Problem children originate from \”strong mother + invisible father\”

The famous American psychologist Gerdi said that father is a unique existence and has a special power in cultivating children. Gao Xiaosong is known as a \”genius\” of a generation. He has a super high IQ but some weird personalities. At a \”Qi Pa Conference\”, Gao Xiaosong talked about his father. He said emotionally: \”I have never asked my father a question in my life, whether it is about study or anything else.\” Gao Xiaosong\’s parents divorced very early Gao Xiaosong once tried to contact his father, but was rejected, which made him very desperate. Gao Xiaosong said that he began to become rebellious and went against others. As a result, he did many wrong things. It was not until he was over fifty that he began to reconcile with himself. The ancients said, \”It is the fault of the father to raise a child without educating him.\” Psychological research has found that children who lack father\’s love since childhood are most likely to have problems such as rebellion, poor self-control, isolation, anxiety and so on. However, there are a large number of fathers in today\’s society who rarely participate in the growth of their children. Who should bear the blame? 52 compulsory lessons for Chinese parents during the critical period of children\’s growth mp3 Character determines destiny: without father\’s love, mother\’s love will also deteriorate, and children can only sink after despair. My classmate Hui Hui once chatted with me endlessly. She said that she If you don’t love your parents at all, are you born to be a heinous person? My biggest wish since childhood is to stay far away from home, preferably never to come back again. Our parents raised us up, so why would some people hate their parents so much? Huihui\’s father is a truck driver and is away from home all year round. Even when he comes home, he sleeps, plays cards, and drinks. The mother raised three children by herself and had to take care of all the housework. She was overworked and had a very bad temper. Whenever the children disagreed with her, there was never any communication process, they were just beaten and scolded. Of course, my mother often quarreled with my father. My mother felt that people like him should not get married and have children. Since he did not want to take on the responsibilities of the family, he should not have a family. However, my father felt that he was the biggest contributor to the family as he supported the family. Huihui never felt that the two of them were the main contributors, and the kindness they had given her in raising her had been completely consumed by her father\’s indifference and her mother\’s hysteria. As she grew up, Huihui became rebellious and sensitive. When she was in college, the longest she didn\’t go home was more than two years. The mother may love her children, but her bad temper may really be because she is overwhelmed by life, and the children\’s mistakes become an outlet. However, the young hearts of the children have been hurt that they should not bear. The missing father leads to an anxious and irritable mother, but the poor child is the one who suffers the most. With the company of their father, it is easier for children to grow into excellent people. The modern hit drama \”Days of Our Lives\” was released. \”Wang Xuehua\”, the daughter of \”Liu Shuxia\” and \”Wang Xianping\” in the drama, became one of the audience\’s favorite characters. She acted chivalrously and protected her little boys Dongfanghong and Yang Siyu. When they were bullied, Xuehua dared to fight with the senior children and argued with parents and teachers. Although grandma is very biasedBrother Xin, Xuehua is still the most confident child in life, and this is inseparable from her father\’s love for her. The mother complains that her daughter is stupid, but the father says that she has spiritual energy. The grandmother favors her brother and locks away snacks. The father and daughter will \”steal\” the snacks from the grandmother\’s cabinet together. In the morning, they would practice military gymnastics together to make their daughter stronger and braver. Her father was Snowflake\’s greatest sense of security, and she became the most lively and cheerful child in the whole show. We always say that a father\’s love is like a mountain, but father\’s love does not mean sitting still on the sofa playing with mobile phones and watching TV. How to accompany children efficiently is also an issue that fathers should consider carefully. How can fathers play with their children in a way that is beneficial to their growth? A little guide for busy dads ① Seize the time with your children, communicate more, or do sports and games. Fan Deng said that while his son was playing with toys and he was playing with his mobile phone, he was complained by his son: \”You are always like this.\” Only then did he realize that this was not real companionship at all, and the child did not like it. Children like to play with their dad because dad can bring them more novel gaming experiences. Therefore, dad’s high-quality companionship should be dynamic, including games and sports. Only when dad participates in the child’s world can the child be stimulated to the fullest extent. potential and experience the love of the father. ② Treat children as friends and care about their study and life. The father is the \”peacemaker\” who eases the parent-child relationship between the child and the mother. The mother may complain about the child\’s various \”crimes\” because she is more in charge of the child. Smart fathers will persuade mothers to dispel their anxieties, and then communicate with their children to solve real problems that may exist with them. If the mother is a strong \”tiger mother\”, the father should play the role of a kind \”cat father\”, guide the child with an equal and democratic attitude, pay more attention to the child\’s inner world, and be more friendly to the child\’s problems in life and study. Sincere suggestions and a good attitude may make children accept it better. Although becoming a parent does not require an exam, it is a very severe test for us. Children only have one childhood, and we have no chance of failure, we can only succeed!