Raising children without any opinion starts from these three things

When children begin to say \”whatever\” frequently, as parents, we can\’t help but wonder: Why are they no longer as active in expressing their preferences and choices as before? \”What do you want to eat tonight?\” Mom asked the child who was watching TV in the living room while busy in the kitchen. \”Whatever.\” The child replied without looking back, as if he was not interested in the question. Why are children no longer willing to express their wishes and choices? It is very likely that the child gradually loses his or her own opinion as he or she grows up. How does a child\’s opinion disappear invisibly? In the process of children\’s growth, the cultivation of independent opinions is crucial. However, many parents may not realize that some seemingly ordinary behaviors and education methods may invisibly weaken their children\’s opinions. 1. Over-interference In many families, parents are used to arranging everything for their children, from study to life, from interests to making friends. Just like a child who loves painting, but his parents think that learning piano is more promising, so they forcefully enroll him in piano classes. Although the child was reluctant, he finally succumbed to his parents\’ arrangements. Over time, children lose confidence in their own interests and choices, and their opinions gradually disappear. In the book \”The Little Prince\”, the author Saint-Exupéry reveals various problems in the adult world through the conversations between the little prince and the inhabitants of various planets. Among them, a king always ordered the little prince to do this and that, and the little prince gradually lost his ability to judge and choose. This is actually a metaphor for parents who overly interfere in their children\’s growth, causing their children to lose their own opinions invisibly. 2. Negating and criticizing parents for being too demanding on their children will cause children to have self-doubt and frustration, making them afraid to express their own opinions and opinions. In reality, there are many parents who, when their children achieve very good results, happily share the results with their parents, they will often be poured cold water on them. I can\’t see the child\’s progress and blindly compare the child with the children who have done better in the class. Children will be full of doubts about themselves, why they can\’t always satisfy their parents, forming a strong sense of frustration. Often when a child wants to do something well, the result is unsatisfactory. 3. Lack of opportunities for independent thinking In the context of exam-oriented education, many children have been instilled with the concept of \”scores first\” since childhood. They are busy dealing with various exams and assignments, and have little time to think and explore things that interest them. This kind of education method will gradually make children lose their ability to think independently and become less independent. In \”Emile\”, Rousseau proposed the concept of natural education. He pointed out that children should grow up freely in nature, acquire knowledge through personal experience and practice, and form their own ideas. As children grow up, we always hope that they can become independent people. So, what is an assertive child? In short, assertive children are those who can think independently and make their own choices. Children who think independently can analyze problems independently and form their own opinions instead of blindly following others. Children who have the ability to choose are often very independent and can make reasonable choices based on their own needs and values. To cultivate children’s ability to choose, parents can start fromStart with the following aspects: Give children a certain amount of autonomy. In daily life, parents can appropriately give their children some opportunities to choose, so that they can learn to make decisions based on their own needs and interests. For example, when shopping, you can let your children choose their favorite clothes or toys; on weekends, you can let your children choose the places or activities they want to do. Guide children to analyze rationally. When children face choices, parents can guide them to rationally analyze the pros and cons of various possibilities and help them make more informed decisions. At the same time, parents should also respect their children\’s choices and provide support and encouragement even if their choices do not meet their expectations. Cultivate children\’s sense of responsibility. Choices often come with responsibilities. When children make choices, parents should guide them to assume corresponding responsibilities and obligations. In this way, children can gradually understand that their choices have an important impact on themselves and others, and thus treat every choice more carefully. The process of allowing children to think independently and make their own choices is to let them learn to weigh the pros and cons. When experiencing some choices, children will think about what they really want? At present, the children have not grown up yet, and while the cost of the choice is not very high, let the children make more decisions on their own. Raise a child who has the courage to express himself and loves to think about the future. At the end of the article, click \”Like\” to wish our children will grow up to be thoughtful and not blindly obedient.