Positive parents are the lucky ones in their children’s lives

Negative energy is contagious. When you go shopping with a friend, and the other person suddenly becomes depressed, and you lose all interest in an instant; when you take a taxi, and the driver keeps honking the horn angrily, you will suddenly feel stressed in the back seat; when your partner goes to work After being criticized and feeling low pressure after returning home, you may also be unhappy… Plants grow toward the sun. The same goes for people, everyone wants to be close to people with positive energy. If a person\’s heart is filled with negative energy, it will make people want to run away after being together for a long time. Negative energy not only affects our own happiness, but also affects the state of those around us. In a family, children are the most susceptible to being infected by their parents’ emotions. If we hold too much anxiety, restlessness, worry, guilt, disappointment… these negative energies are like second-hand smoke and are constantly absorbed by the children. If you want to raise happy children, don\’t be a parent who exudes negative energy anytime and anywhere. Children who are surrounded by the \”negative energy\” of their parents know a mother who is a typical \”pessimist\”. The negative energy emanating from her body often makes people around her feel very hard. Once, a group of adults were going to take their children out to play for a day. Unexpectedly, the weather was not good and it was going to rain soon. Other friends were trying to find another indoor place to play, but she was the only one worrying: Damn it, will the rain stop anytime soon? Now the washed quilt cover won’t dry anymore! Why am I so unlucky as soon as I go out? The 10-year-old daughter stood aside, like an eggplant beaten by frost, her energy to go out to play was instantly gone. Negative parents keep complaining about problems, wallow in self-pity, struggle with their own emotions, and never really try to solve problems. If even the mother is so pessimistic, where can the child get the courage and confidence to solve the big and small problems in life? When I was young, I heard a saying: \”A sigh will make you poor for three years\”, which means that people should never sigh, as sighing will \”sigh\” away good luck. Parents with negative energy will also \”sigh\” away their children\’s hope and enthusiasm for life, and consume their children\’s energy with resentment and negative emotions. In today\’s interpersonal and intimate relationships, more and more people will mention the term \”emotional value\”, which refers to a person\’s ability to influence the emotions of others. The more a person can bring comfort, pleasure and stable emotions to others, the higher the emotional value of this person; on the contrary, the lower the emotional value of a person who always makes other people feel awkward, angry and embarrassed. Emotional value exists in our parent-child relationship, and its contents include tolerance, attention, support and comfort, etc. This is one of the manifestations of positive energy of parents. Parents who can stably provide emotional value are generally emotionally mature people. They are not only responsible for their own emotions, but can also effectively channel their children\’s emotions. Similarly, when it rains heavily while traveling: emotionally mature parents will say: \”Let\’s play at home for a while and wait until the rain stops! The dust has been washed away by the rain, and the air is fresher!\” Emotionally immature parents are exactly the opposite: \”Go out. It’s just raining, so bad luck.” Not only will you be trapped in the quagmire of negative emotions, but you will also pass on your pessimism and pain to your children. This different interpretation of cause and effect affects how children see the world. A child receives too many negative explanations,It will also gradually become pessimistic. Positive energy, illuminating children\’s hearts. The movie \”Life is Beautiful\” tells a very sad story: under the fascist regime, a father and son were forcibly sent to a Jewish concentration camp. The optimistic father coaxed his son that this was a points game. As long as If you don\’t clamor for your mother, don\’t cry, don\’t make a fuss, and don\’t shout for snacks, you can get points. The first person to get 1,000 points will get a big tank as the final prize. For this lie, the father tried his best to appear happy in the concentration camp, and his funny appearance often amused his son. Even when he walked to the execution ground, his father pretended to wave his hands and feet happily, like a clown, just to make the child believe that this was just a game. This beautiful lie allowed the children to feel no fear in the haze of the Nazis. \”Life is Beautiful\” touched many people. The father in the film never complained about the cruelty of the concentration camp. Instead, he used white lies to protect his children\’s innocence and make them believe that the dawn of life was ahead. Parents who face life positively are always the best role models for their children. Children are like a blank sheet of paper. Their initial attitude towards life comes from how their parents explain it to them. When parents are confident about their future life, this blank sheet of paper will also be painted with colorful colors. Romain Rolland has a famous saying: \”There is only one true heroism in the world, which is to still love life after recognizing it clearly.\” It is this kind of courage that parents\’ positive energy is passed on to their children. I have read a story about a child who got 36 points in math. When he got home, he showed the test paper to his father very nervously. The father was not angry. He turned over the test paper and said, \”Is it okay to take 50 next time? We just have to work hard.\” This optimism and indifference towards learning moved the child. Raising children with faith and encouraging every small improvement of their children is something that many parents can learn from. On the road to education, parents need to have such a positive and optimistic attitude, because our attitude towards life is a kind of education. Good parents must learn to \”manage negative energy\”. Everyone\’s understanding of positive energy is different. I understand that positive energy requires two basic elements: stable emotions and a positive attitude. It\’s not easy to do both. Some parents said: \”I don\’t want to be negative. Life is really overwhelming.\” Indeed, encouraging people to be optimistic and positive can also create a sense of oppression. After all, not everyone can do it all the time. Invincible. But negative emotions are a normal part of life, and we must learn to get along well with them. There is a passage in the book \”The Power of Positive Emotions\”: \”We do not feel positive emotions because our life is satisfactory and our body is healthy, but sincere positive emotions create a complete and healthy life.\” In a popular sentence As the saying goes: Life is a mirror, if you smile at it, it will smile at you; if you cry at it, it will cry at you. So, emotions are sometimes a choice. People\’s living conditions are not entirely determined by the surrounding environment. We feel that life is very hard, maybe we are just trapped by our own inertial thinking. A positive attitude can make life full of sunshine, and then work hard to change something. Everyone’s life is actually not easy, that isYou can\’t change the difficulties in front of you, but you can change your perspective on the difficulties or give yourself energy to face them. For example: cherish and value your body and exercise more; read more books to enrich your heart; when you are tired, take time to go out and relax… These can help us love ourselves and bring us positive energy. From this perspective, only by loving yourself can you have more energy to love your children. What your children are most happy to see is that you can be happy too. Only when a child sees energetic parents can he play and learn in his little world with peace of mind. At the same time, influenced by you, he will view problems more positively and his family will be happier. When we can put aside our anxiety and face various problems in life with optimism, I believe this can also light the way for our children.