Psychological and educational methods for eight-year-old children

[8 years old] Have the ability to evaluate affairs. Likes to run out, is quick in action, and has the ability to evaluate affairs. In other words, the establishment of moral consciousness begins from here. Can quickly complete the things you ask, and even like to do it quickly to win your praise. He can also summarize and evaluate what he has accomplished, identify his shortcomings, and conduct self-criticism. He has a very close relationship with his mother. A 6-year-old child will talk back to her mother, a 7-year-old child will complain about her mother, and an 8-year-old child likes to cling to her mother, observe her words and expressions to please her mother, and may even do things she doesn\’t like to please her. Therefore, he was deeply influenced by his mother at this time. As long as the mother can maintain a comfortable parent-child relationship and give her child enough care and attention, it is very easy to get along with her 8-year-old child. Often, just one look from his mother is enough to curb his naughty behavior, and no more preaching is needed. Because 8-year-old children care very much about intimate time with their mothers, you can use this to negotiate with your children. For example, after your child does something, you can spend some time together doing something that your child wants to do with you. . When your child wants to satisfy you and please you, he is actually very eager for your praise, time, attention, and love. Therefore, you should pay more attention to him and don\’t be stingy with praise and encouragement. An 8-year-old child already has a very clear concept of good, evil, right and wrong, begins to establish moral awareness, and begins to think about more abstract concepts. He aspires to be a good child, strives to achieve his own goals, and strives to live up to what they consider their parents\’ standards. Although 8-year-olds still like to brag and exaggerate, they can now tell the difference between fact and fantasy, and they do tell the truth about important things. He cares about \”his\” things and likes to acquire, exchange, and deal with his own things. A love of money may drive him to take family money, or to make money by doing things for his parents. Therefore, money is a good behavioral inducement for an 8-year-old child. A typical 8-year-old child usually develops towards a rational and good moral consciousness. However, they are children after all, and parents should accept their small mistakes. The first \”signature trait\” of an 8-year-old is an outgoing and cheerful personality. This is the complete opposite of the sullen withdrawal of a 7-year-old. He is full of energy, can run, jump and toss, and likes to rush forward to face all difficulties and challenges. Not only that, he is full of energy and can do things much more cheerfully, which is completely opposite to the 7-year-old who grinds and grinds and drags and drags. Another thing that is completely opposite to the 7-year-old is that he suddenly becomes a chatterbox. He became very talkative and exaggerated. When telling his experiences or stories, his tone, expression, word choice, and description were all very dramatic. He looks at himself and others. He suddenly became very strict with himself and others, and could even be said to be very harsh. This \”examination\” also allowed him to make a fairly accurate judgment about what he was capable of. This word \”examination\” brings another milestone in the growth of 8-year-old children, which is that they begin to establish the concept of moral right and wrong, and begin to understand the cause-and-effect relationship between things. heI am very willing to be a good child, willing to do things well, and willing to follow the rules. His concept of good and bad is no longer limited to whether his parents allow him to do something, but based on his budding causal logical relationship, he has initially established a concept of right and wrong. Before that, children\’s judgments of \”good\” and \”bad\” came from their parents\’ \”permission\” or \”disapproval\”. The 8-year-old\’s view of \”right and wrong\” is no longer simply the polarities of \”good and bad\”, and his thinking has begun to become fuller. Although he can boast and talk, he is more inclined to tell the truth when it comes to important matters. At this time, he actually knew the difference between reality and fantasy. On the one hand, he was still fascinated by magic, but on the other hand, he began to not really believe in its \”magic\”. On the one hand, he still hopes that Santa Claus really exists, but on the other hand, he also vaguely understands that his parents probably will not buy him all the toys on his \”gift list\”. He cares about how he feels about himself and how others feel about him. He will keep his ears open to listen to what adults say about him when they chat, or try to figure out their expressions when they talk, hoping to be recognized and praised by others. He is very sensitive to criticism from others because he really wants and cares about doing well. So when he is criticized, he often looks for excuses or blames others first, so that he can bear it more easily. However, once he is really in the wrong, he will sincerely apologize and promise \”nothing will happen again in the future.\” Eight-year-olds are very clingy to their mothers and are the age when they need their mothers most emotionally (rather than physically). He desperately needs his mother to share his thoughts, fantasies, conversations, and games at this time. He always likes to be with his mother, including working, playing, chatting, and reading together, which makes him feel that he \”owns\” all of her. Not only does he require his mother to satisfy his needs according to his wishes, but he also requires himself to satisfy her according to her wishes (and what he thinks is her mother\’s wishes). This enables him to observe words and emotions and try to please him in order to please his mother. No matter how busy a mother is, she must allocate at least half an hour every day to satisfy her children wholeheartedly. The psychological need of \”possessing all of mother\”. This will help the child to successfully go through the period of psychological attachment to the mother and lay a solid foundation for the child to calmly move towards independence at the age of 9. The mother may also wish to take advantage of the child\’s willingness to \”own\” the mother and to please the mother, and make an appointment with the child. If the child does something, the mother will share a devoted \”family time\” with him. The 8-year-old\’s \”time concept\” has improved greatly compared with the past. Coupled with the 8-year-old\’s unique \”quickness\”, he can do things much more efficiently, and he cares about completing tasks according to the schedule. For example, he knows to go to school on time in the morning without you urging him, and he