Planning for children reflects the pattern of parents

My friend Zheng Xin is the CEO of a listed company and a graduate of an Ivy League school. He has very strict requirements for his children. Since childhood, my daughter Yueyue has been required to consider whether everything she does is beneficial to people and society, and then consider the meaning of the matter itself. When Yueyue was very young, they once held a birthday party for Yueyue outside. There was a child whose mother dropped her child off for a birthday party and left on her own. He said he would pick up the children when it was over. As a result, the child became a temporarily free person. The child threw the uneaten birthday cake, the cake and the finished juice carton on the ground. It made a mess on the ground, but he refused to admit that he threw it. Yueyue, who was still celebrating her third birthday, said seriously to her good friend: You can\’t lie! Don\’t throw the cake on the ground like this. You need to pick it up and throw it in the trash. Throw the juice carton in the recycling bin. The words are not very clear, but the general idea is this. The adults nearby couldn\’t help but laugh, and they all wanted to help this child clean up the cakes and juice boxes on the floor. But little Yueyue insisted on letting the child clean up by himself. She said that her father said: You must bear the responsibility for anything you do wrong. Throwing the cake on the floor is a waste of cake and makes the place dirty. It\’s not right. Juice boxes must be placed in the recycling bin. Because it is an environmental requirement. All of a sudden, all the parents gathered around Zheng Xin and asked why he had learned how to recycle garbage and be environmentally friendly before his third birthday. This is too avant-garde. Do you plan to send your children to work in the United Nations in the future? Zheng Xin also has a more avant-garde parenting philosophy. Usually he just makes sure that Liu Yue\’s studies need to reach the top 10 in the class, but he gives the child a fixed social fee of 200 US dollars every month. Children need to spend this money on socializing with friends. And at the end of the month, the child has to report to his father how the money was spent. What effect does it have on the growth of friendships in children. To what extent has the friendship grown? My daughter and Yueyue have been in the same class since they were two years old, so we are often invited to watch movies, skate, and go boating. And my daughter often asks me whether she should be lifelong good friends and besties with Yueyue. It can be seen that Zheng Xin is teaching his daughter to develop the habits and skills of cultivating her own hardcore circle from an early age. As a senior business person, I fully understand the hard work behind his efforts and secretly applaud him. And Yueyue, at a young age, has decided to aspire to be the Prime Minister of Australia and serve the people when she grows up. I wouldn’t be surprised if the children raised by parents with such a pattern can become world leaders, not just prime ministers. Because I agree with Zheng Xin’s views, I strongly support my daughter’s friendship with Yueyue, and I have also become family friends with Zheng Xin’s family. Planning for children fully reflects the pattern of parents. Conscientious parents will definitely not only ask their children to get high scores. High scores alone do not mean that the child is a promising person who is useful to society. Many doctoral students kill their mothers, classmates, and spouses, and they are crazy. It is shocking to the society. How could such a high-level education be able to cultivate such talents? What went wrong. high patternParents plan for their children\’s future starting from their moral character, thoughts, relationships with classmates, and skills. Low-profile parents either only look at the short-term test scores in front of them, or rely on opportunism to win, or they instill in their children the concept of money first and refined self-interest. As for personal morality, they are all ignored. In the Jiang Ge case, Liu Xin\’s parents had the opposite effect of educating their children, which was a typical egoistic education plan and a very low-profile plan. As Jiang Ge\’s best friend, Liu Xin not only did not take action to deal with the murderer when Jiang Ge risked his life to save her, but instead closed the door and let Jiang Ge, who was trying to save her, be stabbed to death outside the door. Even after Jiang Ge died, he refused to cooperate with the police in making a basic witness. Such a personality was not only criticized in this case, but also for the rest of his life, Liu Xin was afraid that he would live like a rat crossing the street. I would like to ask, how should Liu Xin explain his dignity and self-respect to himself as a person. When she returns from her dream at midnight, will she be awakened by Jiang Ge\’s cry for help outside the door? Whether she will have severe sequelae of split personality. In this case, it can be said that Liu Xin\’s parents\’ education plan for their children not only failed, but also harmed their own daughter. For such a young person, even if the law bypasses her this time and does not convict her of a crime, the moral judgment and the pace of her future life will definitely be determined step by step. Xiaojie\’s parents are both leaders of state-owned banks in China. Therefore, after graduating from a foreign university, his parents also hoped that he could work in a bank. But two years after graduation, Xiaojie couldn\’t find a job in a bank. In the end, he finally paid someone to find a job opportunity in a bank. However, Xiaojie did not focus his time and energy on learning and improving his work ability every day. Instead, he focused on observing his boss\’s words and actions and being submissive to his colleagues. If you can\’t handle it with your own business ability, you can solve it by giving gifts. In the end, after giving the gift, I still didn\’t get the chance to become a regular employee because I