Parents without compassion cannot raise kind children

Children love animals very much. Some parents around me raise puppies or rabbits for their children, and some even raise chickens. There is a family in the building next door to my sister’s house who raises two chickens, and they “walk the chickens” in the community every night. My daughter also likes these two chicks, and the \”owner\” of the chicks is a little girl about the same age as her daughter, so every day we wait in the community in advance for the two chicks to appear. Then one day, suddenly there was only one chick. The little girl told us that another kind of chick was killed by her. There was no sadness on her face when she said this, which shocked me. This little girl is indeed very cruel to the chicken every time she plays with it, or she will touch its head harshly. When she sees the chicken walking away, she will grab it and throw it to the ground desperately. , several times I thought the chick should have been knocked unconscious. But I could never have imagined that she would actually throw a chick to death. How could a little girl get rid of such a cute chick? Then one day, when the little girl slapped the chicken\’s head hard again, the little girl\’s father and mother appeared. The mother suddenly shouted to the little girl very loudly: Try patting the chicken on the head again. try? I asked my father to throw the chick directly into the trash can. While talking, the father actually grabbed the chicken and walked straight to the nearby trash can. My daughter and I were shocked and didn\’t know what to do. When the little girl saw this, she cried and hugged her father\’s thigh, begging him to return the chick to her. This father threw the chick in front of the little girl. Seeing my daughter and I next to her, the mother kept telling us that her daughter was not kind at all and always beat up chickens at home. No matter how hard she tried to persuade her, it was of no use and she would never raise animals for her again. At that moment, I suddenly understood why the little girl was so cruel as to throw the chicken to death. Because we all know that parents are their children’s first teachers, and their words and deeds have the greatest impact on their children. How can fathers and mothers who are equally unsympathetic to chicks raise kind children? Woolen cloth? If parents have no compassion, their children will never learn to be kind. My daughter has a good friend, Dongdong, who is recognized as a kind-hearted child. Parents in the community like him very much. He is also the child with the most friends. Once, a little bird came to the community park. It must have been injured. It was walking slowly in the park. The children who were playing all gathered around it. Some children threw small sticks, small stones, and leaves at the bird. , the braver children directly grabbed the bird with their hands… The bird tried to fly, but it was obvious that it had temporarily lost the ability to fly. While everyone was making a fuss, Dongdong suddenly rushed in front of the bird and shouted loudly: \”Don\’t hurt the baby bird, its mother will be worried.\” The three-year-old child\’s pronunciation is not very clear yet. He repeated this over and over again, attracting several adults to come over and drive away the naughty children. I was also at the scene at the time, and I almost burst into tears when I saw Tokyu. I quickly helped put the baby bird in a hidden place, and soon it was gone.A big bird flew over with an insect in its mouth. It seemed that the mother was looking for food for her baby. Such a young child actually knew how to protect the injured baby bird, which made me both touched and distressed. So I asked Dongdong, how did you know to protect the baby bird? He said: Mom and Dad said that if you step on the grass, the grass will hurt, and if you step on the ants, the ant mother will be anxious… He didn\’t express it very clearly, but I generally understood that it was his parents who had been educating him. , be compassionate and don\’t harm anything living. One day I met Dongdong\’s parents in the community, and I told them about Dongdong\’s performance that day. They said this was expected. \”If a child has no sympathy for small animals, he will not be kind to the people around him in the future.\” When Dongdong\’s father said this, his mother nodded frequently. Later, I overheard a conversation with neighbors and found out that Dongdong’s parents were both members of a small animal loving association. They would often take Dongdong with them to rescue stray animals. From the perspective of Dongdong\’s parents, parents themselves need to be compassionate. As their children grow up, they will learn to see the world with eyes full of love and grow into kind-hearted children. Some people say that kind children are the ones with the least friction with the world, and they are the ones who can easily become happy people. Because a kind child will not be too harsh on himself or others mentally. When he grows up, his attitude towards doing things will be more comfortable, his interpersonal relationships will be more harmonious, he will get more help and opportunities, and it will naturally be easier to obtain happiness. As parents, we all hope that we will be happy in the future, be enthusiastic and kind to the people around us, and hope that our children will not be indifferent, cruel, or hateful towards others… However, endless tragedies happen around us all the time. , negative news during this period flooded social media such as WeChat Moments and Weibo. Especially some time ago, a 2-year-old girl fell to her death because of a prank played by two other children. The prankster, who had a little kindness in his heart, was worried that his young sister would be scared if she was left alone in the elevator. tragedy will not happen. It is precisely because news like this happens almost every day that we try our best to learn and teach our children how to prevent such tragedies from happening to our children. But I think that what is more important than this is that we should strive to cultivate children to be kind people and let them learn not to hurt other people. When all children will not hurt other people, it will be natural. The tragedy will be much less. Richard Weissbourd is a Harvard psychologist who runs a project called \”Making Caring Common\” that aims to help children become loving, respectful and responsible people. A new study from the project shows that many parents don\’t know how to teach their children to be kind. Weissbourd and his team believe that kindness is not innate but needs to be nurtured by parents during childhood. For this they gave fiveOne of the suggestions is to let parents be strong moral role models and behavioral mentors for their children. They believe that children always form their own values ​​by observing and imitating the behavior of adults, especially those they respect (such as parents). Therefore, to cultivate a kind child, we must first become compassionate parents ourselves. We can take our children to participate in charity activities, volunteer, or be enthusiastic when meeting people in need of help in daily life. of extending our hands. Because it is impossible for an unsympathetic parent to raise kind children. Romain Rolland once said: Kindness is not a science, but a behavior. Parents are their children\’s most important behavioral mentors. In other words, your today is your child’s tomorrow. If you don\’t have any sympathy for the people and things around you, don\’t blame your children for being cruel and unkind in the future. Just like the parents who raised chickens for their children in the community, they obviously had no sympathy for such weak creatures as chickens. Their daughter behaved exactly like them. If they didn\’t realize their problem, no matter how they preached, the little girl would still treat the remaining chick cruelly and would not become much kinder. And an unkind child will hurt weak chickens and birds today, and will hurt people in the future… So, first let yourself learn to be compassionate and learn to treat the world with kindness. Only in this way can it be possible for children to remain kind, and no one will bully a kind child wherever he goes.