Parents, please stay away from your children! Don\’t ruin him!

Many children cannot leave their parents at all. They are physically or mentally dependent on their parents, allowing their parents to take care of them indefinitely and make decisions and ideas for them. If you have ever seen those \”mama\’s boys\”, \”old-schoolers\” or those children who are submissive and have no opinions, you should know that this is definitely not a good thing! Therefore, for the sake of your children, you have to consciously stay away from your children. Let the child \”get out\” of his mother\’s bed at the right time. If your child is still sleeping in the same bed with you when he is 5 years old, and squeezes into the same bed with you, then it is time to let him \”get out\”. How you sleep contains important signals about family relationships. If three people often sleep in your bed, or the father simply gives up his seat to the children and sleeps alone, this may indicate that your family relationship is relatively chaotic. If the father lacks his due status at home, it will naturally be difficult for him to display his power and functions; of course, this also implies that the child is too entangled with the mother and is too close – if a child does not want to be separated from the mother, that is If he sleeps in the same bed as his mother, he will not be able to become independent. Therefore, the first step for Yuanzi is to let the child sleep in his own bed as soon as possible instead of clinging to his mother\’s bed. Give the child space, don’t “occupy it” completely. When the child is concentrating on playing, the mother will let the child do other things; when the child is looking at flowers, the mother will let the child look at people; when the child is looking at people, the mother will let the child look at flowers… A friend said that she I met a mother and asked her child what to eat for lunch today. The child said pizza, and the mother said, what’s so good about pizza? Let’s eat fish head pancakes. Don\’t give your children any chance to make decisions, everything is decided for them. Also, the mother always wants to help her children, for example, the children grab toys. The mother quickly says, don’t grab it, don’t grab it, mom will buy you another one. For fear of their children suffering a disadvantage, they anxiously teach their children how to be lovable, and anxiously provide advice on how to outshine the children… depriving their children of the opportunity to solve problems on their own. Schedule all your children\’s time fully and enroll them in various classes: painting classes, swimming classes, piano classes, storytelling classes, thinking training classes… I\’m afraid that the children will waste their time, and don\’t leave any space for them. Give your children time and space to discover their own interests. Moreover, children are not allowed to have those seemingly useless interests: playing in mud, picking up sticks, getting wet in the rain, laughing for no reason… Whenever this happens, pour cold water on them, scold them, and turn them from cheerful to timid. If you are a mother like this, then your child will be completely occupied by \”mother\”, and the child will not have his own time and space. Even if your child has good academic performance and good talents, but he doesn\’t know how to arrange his own life, his future may not be smooth. If you want to leave space for yourself, please ask a multiple-choice question: If you have a sum of spare money, just enough for you to choose between a self-spiritual growth course or an early education course for your children that \”doesn\’t lose at the starting line\”, how would you choose? I bet you’ll be picking out early childhood education classes for your kids! Because mothers usually wantI am willing to sacrifice myself and put my children first. However, the best investment is to spend money on parents\’ own improvement classes. At this time, mothers need to recharge themselves. A positive mother who loves life and learning is the best life mentor for her children. An anxious mother cannot be separated from her child at all. She needs the sense of security, presence and value that her child brings to her. She feels that her child cannot do without her. In fact, it is more that she herself cannot do without her child, and puts all kinds of Excessive care and attention are imposed on children. Such mothers should reflect quickly and not delay their children\’s lives. Yuanzi, how far away? Yuan Zi, I don’t mean to throw your child far away. You should draw a clear line between you and him, have nothing to do with each other, and let him fend for himself. If you stay \”far away\” like that, your children will ask you for debts. Far away, it means that the mother can be aware of the child\’s growth, changes and needs, withstand anxiety and worry, gradually let go, allow the child to make his own decisions, allow him to grow up, allow him to not need his mother, allow him to make mistakes, take risks, and leave us , become himself!