Raising an unfilial son is a failure of the parents. Whether the child will be a white-eyed wolf in the future can be seen before the age of 6

In old age, the best state is to have someone to rely on and be happy in old age. However, for parents, raising unfilial children may be the greatest tragedy. When they grow old and need care, their children are impatient to support them. This is undoubtedly sad for the elderly. I saw a piece of news a few days ago. A mother sold her house so that her daughter could study in Japan. Now her mother is seriously ill and wants her daughter to return to China for a visit, but her daughter refuses to return. In desperation, the mother contacted the reporter, hoping that the reporter would help her persuade her daughter to return to China to visit her. When facing the reporter, her daughter said: Don’t think I don’t know what her plans are. Since she can’t afford to support her, she shouldn’t have the baby! The implication behind the words is that she is unwilling to support the elderly and no longer wants to take care of the elderly. She also believes that her ideas are correct and reasonable. My daughter’s idea is: If she gives birth to a child just to provide for the child to support her in old age, that would be too narrow-minded. . Indeed, many young people now have this idea, so Bai Yansong said in the program: We born in the 1980s are destined to be the last generation to be filial to our parents, and the first generation to be abandoned by our children. Raising unfilial children is undoubtedly a failure of the parents. Whether the child will be a white-eyed wolf in the future can actually be seen before the age of 6, and it is still too late to correct it now. 01丨Children do not respect their parents and do not take their parents into consideration. Today’s children are really difficult to manage. This is also related to the education methods of their parents. Many parents are reluctant to beat and scold their children. They will think: to be friends with their children, Only in this way can we get into the hearts of children. However, the result of this is that the children have no respect for their parents at all, and often even yell at their parents, thinking that their parents should listen to them. I have a neighbor in my hometown who has two daughters. The eldest daughter has been spending money from her parents’ family after she got married. She often yells at her mother, often saying that she is unfair because her younger sister goes to college and graduate school, spending so much of the family’s money. This neighbor is also afraid that his eldest daughter will be unhappy. He earns money by working outside. In addition to providing living expenses for his younger daughter, he will also give his eldest daughter a share of the money. He is afraid that in the future, his younger daughter will be far away and he will have to rely on his eldest daughter to take care of him. But looking at the mother\’s situation, even though the eldest daughter has been spending her mother\’s money after marriage and needs her mother\’s care and service after giving birth to a child, the eldest daughter is still dissatisfied with her mother, causing her son-in-law to often say: I don\’t even know you are here. What kind of family did you grow up in? What kind of people are your parents? In this situation, the neighbor still puts all his hope in the child, fearing that the child will not care about him in the future. When he has money, he will give it to his eldest daughter and help him take care of the baby. It is right to be friends with children, but at least they should know the authority of their parents, and they should not be allowed to ignore their parents regardless of their age. 02丨Self-centeredness. If the family makes delicious food, should the children share it with their parents or eat it alone? This is critical. Criminal psychologist Professor Li Meijin said that \”preventing selfishness\” is an important topic for parents to educate their children. To prevent selfishness, you must not only consider other people\’s feelings, but more importantly, have a sense of gratitude. Don\’t take it for granted that your parents are good to you. However, in reality, there are too many such children, who always take all the efforts of their parents as a matter of course. Once their parents cannot give too much, the children will complain that their parents are incompetent, and even threaten them with death. RememberThe Tianjin boy who forced his mother to jump off a building? After graduation, the boy worked in a company. Because he got married and bought a house and paid the bride price, all his mother\’s savings were emptied. The boy asked his mother to pay for a car. The mother couldn\’t afford the money and said: If you force me again, I will have no choice but to do so. Jumped off the building! The angry boy said: Then you go and choose, what are you doing living without money? Maybe out of frustration, maybe thinking about the failure of her education, my mother really jumped off the building. We do not advocate guilt-based education, but we do not advocate excessive pampering. If parents continue to sacrifice their own interests to create good conditions for their children, the children will not be grateful, but will take it for granted. 03丨The human nature of children who are too willful is usually to do whatever they want and get what they want, without ever considering whether their actions and requests are reasonable. In fact, the reason why children become humane has something to do with their parents\’ indulgence. For example, if you take your child to the mall and the child wants a car, but there are already many such cars at home, and the parents are unwilling to buy it, the child will behave and roll around. At this time, the parent\’s approach is very important and critical. If the parents compromise, then the children will seem to have grasped the parents\’ weaknesses and will use the same method to achieve their own satisfaction every time. When they are children, they may behave and wallow, and when they grow up, they may learn to run away from home or even force them to die. Professor Li Meijin said: Children must be trained in restraint. This is a very important topic. Because life is unsatisfactory nine times out of ten. When a child is young, his requirements are relatively simple and he wants few things. His parents can satisfy him. But when he grows up, we cannot satisfy him? Can the child bear it? Therefore, children must learn restraint, which is also a concept that children need to understand before they are six years old. This world is not centered on you, nor does it have to satisfy you in everything. Whatever you want will be rejected, and you can\’t be happy every day. Parents must teach these things to their children and let them learn to bear it on their own. If parents always try their best to make their children happy and hope that their children will always be happy, then the children will think: My happiness is the responsibility of my parents, and my parents need to be responsible for their own lives. Whenever things go wrong in the future, they will be blamed on their parents. It is said that growth is seen at the age of three, and age is seen at the age of seven. The kind of person a child will become in the future is related to the education methods of the parents. When the above three problems occur in the child, the parents should correct them in time.