Parents who teach their children well have experienced these three \”awakenings\” in their deeds.

Writer Zheng Yuanjie once said: \”The essence of family education is the growth and self-improvement of parents.\” In the organism of the family, parents are like the roots of a plant, and children are like the flowers of the plant. Only when the roots are solid, strong, and absorb more nutrients can the flowers be full, brilliant, and bloom more beautifully. Being a parent is a process of continuous cultivation and taking root deeply. If you want to raise truly independent and excellent children, you must first learn how to be a good parent. To become a good parent, you have experienced these three \”awakenings\”. First Awakening: Realizing that parents and children are destined to be different individuals. In the popular TV series \”The Female Psychologist\” that hit the Internet, the symbiotic relationship between Jiang Jing and her mother was extremely heart-wrenching to watch. Jiang Jing\’s mother has a mantra: \”You are the flesh that has fallen off my body. Whatever you do, you have to let me know. Do you hear me?\” Family education instructor The Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother Chinese version e-book + English version pdf + mobi +azw3 In the mother\’s view, a daughter is born by herself and should be her own accessory. The role of \”mother\” in her body has the natural right to command, and the child should obediently obey orders and obey orders. From childhood to adulthood, for thirty years, her mother has tightly controlled her daughter, and the verbal violence, emotional blackmail, and moral kidnapping that are everywhere in her life are the invisible cold ropes she uses to exert control. The mother can look through her daughter\’s diary at will, ask her to wear a dress according to her own preferences, and order her daughter to practice the piano well… All kinds of forced restraints hide the mother\’s sense of boundaries that she is unaware of. Jiang Jing\’s mother believes that she has the right to interfere in everything about her child. However, this kind of deprivation and possession of her daughter\’s individual psychology has become a cage that imprisons her daughter, and the mother-daughter relationship is also in danger. Jiang Jing is repressed. She cannot realize her own ideas and always wants to escape control; but she is also cowardly and does not dare to openly confront her mother. As a result, she began to attack herself inwardly, suffering from bulimia and an extreme lack of security. Jiang Jing\’s mother in the play may seem extreme, but she is a true portrayal of many parents in life. They yell at their children to order them to obey, otherwise they will be punished; they fill in their college entrance examination applications for their children and deprive them of their life; even when they eat and drink, they hope to follow their own feelings. The ubiquitous desire for control draws parents and children into a power struggle, and the final result is often a lose-lose situation. Psychologist Claire said: \”All love in the world is for the purpose of gathering, but the love of parents for their children is for the purpose of separation.\” Children and parents are destined to be different individuals, and they have their own thoughts and missions. They also have their own future and future. Children are never a sequel to their parents’ lives, let alone puppets in their parents’ hands. Staying true to your inner yearnings and walking out of your own life is the true meaning of children coming into this world. How to Be a Wise Parent in Family Education, complete set of 51 lessons MP3 download, reminds me of Yi Nengjing’s change in attitude towards her son, from a mother who forced her son to take screenwriting classes to a mother who respects her son’s learning of editing. The process of her letting go is when the child breaks free from the restraints and finds himselfprecious moments. The child\’s future parents have never been there and cannot arrange and control them. Only by letting go and respecting the individual\’s growth process can a child be free, confident, and self-fulfilling. The Second Awakening: Use your energy on yourself and teach by example. When I saw these two videos, I felt angry and helpless. A mother in Luliang, Shanxi, accompanied her son to do homework, holding a long and thick wooden stick. Whenever the trembling boy memorized a knowledge point incorrectly, the wooden stick behind him would roar down and hit his back and head hard. He was in pain and scared. He stood aside as if running away and begged his mother not to hit him any more. But instead of stopping, his mother got even harder and slapped his son left and right: \”Make it more familiar, learn it better, learn it more!