Reading, communication, security, three gifts I give to my children

If a child is compared to a mobile phone that has just left the factory, then the importance of developing good habits is like installing the smoothest system on the mobile phone. As the child’s first character builder and guide in life, I choose to give these three good habits as gifts to my baby. Develop the habit of reading In this era of rapidly updating knowledge, we need to read a lot of text every day to improve our knowledge. The experience of making a living by writing has given me a deeper understanding of the importance of reading. As the saying goes: There is poetry and calligraphy in the belly. I hope that my little girl can become a girl with rich connotations. I didn\’t choose to impose a set number of pages that she must read every day. Reading cannot be forced. Once you lose interest and develop a fear of reading, reading will no longer be a pleasure for the child, but will become a kind of torture. Every time the little girl was doing her homework, I would sit next to her with a book and say nothing, just read quietly by myself. At the beginning, she looked at me and then turned around to continue her homework. Until one day, she suddenly asked me: \”Mom, what book do you read?\” \”It\’s a novel called \”The Ordinary World\”.\” \”Is it fun?\” \”It\’s fun.\” The next day, I was going to shout While she was eating, she found that the little girl was kneeling in front of the sofa, looking at the tome I had \”casually\” thrown there. Judging from his expression, he seems to be enjoying himself. I didn\’t immediately praise her, I just threw more books \”randomly\” everywhere in the house. Slowly, the little girl read longer and longer. After finishing her homework in the evening, she would often pick up a book and read it silently by herself. The ancients said: \”Teach by words and deeds.\” I have always believed that teaching by example is far more powerful than words. Leading by example is the best way for parents to educate their children. Children are the best at imitating people. As they grow up, they can\’t help but imitate their parents\’ words and deeds. If parents lie on the sofa and play with their mobile phones every day, how can they expect their children to continue studying after finishing their homework? So, first of all, I asked myself to read next to her every day to arouse her desire to read. Then let her go and run into that world, let her experience the world on her own, and experience the fun and beauty of reading. During the parent-teacher conference, the teacher specially asked me to stay and said that she felt that the little girl’s compositions were very good and she had memorized many compositions at home. I am secretly happy that everything is the result of extensive reading. Developing the habit of communication started from the first day the little girl went to school. Every day at dinner, I would ask her the same question, \”Did anything happen at school today?\” Occasionally she frowned and didn\’t know how to answer. I further enlightened her, \”Did you and your classmates do anything interesting today?\” or \”What did you do in physical education/music/art class today?\” The little girl would talk endlessly, even talking about She wouldn\’t stop until she had to do her homework. The period before junior high school is when children most need parental protection. During this long period of growth, they still do not have enough mind and ability to deal with some emergencies. Especially today’s primary schools often have large class systems.A teacher has to face thirty, forty, or even fifty or sixty children at the same time. It is impossible to take care of every child\’s emotions, and it is impossible for parents to stay with their children all the time. In this case, it is crucial for parents to communicate with their children in a timely manner. When communicating, be careful not to dismiss their ideas casually. Be sure to listen patiently and put yourself in the children\’s shoes. You can even come up with appropriate solutions to things they find difficult. Once, the little girl suddenly said: \”Mom, I think there are some girls in our class who are very fierce.\” I put on a curious expression and motioned for her to continue. \”They often pinch boys until their arms turn purple. One of them even slapped the boy in the face today. In fact, I think that boy was not wrong.\” I asked her: \”Then do you think what they did was wrong?\” Of course it\’s not right,\” she thought for a moment and muttered, \”but many girls in the class are with them.\” I understood that this was because she didn\’t agree with this approach in her heart, and she was worried that she would be isolated by everyone if she spoke out directly. . \”If you are afraid of being isolated, you don\’t have to speak out what you think. Just don\’t imitate them. Regardless of boys or girls, everyone is like brothers and sisters, right?\” She nodded in agreement. In this way, during the communication process, the little girl and I naturally became closer. She was willing to talk to me about anything, even when I was doing housework, she would occasionally chatter behind me. She shared with me the joy of sharing a cookie with her deskmate, told me how sad she felt that her grades were not ideal, shared stories she had seen recently, and commented on a character she particularly liked. We are like mother and daughter and like sisters. Although we may seem a little small, this is exactly the kind of parent-child relationship I want. Develop the habit of trusting your parents. As parents, you must let your children believe from the bottom of their hearts that no matter what happens, their parents are their most trustworthy existence. There is nothing more reassuring for a child than knowing that her parents will always have her back. For example, for children, inviting parents is a big deal. Compared with asking parents, writing a checkup is simply a gentle and kind punishment. I often say to the little girl: \”If your parents are invited, don\’t be afraid, I will just go, it\’s no big deal.\” Although it is just a small thing, the parents\’ \”protecting one\’s shortcomings\” attitude will leave a mark in the heart of the child. A seed of confidence, \”Mom believes in me, I can confess to her.\” Many adolescents will be rebellious. In fact, the root cause is that when the children were still young, these three good qualities were not cultivated in them. Habit. If they read more, they will naturally learn how to be a good person. Communicate more and be able to provide children with ideological guidance in a timely manner. And trusting parents is the last insurance we give to our children. Even if some trouble does occur, children dare to tell their parents in time because they subconsciously believe that their parents will always stand with them.