Please stay at home for such a naughty kid.

A few days ago, Yuehua saw a video and was frightened. This is a video posted by Xuan Kejiong, a well-known social media person in Shanghai. The incident happened in a kindergarten in Jiangsu and Zhejiang. There was a child over 2 years old who especially liked to provoke others. He first took a stool and was about to hit someone, but the teacher pulled him away and pulled the stool away. After confiscating it, the boy quickly stepped forward and pushed an innocent little girl holding clothes next to him. The corner of the girl\’s mouth hit the corner of the table, leaving a small wound. The little girl was so frightened that she cried loudly, but the little boy did nothing. Those who didn’t ran away. Seeing this, Yuehua was already frightened. This action was too scary. If the little girl hit her head or eyes on the corner of the table, the consequences would be disastrous. I never thought that this was not the most terrifying thing. Soon, the child ran back and attacked another innocent child. This child was thrown to the ground and his head hit the wall so hard that I felt a headache after watching it. You can click below to watch the full video. This is definitely a test of the psychological endurance of every parent of a child who has been spanked! As a bystander, I was horrified to watch, not to mention the parents of their children who were beaten. Seeing their children being treated with such \”violence\” would probably break my heart, right? The strangest thing is the kindergarten\’s attitude towards it. The child was pushed down in the morning and the corner of his mouth was injured. The kindergarten teacher did not notify the parents in time. He only told the parents in an understatement when school was over in the afternoon that the child was pushed and his teeth were knocked. After asking about the child, the parents realized something was wrong and asked to check the surveillance. Only then did they realize that the child had been pushed so seriously. The wound was not caused by teeth, but by the corner of the table. The parent was very angry, thinking that so many children were being attacked and the teachers had not been more vigilant. She accused the kindergarten of poor supervision. After she uploaded these videos to the parents’ WeChat group, she asked the kindergarten to give an explanation. Unexpectedly, it triggered the incident of beating the boy. Dissatisfaction among parents and kindergartens. Parents believe that children who hit others like this should drop out of school. The principal of the kindergarten said that they had communicated with the boy\’s parents as soon as possible and had also advised the parents to change their children to kindergarten. However, the parents did not agree, so the kindergarten cannot force the children to withdraw from school. After all, the children are only 2 years old and are very malleable. Just blame, let alone randomly \”label\” a 2-year-old child. I don’t deny that the kindergarten principal’s attitude makes sense. Yuehua himself has written numerous articles calling on parents to understand their children with kindness and not to label them with adult opinions. She also wrote in particular, \”There is a little bully in the family who loves to \”beat\” people. I want to use such a violent one.\” What to do with the children? \”An article to explain the reasons in detail. But this time, Yuehua felt that this kid who hit people everywhere should drop out of school and go home! why? The reason is the child\’s age, only 2 years old. Children at this stage have just emerged from complete attachment to their mothers and are becoming socially aware. They see children of the same age wanting to socialize. But children\’s understanding is limited. Some children don\’t know how to show intimacy. When they see children of similar age, they will wave up without knowing the importance. Some children are afraid of getting too close to other children. Being too close will make them feel insecure, so they will wave the other children out of their safe zone.around. These two behaviors will be considered \”beating\” in the eyes of adults. At this time, parents’ attitude is very important. If a parent sees a child hitting someone and just says to the child: \”No hitting,\” the child may not understand what the parent means. He only knows that his behavior is called \”beating,\” but his psychological needs are not seen. This behavior will continue. If a parent sees his child hitting someone and wants to punish him, the child will think that his behavior is correct from the parent\’s actions, and he will also think that he will hit the child harder. Therefore, in order to prevent children around 2 years old from hitting others, the way parents deal with them is very important. The child in the video does not understand the rules at all, does not understand what safe behavior is, and does not know how to interact with other children in a group environment. The best thing to do at this time is for parents to take him with them and teach him patiently. . When you are at home, read more picture books about interpersonal communication with your children. Through picture books, let your children know how they can greet other children. At the same time, role-play with the baby\’s favorite dolls, cars, small animals, etc. to demonstrate to the baby what the correct way to communicate is. When taking your baby out, you should follow him closely. When he approaches other children, guide him in a timely manner on how to interact with other children. When other children approach him, you should also let the two children know in a timely manner. Keep a safe distance to prevent children from hurting other children without paying attention. When a child is shown the right thing to do over and over again, he will know what he should do. Only when a child understands the correct approach and how to get along with other children, will he be able to get along with other children in a friendly manner by letting him go to kindergarten. Children are constantly growing. A 2-year-old child is completely different from a 3-year-old child, and their interaction needs are also different. For a child who likes to hit others, let him stay at home for a while until he becomes more mature and has self-control. The only responsible thing to do is to join the group with stronger abilities. Moreover, the legal entry age for kindergarten is originally 3 years old, not 2 years old. Parents who rush to send him to kindergarten are not only irresponsible for the child, but also irresponsible for other children. So many children were injured because of this. Shouldn\’t the kindergarten and parents reflect on it? Perhaps this parent is already worried about their child hitting others, so they want to send their child to kindergarten, hoping that the teacher can deter the child. But if the child himself has not established the correct concepts and does not care about the teacher at all, how can the teacher deter the child? Another point is that when the children are at home, parents can stay close by and take care of them in a timely manner. But in kindergartens, a kindergarten class usually has two teachers, one childcare worker, and dozens of children. Even if there are only 10 children in a class, each teacher has to take care of three children at the same time, which makes it easy to fail to provide care. If there is a hitting child in the class, the safety threat to other children will be greatly increased. If the kindergarten feels that it should provide an environment for the child to grow, in this caseA teacher should be assigned to follow this hitting child at all times until he learns correct interpersonal communication. If the kindergarten can\’t do it, it should discuss more solutions instead of just solving the problem by saying that we need to give children \”room to grow.\” Does it mean that the personal safety of other children deserves to be sacrificed? Do other children deserve to be beaten? As the old saying goes, \”It\’s the father\’s fault if he doesn\’t educate his children.\” If children are not educated well, it is the family\’s responsibility and the parents\’ problem. For children who continue to have problems, parents must face the problem squarely and guide them in the correct way. This is the only way to be responsible for their children. I sincerely hope that such a naughty kid can stay at home for a while!