Praising and encouraging children is a science. What should we praise and how should we praise them?

More and more parents realize that cracking down on education and belittling education are not conducive to the growth of their children. Ever since, they turned to praising them vigorously, hoping to encourage their children to make progress. The original intention is good, but if they are not careful, they will fall into the trap of \”praising education\”: no matter what the children do, as long as they don\’t cause trouble or make mistakes, they will immediately praise \”awesome\” and \”so smart\”… As time goes by, the child\’s interest will not be as good as before, and he may even become bored and disgusted. Tian Hongjie, a child psychology education expert, once said: \”The wrong way of praising is like poison.\” In order to avoid \”good intentions leading to bad things\”, we should figure out what should be praised and how should be praised. In this regard, the author has summarized 3 principles for praising children, and you will be right to follow them! He praised his children for going to school in time for the end of the semester. Zhuo Zi won the honor of being one of the three best students and handed the certificate to his father as soon as he got home. Due to the busy business at the end of the year, my father said \”hmm\” twice and went back to work. Zhuo Zi was very disappointed. Not long ago, when school was about to start, his father told Zhuo Zi to study hard. He suddenly remembered something and added: \”You seemed to have gotten a good student last time. Not bad. Keep working hard this semester!\” Zhuo Zi agreed while tidying up. He no longer had the same emotions as before. sense of accomplishment and motivation. When children need recognition most, a timely praise will make them full of confidence and motivation. If you delay for too long, it will send a signal of \”not being noticed\” to the children, which will seriously weaken their ambition. So please remember that when you praise your children, you must do it in a timely manner! 474 classic children\’s songs and nursery rhymes, a complete collection of English videos for children\’s enlightenment, 3D ultra-clear 1080P, to praise your children, be as specific as possible. Last month, my best friend brought her daughter to my house to play, and while chatting, the topic of parenting came up. My best friend complained bitterly: \”For some reason lately, the little one doesn\’t like me praising her, and will cover her ears to protest…\” While she was going to the bathroom, I joined the children\’s games and checked out the situation. I just heard the girl say: \”My mother always compliments me on how great I am. I asked her what was great about me, but she couldn\’t tell me for a long time. I thought she was just perfunctory, like a repeater, not sincere at all!\” General praise, or It doesn\’t hurt or itches, or it will make the child blind and arrogant. The correct praise should directly point out what the child has done well and affirm their bravery, attitude, hard work and progress. Only in this way can children keep it in mind and continue to maintain it. When you praise your children, don’t forget to ask them to keep up their hard work. Last year, a top student in the college entrance examination came out of the community, and everyone asked for methods and experience. The first thing the father of the top student mentioned was the importance of praise: \”Good children are praised, but I never praise children for no reason. Moreover, praise cannot just serve the present and make children happy.\” In other words, even if the words of praise are finished, the validity period of the praise has just begun.\” Forward-looking parents not only give their children a sense of accomplishment when praising them, but also consciously let them The child keeps trying. Through praise, tell children that they have potential and ability, but be careful not to set too high goals in advance to avoid giving childrenToo much psychological burden. In this way, children will do better and better. In addition to the above three points, there are some taboos that you should pay attention to when praising your children. For example, do not praise or belittle others, focus only on the child himself, and do not evaluate others too much to prevent the child from becoming conceited. For example, do not praise words such as \”smart\” to avoid making children proud and causing wrong self-evaluation. Praising children is a knowledge and an art. When we master the basic principles of praising children and learn some methods and techniques of praising children, then we can really praise good children!