Parents don’t let their babies go to school, and the reasons behind it are shocking

Recently, many friends have complained to me, saying that their children are about to go to kindergarten and cannot eat, dress, or even wipe their own butts. One friend even has a four-year-old son. Take off your pants instead of sending your kids to kindergarten. I am very surprised by this. A child with normal intellectual development cannot take off his pants at the age of four. The reason must be the parents. In fact, it\’s like a child learning to walk. If the adult doesn\’t let go, the child will never learn to move his legs on his own. I took care of my daughter myself until she was two years old. When my daughter was less than two years old, she was already able to help me with a lot of housework. When friends saw this, they all said, \”Your daughter is so great. The one in my family does nothing but has to ask her parents to get a toy!\” It\’s not surprising to hear this. In real life, there are many cases like this, but There is only one reason: the parents\’ hands are too tight! Frankly speaking, I was very surprised by my daughter\’s performance, but I never deliberately taught her anything. So, is my daughter born to be hands-on? of course not. After my daughter can walk, no matter what she does, it is almost the two of us together. When I sweep the floor, I ask her to help with the garbage shovel; when I do the laundry, I ask her to help carry the washed clothes to the balcony; when I cook, I ask her to help get some spices within easy reach. Later, she gradually learned a lot. For example, when she asked to wash clothes, I would prepare a small bench and a small basin of water for her. Parents must not give up the opportunity for their children to exercise their hands-on skills because they are afraid that their children will wet their clothes and floors. In the eyes of children, anything they do with their own hands is interesting and enjoyable. When children sit on a stool to wash clothes, they can do one thing quietly and attentively without getting water everywhere in the house. Educational and entertaining, children learn a lot of truth while playing. When eating out, I often hear parents, especially grandparents, telling their children: Don’t eat by yourself, you’ll make your clothes dirty; don’t take the chopsticks, it’s dangerous; don’t take the cup, it’s hot… ·In this way, the child will naturally develop a dependence mentality, let alone try to eat on his own. Parents deprive their children of the opportunity to learn, only to complain later that their children are clumsy! Perhaps, we occasionally see news about children putting chopsticks in their mouths and burning their hands, which makes us feel frightened, but these are all caused by parents’ poor supervision! We cannot stifle children\’s ability to know and learn new things because of this. Frankly speaking, for me, I enjoy spending time with my daughter. After meals, we often wash the dishes together. Whenever I wash a tableware, she will rush to put the washed dishes in the cupboard. . Once all the \”work\” is over, we\’ll have lots of time to play together. Now my daughter is three years old and is being looked after by her grandma, and I have returned to my original position. Every time after returning home, she would cheerfully help me get my slippers, drag my long home clothes out of the bedroom for me to change into, and insist on putting away the clothes I changed out of. When I go out to play, I will also take the initiative to help other friends carry water bottles and push carts. Sometimes the child\’s grandmother willShe complained to me that her child always took the initiative to get things for other children, which was not good. In fact, I can understand the old man\’s mood. She just feels that her children have done work and she feels distressed. But think about it on the other hand, this is of great benefit to the growth of children. Not only is it helpful, but it also exercises children\’s independence and responsibility. But for the elderly, I often comfort them like this: The child is energetic and the things are not heavy. Let her take it and she will be happy. In fact, life is a very thick textbook. Although there are no rules and regulations, it can experience all aspects of children\’s growth. As a parent, you must be willing to use your children. Sometimes, it is not that the children themselves have poor hands-on ability, but that the children have a sense of self-protection after being reprimanded or even frightened by their parents over and over again. They will think that their parents do not like them and think that doing so is dangerous. But when the children grow up and have the awareness to distinguish basic safety, and parents teach their children step by step, the children may not necessarily learn, because habits are developed slowly, and changing habits requires a process and a period of time. . So, parents, stop restraining your children in ways you think are safe. Please let go and let your children do what they want within your sight. Stop trying to stop your kids, let alone yelling at them. The child is really great, but the parents’ education is in the wrong way. Text｜Xiang Rong