\” There is another mother, although she is not so violent, but she is wrapped in a quilt, checking her mobile phone late at night, squatting at the door of her daughter\’s room, watching her study, which also makes her child extremely painful. These two parents both have the same mental state. They try every means to exert force on their children, crazy and stubbornly forcing their children to study and study, but they never ask themselves. Whether it is beating, scolding, monitoring or reasoning, these are the easiest ways for parents to educate, but the educational effect is the worst. The best education is a role model, a demonstration, a subtle influence, rather than a strong pressure and panic. If you want your children to have good study habits, parents should take the lead in reading, learning, and self-growth. I particularly admire an elder sister next to me. Her daughter is very good. From an ordinary junior high school, she was admitted to a key high school in the city with a score close to full marks. Children\’s excellence has always been traceable. This eldest sister studied almost simultaneously when her daughter was studying. When her daughter memorized, she also memorized, and when her daughter answered the questions, she also answered them. The two often discussed difficult topics together. The eldest sister\’s persistence and perseverance once again prove the principle of education: parents must first achieve what they want their children to be. Children don\’t just listen to what you say, they use their eyes, hearts, and feelings to learn, imitate, and form habits. It’s not just a matter of children’s learning. The way of infecting children by teaching by example is also effective in other aspects of life. A Korean netizen told the reason why he did not smoke. When he was four or five years old, the father and son reached an agreement: as long as the father no longer smokes, the son will never smoke in the future. Therefore, this \”smoker\” father who could smoke three packs of cigarettes a day immediately put out the cigarette butts and never smoked a cigarette again. Download the complete collection of a real Yu Shiwei lecture: Preschool children’s family education story case selection, all 156 issues. Really good education is when parents set examples first and children imitate later. The power of teaching by example is always more powerful than you imagine. Instead of waving a stick to intimidate, it is better to lower your head and be a self-disciplined, hard-working, and positive parent. Your presence will be reflected in the hearts of your children and affect their lives. The Third Awakening: Parents are the child’s original family. In the TV series \”Xiao Min\’s Family\”, Zhou Xun plays a divorced mother who works alone in Beijing with little success. In order to prepare for the college entrance examination, his son Jin Jiajun came to Beijing from his hometown of Jiujiang, living with my mother. From the moment they met, the atmosphere between this semi-mature mother and son was full of embarrassment, and they were very polite and distant to each other. While shopping at the mall, his mother picked out a piece of clothing. When Jiajun saw the price tag, he was so frightened that he immediately rejected it, saying he didn\’t like it against his will. He always watches his words carefully, for fear that he will make his mother unhappy. The death of his mother back then became a lingering pain in his heart. His low self-esteem, sensitivity, flattery, and alienation were all shadows left in his childhood. \”The Road Less Traveled\” says: \”Children who lack care are prone to feeling ashamed of themselves, thinking that they are not cute enough, and that their shortcomings outweigh their advantages.\” The temperature of the native family and the way parents treat them profoundly affect the child\’s inner state and personality traits. A warm home helps children develop a positive and sunny personality, while a cold home will only make children more negative and helpless. In a good native family, children feel supported. One netizen talked about his parents, and his words were filled with happiness. Although her family is not rich, her parents are willing to give her the best. When her test scores are not satisfactory, she will want to work harder next time instead of hiding from her parents like her classmates. When she encounters difficulties, her first thought is to ask her parents for help instead of avoiding them. Such parents give their children confidence and spiritual enrichment, and are the best family of origin for their children to grow up in. Sometimes, we are willing to give money, materials, and earnest expectations to our children, but we ignore time, companionship, and healing. What children need most is for their parents to use calm emotions and spend more time to care for and warm their hearts. They will have good attachment and security. This will form spiritual wealth that will nourish their children throughout their lives. Parents are the children\’s original family. Your love for your children will build the strongest wall in the family, giving them a sense of security that is not lacking in love and the courage to pursue their own lives. German educator Froebel once said: Is Sun Luhong\’s course worth buying? Download the complete video set of his lectures on family education, \”There is no other way to education than love and example.\” Educating children seems to be a long journey of thousands of miles, but after experiencing awakening, I discovered that the true meaning of education is nothing more than to do a good job. Self: Respect the independence of children and cut off the shackles of symbiosis; find your own value and influence children with the power of role models; enter the hearts of children and make them convinced that they are loved. Parents who work hard and continue to grow will leave a string of solid footprints and give their children the best example and motivation. When raising children, educate yourself first. I hope parents can wake up from the fog of upbringing and accompany their children to grow up in the best way.