Psychologist: A child’s fate is determined as early as 6 years old

Psychologist Eric Byrne believes that a person\’s life script is written before the age of 6, and no matter what efforts he makes in the future, he will follow the set direction. If life is compared to a slowly moving train, then the age of 0-6 is the track-laying period. Although the train shuttles through the years, it can improve its abilities bit by bit and make the life script more full. , complete, but once the track is laid, the general direction will be determined, and the rest of life can only move forward according to this track. 01 Before the age of 6, it is the formative period of personality. The human brain is 90% developed around the age of 6. During this period, what kind of environment we give our children, what experiences we give them, and what kind of language they receive during their growth will greatly affect their personality development. In other words, no matter what form parents output information (such as language, body, attitude, talent, personality, etc.), children at this stage will be like sponges, absorbing what they see, hear and feel Everything is absorbed and deeply imprinted in the so-called subconscious mind. Why are parents’ words and deeds imprinted on children’s subconscious minds? This is because until about 6 years old, a child\’s brain waves are in two states: delta waves and theta waves. We know that human brain waves are divided into 5 types: ①α waves: mostly occur when you close your eyes and rest, or when your body is relaxed and inspiration continues to emerge. ②β wave: generated under tension. ③Theta wave: Occurs during light sleep or when focusing on a certain task. ④δ wave: generated during deep sleep. ⑤γ wave: It is easy to appear when a person feels nervous or irritable. As adults, we are able to unconsciously filter the information we see and hear, and our brains only select the information we need (or are interested in). However, children under 6 years old are different, because their brains are in a state of delta waves and theta waves, and their brains cannot filter and select incoming information, so this information will leave an imprint in the brain and become subconscious. The power of the subconscious mind is very powerful. If a child hears warm and powerful words from his parents since he was a child, and the signals released by body language are soothing, then he will have the power to do whatever he wants and believe that he can do it. On the other hand, if parents always say that they are not as good as others and humiliate and deny them if they make any mistakes, then they will really become like that. 02 Positive language can build a sound personality. The power of language is infinite. Even babies who cannot speak can feel its power. When his mother talks to him, although he cannot literally understand every word or sentence that his mother says, he can read different signals from his mother\’s tone of voice and body language. If the tone is brisk and full of tenderness, the baby can feel the mother\’s happiness and comfort; if the tone is fast and the voice is sharp, the baby can also connect with the mother\’s anxiety and tension. And these will be written into the child\’s subconscious mind and affect the direction of personality. Therefore, in early childhood, whether it is feeding, bathing, changing diapers, teasing, coaxing to sleep, or going out for a walk, there must be a lot ofTalk to your baby instead of silently caring for her. This period is also the period of unconditional absorption of knowledge. Using your own voice and warm and vivid language to tell a story you like can not only connect the children\’s hearts and shape a positive personality, but also tell the children through actions, \” Books are interesting things.” When a child completely falls in love with reading, his life path will be much broader. When children are around 3 years old, they are increasingly influenced by the outside world. They imitate their peers, imitate what they see on TV, and are interested in highly stimulating things. Parents should also provide them with these aspects. Do a good job of screening and create a better language environment for him. A problem that most parents make is that they can\’t help but magnify their children\’s shortcomings and mistakes, while ignoring every progress and every small success they make as they grow. But we have high hopes for them, hoping that they will become outstanding people. Remember, the information imprinted on the subconscious mind in early childhood is the basis of personality development. Therefore, you should use less instructive, belittling, negative, contemptuous, humiliating, and critical tone when talking to your child. Listen more to his thoughts, explore his strengths, notice his successes in life, and give him recognition and appreciation. Because only by imprinting more positive information into his brain will he develop in the direction we want.