matters of life. Recently, relatives and friends around me are planning to buy a house in a school district. I have experienced this feeling, and I can understand it. As parents, we all want our children to enjoy the best educational resources. But parents are the best teaching materials for their children. Your every move, word and deed has a far greater impact on your child than the impact of your child\’s future teacher. If the parents have upright views and a broad vision, no matter how bad the school\’s teaching materials are, the child is more likely to be happy. However, if the parents are selfish, narrow-minded, violent, and strong, no matter how good the school is, the child is less likely to become successful. Nowadays, everyone is saying that I was born into a rich family.Children born in poor families are more fortunate than those born in poor families. In an era of solidified classes, fate and origin often play a decisive role, but I don\’t think so at all. As long as the parents have correct views, children from poor families can still have a future. As the founder of New Oriental, Yu Minhong was born as an ordinary farmer\’s child, but his mother had a very big picture, was hardworking, kind, and helpful. Yu Minhong once recalled that when he was a child, there was a heavy rainstorm. His mother led the whole family to harvest the neighbor\’s rice, but his own rice was soaked. Another year, the grain harvest was poor. My mother saw that the neighbor\’s family had a large population and not enough food, so she gave half of her 20 kilograms of food to the neighbor. His mother had a profound influence on Yu Minhong, so Yu Minhong would put others before himself when interacting with others. He didn\’t care about suffering a little loss or paying more. When he founded New Oriental, he received help from many classmates. The reason was that everyone thought about him. When I was in college, I selflessly helped my roommates get water for four years. With this kind of character, I will naturally gain the support and trust of more people. We always care about a child\’s external abilities, including what academic qualifications he will have in the future, what specialties he will have, how much knowledge he will have, and how strong his background connections will be. But what can really determine whether a person is successful is A person’s soft power. How does he get along with people? What kind of attitude do you have? How was his upbringing? Are you friendly? Do you have a sense of responsibility in your work and family life? These soft powers are the main factors that determine whether a person is happy or not. Therefore, no matter which class we belong to, we should not take the issue of tutoring our children lightly, because parents are the most important teaching materials for their children. If the quality of your textbook is not high, no matter how famous the school your child attends, what\’s the point? !