Parents can do these things, but it’s hard to think that their children are not outstanding!

After posting a few articles recently, parents often ask me how to educate their children. Some even bring their children home on weekends and ask me to help teach them. However, educating children is not a temporary thing. Eagerness for quick success is not a good thing for the growth of children. Two days ago, a friend brought his child to his home and had to let me \”teach him a lesson\” on the spot. Facing the sensible child in front of me, I smiled faintly, and then said to my friend: \”Every child is different, with their own strengths and weaknesses. The education for Yaya (my daughter) may not necessarily be the same.\” It\’s suitable for him.\” \”You can rest assured to teach him. This child of mine has been spoiled by me since he was a child and has too many shortcomings.\” The friend insisted again and again. \”Now that you know you are used to it, don\’t do it anymore. Let your children develop a good habit from an early age. When the child grows up, he will be able to handle all aspects of things with ease. Besides, what is the child\’s specific personality and temper? , or you, a mother, understand clearly, after all, \’the person who untie the bell must tie the bell\’!\” Frankly speaking, there are many parents who \”indulge\” their children like this friend of mine, and sometimes they know that they are wrong, But they would rather make mistakes than let their children suffer any \”grievance\”. But when the child grows up, he begins to feel sorry for himself. In addition, every child is an independent individual, and each individual has an independent personality. Even when educating children, you must not copy other people\’s methods mechanically, otherwise it will be counterproductive. Just like when we usually envy teachers for their ability to educate students, little do we know that it is particularly difficult to move it to family education. A best friend of mine always complained to me some time ago that she didn\’t have time to take care of her children, and the children\’s grandparents always spoiled the children. Over time, the children developed some bad habits. Now the children hit others when they don\’t go well at home. I thought everything would be fine once I went to kindergarten, but who knew that within three days of school, the teacher called the parents to report that the child was too violent and hoped that the parents would cooperate with the teacher in educating him. After returning home, my best friend told the two elders about the matter, but the old man still doted on the child. As long as the grandson lost his temper and hit them, they would obey the child in everything, so the best friend was angry and anxious. In fact, it is not a bad thing for the elderly to \”spoil\” their children, but the method must be appropriate. We cannot change the thoughts of the older generation with just a few words. It is best to educate children personally. In the old society, the elderly educated their children with nothing more than food and clothing. In the new century, we not only hope that our children will grow up healthily and happily, but also teach them how to behave and do things better. In order to live a better life, today\’s young people always give up a lot of time to work, and allocate very little to their families and children. Time is squeezed out, and you don’t need to spend too much time every day. Before work, after work, after dinner, and before going to bed, you should have more contact with your children, understand their thinking dynamics, understand your children’s preferences, and educate them through fun, so that you can educate better. child. For example, if you instill a little truth into your children every day and insist on it every day, the meaning will become apparent after reading the book a hundred times, and it will eventually work if you teach it a thousand times. Especially when the child does not understand, parents must not act too hastily, and must not use the method of trying to make things easier for a while and harming the child. About half a month later,My best friend called me very happily and said, \”Dear, thank you so much. I don\’t have to spend much time every day now, and my son has made rapid progress, and he rarely hits anyone anymore.\” According to her best friend, her son She liked toy cars very much, so she came up with a method of \”clear rewards and punishments\”. If her son hit someone one day, she would confiscate all the cars. If her son didn\’t hit anyone one day, she would take out the toy cars she had hidden the day before and give them to her son to play with. At first, because she confiscated her son\’s toy car, her son cried and made noises and even tried to beat her, but she severely stopped her. Under the guidance of his best friend, the child learned that crying, making trouble, and hitting others were useless. If he wanted to play with cars, he would only give it to him if he didn\’t hit anyone and told his mother. My best friend also told me that my son not only gradually changed his habit of hitting others, but also became more and more expressive. The children\’s grandparents saw that this trick worked and followed suit. Frankly speaking, educating children well is not difficult, and it does not require us parents to be very knowledgeable. In fact, all educational methods come from daily life. We only need to go shopping less often, socialize less often, look at mobile phones less often, take time out, keep our eyes open, observe children carefully, and then summarize methods and teach students in accordance with their aptitude. It’s not that the child is naughty, or that the child isn’t smart enough, it’s that the child doesn’t have a good, conscientious and responsible parent. If we are still enjoying shopping and drinking, how can we ask our children to grow in the direction we expect? \”Educate yourself before educating others, and educate the mind first when raising children.\” By doing this, each of our parents can become a unique teacher in their children\’s lives.