Rejecting these \”negative energy\” mantras from your elders means being responsible for your children!

Many times we don\’t realize that a casual mantra can have a profound impact on our children. In particular, some children who are raised by the elderly at home are more likely to have such problems due to the intergenerational relationship. Today, let’s take a look at the “negative energy” mantras that affect children’s bodies and minds, and learn to say “NO” to them! Sentence 1: If the floor is naughty, grandma will hit it! As toddlers, children inevitably get bumpy and bumpy. Some elders in the family will \”anthropomorphize\” objects such as floors and tables in order to make their children stop crying. They will deliberately slap the table or floor in front of the children and say, \”The table is not good, it will trip our baby.\” Grandma will help you fight it! Stop crying…\” Although this approach may really make the child stop crying for a while, it is detrimental to the child\’s physical and mental development in the future. Children under this kind of education are easy to blame external factors when problems occur, but are not easy to reflect on themselves. It is very detrimental to the child\’s future growth. Sentence 2: If you don’t obey me again, the big bad wolf will come and take you away! When a child is naughty, the elders in the family may scare the child. If he continues to disobey, the big bad wolf will take him away! Many children will be too scared to be naughty. In fact, this kind of education does not essentially guide children\’s sense of right and wrong. It simply uses \”intimidation\” to make children stop making noises. Some old people will also replace the \”big bad wolf\” with \”uncle policeman\”, which is even more inappropriate. Because we should help children understand the police and guide them to establish the justice of the police profession in their hearts. Instead of randomly applying the professional attributes of the police when scaring children. Doing so is likely to make children fear the police and not know how to seek help from the police when they are in danger, leading to big mistakes! Sentence 3: Your mother doesn’t want you, you can only follow grandma! It is always difficult for children to understand and accept separation. If parents really cannot stay with their children and can only be taken care of by the elderly at home such as grandma, the elderly should also gradually guide the children to slowly understand that their parents are not around. The reason is to help children reduce the feeling of being \”abandoned\” and enhance their relationship with their parents and family members. Sentence 4: Don’t tell your mother! Some grandparents will secretly buy snacks for their children or do things that their parents usually don’t let them do, and then tell them not to tell your mother! Doing so can easily cause children to regard their mother as the \”bad person\” and their grandparents as the \”good people\” in the context. At the same time, it is easy for children to develop bad habits of lying and not knowing how to restrain their desires. Sentence 5: He is still a child, it doesn’t matter! Although the child is still young, when it is time to educate the child, choosing to make excuses for the child and using \”he is just a child\” to shirk responsibility is not a good way of education. This is not conducive to the child\’s growth and self-correction. To put it bluntly, this is another level of doting on the child, which is not conducive to the growth of the child. Sentence 6: Don’t be friends with that kid! As an adult, measuring a person is notThere are many criteria for what makes a friend worthy, and everyone is different. Children also have their own set of \”standards\” in their own world. We should try not to interfere with children\’s choices as much as possible, and let children slowly learn to judge and distinguish on their own. Sentence 7: Buy whatever you want, and we will spend all the money we earn on you! Although this is an expression of the family\’s selfless love to the child, it will also subconsciously make the child feel that the family\’s love for him is taken for granted, which is not beneficial to cultivating the child\’s sense of gratitude. Sentence 8: He’s not sensible yet, so he doesn’t need to follow the rules! As the saying goes, there is no rule without rules. Don\’t let your children feel that because they are still children, they don\’t have to follow the rules because of their age. You know, babies can get unlimited pampering from adults at home, but once they leave the house, social rules will not change because of anyone. In order for your children to better adapt to society in the future, you must change this mantra! Sentence 9: No one else is as good as my grandson! The love in this sentence is beyond words, but this kind of \”exaggerated\” language can easily make ignorant children have an unreasonable sense of superiority and cannot be better. Accept criticism and suggestions from others and learn from others’ strengths and weaknesses. It is understandable that the elderly regard their children as treasures, but these words full of negative energy may affect the children\’s life at any time! How many sentences did the elderly in your family win? If they say something like this, parents should patiently reason with the elderly and correct them in time!