really didn\’t have much work ability. Xiaojie\’s parents were both from banking families, but their life and study plans were very unsuccessful and very low-profile. Once a child receives a low-level, opportunistic, money-oriented education from an early age, he or she will not believe in God\’s reward for hard work and will work hard in a down-to-earth manner when they grow up. Ivana, the ex-wife of current US President Trump, has a high-level plan for the education of her three outstanding children. During her 14-year marriage to Trump, Ivana was a thriving working woman. She was in charge of the children before the divorce. After the divorce, she asked for custody of her three children, educated them until they were 21, and then handed them a \”finished product\” to her husband. This finished product embodies a woman\’s interpretation of life, understanding and dialogue with the world, and her own pattern. Ivana said that there is no miracle in educating children. She just asked her children very simply and rudely: they must not lie, cheat, or steal, and they must not smoke, take drugs, or drink alcohol. She encourages children to actively participate in competitive sports and gives them different cultural and artistic influences. She held her children accountable for all their actions. The most important thing and what Ivana is most proud of is that she teaches the children by example what isHuman dignity, diligence, and determination allow children to assume responsibilities commensurate with their age. She believes that if they don’t take responsibility when they are young, what they will have to take on when they grow up will be more than their parents can afford. As the divorced children of a rich family, her children can grow up to be the most dangerous, drug-addicted, poor little rich people, but her sons are devoted husbands and powerful fathers, and all of them run billions of dollars in business. company. Daughter Ivanka is the perfect mother and wife. She has her own branded lingerie, jewelry and shoe business, and has written 2 books. The American people feel that although Trump looks very unreliable. But with his daughter being so perfect and loving her father so much, the old man couldn\’t go wrong. Therefore, her power and contribution to her father Trump\’s successful campaign for the US President cannot be underestimated. We can see that when parents put their children’s ideological and moral education first, the children can take on big responsibilities when they grow up, such as Ivana’s three children. And when parents only care about teaching their children how to be opportunistic and strive for fame and fortune, the children usually do not even have basic survival skills. This is such a wonderful yet simple truth. It\’s a pity that for thousands of years there have always been parents who went against the grain. Trump’s ex-wife Ivana So how should she plan her children’s life? Ivana said that the mother creates the child. The creation she talks about has two meanings. The mother gives birth to the child\’s physical life during pregnancy, but the mother is also the creator of the child\’s spiritual life. It can be said that how big the mother\’s pattern is, how big the child\’s world is. Chinese people often say that a woman determines three generations of a family. Of course, the father\’s pattern is also extremely important. If parents can be androgynous and work together to plan their children\’s lives in a high-level way, the children can avoid many detours. The high-level planning of children\’s life education should start from three major aspects. 1. Plan and teach children about their relationship with heaven, earth, and the world. That is to say, regulating children\’s spirit, moral character, and thoughts from an early age. When a child is planned and taught from an early age to respect the world and human nature, he will not forget the existence of the world for the sake of fame and wealth. He can remain calm and share weal and woe. You can be a role model and benchmark for others throughout your life. 2. Plan the relationship between the child and himself. How should children face themselves? If they have a violent personality, they should be guided in a gentle direction. If a child is weak, he should be trained to be strong. How to improve your learning ability by yourself. Only such children will know how to tap their potential. Because with the advancement of the times and the advancement of science and technology, the waves behind the Yangtze River push the waves ahead. Each generation has its own unique advantages and resources. Only those who know how to explore can be at the forefront of this era and be a trend-setter. Children who rely solely on their parents will not be successful leaders in any dynasty, whether in the past or in the future. 3. The last step is to plan the education of children’s relationships with others. That is, the child\’s ability to make friends and get along with classmates and friends. Only such children can survive with their own independent personalities and will not rely on their parents.Mothers may be swayed by social trends and will be leaders of mankind, rather than just followers who follow what others say. When others are in trouble, they will draw their swords to help. But in the face of danger and villains, we will set boundaries in a timely manner so as not to be harmed. In Jiang Ge\’s case, Liu Xin\’s parents were certainly low-profile, failed parents, but if Jiang Ge had been taught how to protect his boundaries when he was growing up, he might have been in a different situation today. In China, most parents only plan their children\’s relationship with themselves, but rarely plan their children\’s relationship with the world and others. These are the two missing aspects. Only education that is planned in all three aspects can reflect the high profile of parents. If your family already has children, what kind of life plans have you made for your children? If you don’t have children yet, what kind of plan are you going to make for your future children?