even knows how to use the daily plan on the school bulletin board to arrange his studies and activities. However, you still need to urge him to go to bed at night. Maybe he feels that adhering to bedtime is far less important than not being late for school. He became interested in the \”past\”, liked to learn about history, and was able to understand that it happened a long time ago. although, I am still a little confused about this concept of \”a long time ago\”, and I feel a bit like \”Guan Gong fighting Qin Qiong\”. He was now full of interest in exploration and adventure. The feeling of space has also expanded a lot. He loved geography, studying and even using maps. The 8-year-old is becoming more and more interested in money. Although he is mostly honest, he still secretly uses his mother\’s money to entertain friends. If given the opportunity, he would be willing to make money, such as doing things for the family. He cares about \”his\” things very much and needs his \”own\” place to collect his things. However, this does not mean that he will pack his things neatly. If your child has his or her own room, you can bet it will be messy. The health status of an 8-year-old child is much stronger than that of a 7-year-old child. At this time, children are less likely to miss school due to illness. However, it is important to note that because 8-year-old children are too courageous and obsessed with exploration and adventure, the injury rate of children is the highest among all age groups. Mothers need to pay enough attention to the safety of their children. Regarding death, the 8-year-old child has gone from being afraid of this phenomenon in the past to becoming interested in exploring what happens after death. He can even \”calmly\” accept the concept that he will die one day in the future. The father-son relationship is easier than the mother-son relationship at this time, because the 8-year-old child has no \”possessiveness\” about his father. He loves playing with his dad and adores him. During the two years when the child is 7 to 8 years old, the father-son relationship should be in its golden stage, and dad should enjoy this wonderful time to the fullest. When the child is \”excessively demanding\” of the mother and the mother is exhausted, the father\’s intervention can give everyone a good breath. 8-year-olds are very sensitive to the relationship between their parents. If his parents have conflicts, he will be anxious; if his parents are affectionate, he will be jealous. He began to pay attention to what happened at home, including paying attention to adults\’ phone calls, letters, and gossip. He is trying to find his place in the family. Relationships with siblings are complicated. To put it simply, he can get along well with children who are several years younger or older than him (except for 11-year-old children, because children of this age cannot get along with anyone), cherish the younger ones, and admire the older ones. However, children close to him (especially those around 2 years old) have a lot of conflicts. He will be jealous of his brother and sister who get more rights than him (for example, they can go to bed later than him). He will be very selfish, he will quarrel with the children and laugh at them. Don’t forget, he has very high expectations and requirements for others. How can his younger siblings meet his demanding behavioral standards? Therefore, the conflicts with younger siblings are particularly prominent. Also, if he gets \”bird anger\”, he will really go home and vent his anger on his younger brothers and sisters. Getting along with friends is different. He likes to play with children of the same age and the same gender. Although he does not get along with his siblings who are close to him in age, he is willing to build good relationships with his friends. Because of his cheerfulness and extroversion, it is not difficult for him to have a lot of friends (which is the complete opposite of a 7-year-old). Moreover, at this timeFriendship is a true two-way friendship, because he is no longer purely self-centered and starts to pay attention to what others do and think. Not only is he willing to serve others, but he also hopes that others will be as willing to repay him as he is. He likes to play with a large group of neighborhood children and also enjoys games such as football and hide-and-seek that a large number of children participate in together. In terms of diet, he is not only good at eating, he also has a great appetite and likes everything. Picky eating problems are rare. Meal etiquette is much more particular than before, especially when eating in restaurants, he will be very concerned about his good performance. However, due to individual differences in children, some children do have a small mouth. Parents do not need to worry, as long as the doctor thinks the child is healthy, it is enough. Also, when a child is too greedy, parents should intentionally limit it and be careful not to make the child overweight. As for sleeping, on the one hand, they need less sleep than before (10 hours is enough), on the other hand, they do not like to go to bed and often bargain for \”one more game\” or \”one more chapter to read.\” Some children still like to chat with their parents, while others just go to bed on their own. There are fewer dreams than before. Some children fall asleep easily, while others need \”flapcakes.\” These \”flapcake\” children often stay in bed in the morning and need more worry from their parents. The 8-year-old\’s body posture is much more \”center\” than before. For example, although the head may tilt to the left or right when writing (for left-handers), it is mostly straight. My walking posture becomes more and more like an adult, and I will consciously straighten my back, and even criticize others for not straightening up. Compared with 7-year-olds, the vast majority of 8-year-olds like to go to school, even if their academic performance is not very good, even if their relationship with the teacher is not so harmonious, because they like to accept new things and accept challenges. When he comes home from school, he is the opposite of the taciturn 7-year-old. He likes to describe everything in detail and vividly to you about what happened in school. He now pays great attention to other children\’s grades and likes to catch the teacher\’s mistakes during class. Not only does he know his own strengths, but he can also understand the strengths and weaknesses of his classmates. He is no longer as dependent on the teacher as before, and has become more and more independent, and even interferes with the behavior of other children. His concentration in class has greatly improved. However, precisely because he loves to talk and needs to integrate into society, he will spend a lot of time \”having small meetings\” with his neighbor. It would be too uncomfortable for a child of this age to wait until the end of get out of class to say what he wants to say.