Personal experience: Parent-child reading has so many benefits, are you still hesitating?

You may have unlimited wealth, boxes of jewelry and cabinets of gold, but you will never be richer than me because I have a mother who reads to me.​ ​ ​ ​ ​—Strickland Gillilan (Strickland Gillilan) Before he knew it, the child was already over five years old. In the past five years, my children and I have read countless picture books together. As we read picture books, we have grown together. After five years of parent-child reading, for me, the biggest gain is growth and happiness. After really getting to know picture books in depth, I realized that Mr. Matsui Nao\’s words were by no means false. He said: \”Picture books are books suitable for people aged 0 to 99.\” The authors of picture books are adults with rich life experiences. Their works incorporate years of life experience and thinking, reflecting their world view, outlook on life and values. As long as we calm down and taste it slowly, we will definitely get happiness and nutrition from it. Picture books ignite dreams. I remember when I first read \”The Mole\’s Music\”, I was so excited that my previous dreams were ignited again. Little moles live underground. Tunnels are being dug every day. At first he liked this life very much. But after a while, he began to feel as if something was missing. One night, he heard the beautiful music played by a violin on TV and decided to practice the violin. At first, he played so hard that the birds flew away and the small trees withered. But he continued to practice. As the years passed, he got better and better. …At that time, I was just like a little mole, repeating the same life every day, but I often felt like \”something was missing\” in my heart. Watching the little mole diligently practicing the violin, I realized that my life has been lacking dreams and passion. So, I started thinking, what can I do? Later, I opened a WeChat official account and started reading promotion. Seeing that more and more people are beginning to understand picture books and insist on parent-child reading like me, I gradually feel enriched. Understand your children and understand yourself. The stories in picture books may be full of life philosophy and thought-provoking, such as \”The Music of the Mole\”. People with different experiences will definitely read different feelings from it; or they may be full of humanity and touching, such as \”The Music of the Mole\”. \”I am a Tyrannosaurus Rex\”; it can also seem absurd and meaningless, such as \”Duck Riding\”. In the world of picture books, I cry, laugh, and grow with my children. After watching \”David Can\’t\”, \”Edward – The Scariest Boy in the World\” and \”Madeline\”, I became more calm and peaceful in the face of children\’s naughty and trouble-making, because I understood: real and natural That\’s how it should be, kid. If a child acts sensible and obedient too early, that is the most terrible thing. \”The Mother Who Yells When She\’s Angry\” allowed me to truly feel the emotional changes of a child who was frightened out of his wits when his mother was angry, which helped me control my temper more consciously. \”Feifei is Angry\” made me understand that when a child loses his temper, the best way is to ignore it temporarily and let the child fully experience the process of being angry and learn to calm himself. When you want to be close to your children,In addition to saying \”Baby, I love you\”, you can also read \”Guess How Much I Love You\” and compete with your children to see who loves you more. When your children are scared, angry, or sad, take out the \”How I Feel\” series and tell them what emotions are and how to deal with them. When a child asks to play with him but can\’t think of a good idea, he can take out \”Dot, Dot, Dot\” and he can transform into a magician. Or take out \”Little Yellow and Little Blue\”, put out paints and drawing paper, and let the children \”create\” Little Green by themselves. If you want your father to read to your children, give him a set of \”Little Bear and the Best Dad\” series, \”Party\”, \”Playing Games\”, \”I Grow Up\”, \”Moving\”, \”Being a Chef\”… Let your children interact with Let\’s explore the new and interesting world of father and son together. Establishing a good parent-child relationship and reading picture books not only help me understand my children and myself better, but also allow me and my children to have a unique \”picture book secret language\”. When the child was more than 4 years old, one night, forgetting what happened, he suddenly said: \”I want to run away from home!\” Both father and grandmother were shocked! This child, at such a young age, is about to run away from home. What will happen when he grows up? Only I know that he was influenced by the picture book \”The Runaway Bunny\”. So I asked calmly: \”Little rabbit, where are you going to escape to? I\’m going to chase you!\” (My child happens to be a rabbit) \”I want to become a little fish and swim far away. \”Then I will become a fisherman and catch you.\” \”Then I will become a bird and fly high.\” \”I will become a big tree and let you land on it.\”… \”Little rabbit, don\’t run away. You can\’t escape from your mother\’s hands.\” Finally, I hugged the child. In this way, the child\’s seemingly \”thrilling\” plan \”died\” in our playfulness. Dad and grandma were nearby and felt baffled. The child and I looked at each other and smiled. Only my child and I understand what is going on. This is the \”secret language of picture books\” between us. At this time, I strongly feel that the close relationship between me and my children has taken a step closer. Everyone must have experienced this: after sharing a secret with someone, we feel closer to that person. The foundation of parent-child education is built on close relationships. Children are more willing to listen to me at home, which is inseparable from our shared picture book reading experience and feelings. So I often tell my friends: If you want your children to listen to you, you must first establish a good intimate relationship with your children; if you want to establish a good intimate relationship with your children, the best way is to insist on parent-child reading. My children\’s growth surprises me. I fully enjoy the joy of reading picture books with my children. I never expect my children to learn any knowledge and skills from the books, but my children\’s development brings me surprises again and again. He didn\’t learn to speak a complete sentence until he was 2 years old, but his language skills developed rapidly after that, and he often made some amazing words that amazed adults. Most importantly, he can accurately express his needs and feelings, identify his own and other people\’s emotions, and handle his emotions quickly and correctly. For example, when he was two or three years old, when he saw other children crying, he would go over to comfort them; when my husband and I quarreled, he would treat us asThe lubricant persuaded us to make peace; after getting upset and losing our temper, we soon started playing happily again. In terms of emotional processing, many times I feel inferior to myself. Around the age of 4, he entered a sensitive period for literacy. I am opposed to teaching children to read too early, so I have never read to him by pointing to the words, but I was pleasantly surprised to find that he knew many words without knowing it. At the same time, he began to \”draw\” according to the book, and also developed a strong interest in writing. He often plays the role of kindergarten teacher, letting me be his student and \”teaching\” me how to read and write. Teaching is the best way to learn. By playing the role of teacher, his ability to control the strokes and structure of Chinese characters is getting better and better. When he was 5 years old, he could write as well as a first grader. More importantly, he always maintains this enthusiasm for learning, which brings him great enjoyment and sense of accomplishment. I believe that the writing ability of 5-year-old Rooney in terms of language, emotion, and writing is the result of the development of his nature, but it is also closely related to our long-term parent-child reading together. I remember an education expert said: Reading is the most cost-effective educational investment. I deeply agree with this.