Raise a child who has a strong heart and is not easily hurt

Today at noon, I carried my meal and prepared to go into a class to eat with the children. The children had finished singing the song of thanksgiving and began to serve themselves meals. Everyone was chatting while serving food, and those who couldn\’t reach it would leave their seats and go to the other side to bring dishes and plates to themselves. At this time, the classroom seemed a little restless. But it has not reached the level of chaos, because the children in Ba Academy know what they should do and abide by the principles. There was a young teacher in the classroom serving soup to the children. I often come to this class to eat, so I walked directly to the front seat with my meal without saying hello. At this time I heard the young girl say loudly: XXX! (The name she shouted was a child\’s name) Before I heard it clearly, she called another name: XXX! Without realizing what was going on, I heard her say loudly: Stop talking! Hey, I haven\’t seen such a scene for a long time, and I still feel a little strange and confused. In Li Yuerba Academy, there is no such rule. I was like a new transfer student, quietly asking the children next to me: Who said you can\’t talk while eating? You can talk while eating, but we have to speak softly. The child told me: Xiaoshan (pseudonym, referring to the teacher who spoke) said that you should not use your mouth when eating. What? I was particularly surprised and asked the children: How can you eat without using your mouth? ! Another little boy next to me thought I was too stupid and explained to me seriously: She meant not to talk while eating. I said: That\’s right, but I think you can talk while eating, as long as you keep your voice low, as long as it doesn\’t affect others. By this time, I had figured it out. What this teacher said are commonly used by traditional kindergarten teachers, \”Don\’t use your mouth when eating\” and \”Don\’t talk while eating.\” I have heard many such words in other kindergartens, but never in Li Yuerba Academy. will be heard. I took a closer look at this girl. She had a strange face and was very young. I whispered to her: Are you the new teacher? She nodded shyly. It\’s true, I said to her with a slight smile: We are not allowed to call our children\’s names loudly like this in Ba Academy. It is also not allowed to speak loudly to children. If the child talks too loudly, you can walk over to him and whisper a reminder. The little teacher blushed a little and nodded sheepishly. At this time, a child not far away heard our conversation. She turned back to me and explained to the teacher: It was because she said she couldn\’t speak loudly but the children were still very loud, so she said she couldn\’t speak anymore. Several children at the table over there explained to me kindly and said good things about the teacher. Their eyes are calm, and their souls radiate the light of love. I have to say: I understand, thank you for telling me. From the feedback given to me by parents of graduates, I know that our children are so good. Even if someone yells at them, they will still think about that person and care about that person. After these children enter elementary school, they will not be hurt or lose their self-confidence just because they are criticized by teachers. A few years ago, many parents would ask, \”What are the children of Ba Academy?\”In recent years, fewer and fewer people have asked this question: \”Will my children be able to adapt when they go to elementary school?\” This is because the characteristics displayed by the children in elementary school make parents feel at ease. Some graduated parents told us stories about their children going to elementary school. , the primary school teacher criticized the whole class fiercely in class and punished the whole class with detention. Other children were very uncomfortable being criticized. Not only did our children not feel uncomfortable, they did not tell their parents when they came home. When parents asked about this, At the time, the child said nonchalantly, \”Oh, the teacher was probably in a bad mood that day. Look, he doesn\’t think he is really bad just because the teacher said he was bad. On the contrary, his inner understanding of himself is Very clear and know exactly what kind of person they are. Such people will be very confident and sunny, because their understanding and evaluation of themselves do not all come from other people\’s opinions of them. Nor will they think about them because of their teachers. If their attitude is not good, they will feel uncomfortable or resentful. They will not think that others are bad because their behavior is deviant. They believe in the truth, goodness and beauty of the world. Why is this? What can be done to make children grow up like this? 1 , No criticism: From childhood to adulthood, do not treat children with criticism or accusation. 2. No material rewards: Do not reward children, never reward little red flowers, but use encouragement to make children progress. Children work hard for themselves, Not for little red flowers or to gain praise from teachers and parents. 3. Help quietly: When a child has a behavioral problem, quietly help the child get rid of the problem. The child never thinks that he is a problematic person. 4. Let Children succeed on their own: No matter how big or small things are, try to let the children do things by themselves and gain as much experience of their own success as possible. 5. Lead by example and teach children how to solve problems: No matter what difficulties the children encounter, we will think about them together with them. Find solutions, practice together and gain the ability to solve problems. 6. Treat your children with love and care: your heart is firm and soft, tolerant and generous. 7. Become a leader for your children: because we Teachers, because we are parents, we need to have the strength to be our children\’s leaders and role models. In this way, our children will grow up to be mentally strong and confident people who know who they are and what they want to do. They are unrestrained and free, like deer in the forest, highlighting the innocent qualities that children should have. They are loving, generous, giving and caring, and they are the beautiful light in the world.