Remember to take your children’s personal opinions and requests seriously!

In the process of educating their children, \”bad\” parents usually have their own way of dealing with their children\’s requests. They often do not overly spoil their children and dare to say \”no\” to their children, but they do not ignore their children\’s rights and do not respond to their children\’s requests. Personal opinions and requirements are often taken seriously and handled and resolved correctly. In fact, it is not a small issue what attitude parents should adopt towards their children\’s requests. Many parents have felt embarrassed, thinking that this \”degree\” is not easy to control, and sometimes they really don\’t know whether they should agree to their children. Most of the requests made by children are related to food, drink, clothing, and play. Faced with these requests, parents cannot ignore them, let alone respond to them. No matter which extreme they go to, doing so will be detrimental to the healthy development of their children. For example, regarding the issue of eating and drinking, parents will think that eating and drinking should mainly meet the needs of growth and development, and children should not be allowed to choose arbitrarily. They require a combination of meat and vegetables, prevent partial eclipse, eat less snacks, and ensure the nutrition of staple foods. Children cannot eat them. Picky eating requirements are taken for granted, and parents generally do not allow their children to develop picky eating habits. Therefore, children\’s requests should not be satisfied but should be moderated. Another example is clothing and play. Parents generally believe that it is necessary to proceed from the perspective of being conducive to intellectual and physical development, not only paying attention to applicability, but also considering age characteristics, and also paying attention to economy. Departing from these principles should not be casually agreed to Yes, not all requests for clothing and play can be agreed to, and a policy of more or less should be implemented. The requests made by the child should be decided after consideration. You cannot agree to everything, and you cannot not satisfy the child\’s request at all. Therefore, the attitude of \”bad\” parents is: parents should try their best to satisfy their children\’s reasonable requirements that are conducive to healthy growth; while they should not be too accommodating to those willful and opposite requirements, but parents must After rejecting the child\’s request, patiently explain the reason to the child. \”Bad\” parents believe that if parents want to train their children to learn to make legitimate and reasonable demands, they must first form a concept in their children\’s minds, that is, if they want to be satisfied, they must first make certain efforts on their own. OK. If you don’t pay, you won’t gain. Parents should have certain principles to meet their children’s requirements. Otherwise, if they meet all the children’s requirements without principles, the children they cultivate must be delicate and have not experienced wind and rain. Flowers, or parasites of society. Usually, \”bad\” parents have certain standards and principles. Parents should actively support and try their best to meet the legitimate requirements of their children to increase their knowledge, cultivate interests and hobbies, and exercise. Even if parents are temporarily unable to meet some of their children\’s reasonable demands, even if they do not meet the financial and other conditions, they should patiently explain the reasons. They should not reject them outright and tell their children the actual situation, so as not to dampen their children\’s enthusiasm for progress. Parents usually have a misunderstanding here. Some parents only pay attention to meeting their children\’s requirements for purchasing books and stationery for study, but do not support some requirements for extracurricular activities because they are afraid of affecting their children\’s learning, and always take countermeasures.Right attitude, in fact, this is a narrow concept, which is wrong and not conducive to the growth of children. As the British proverb goes: \”Studying without playing makes a smart child stupid.\” In addition, parents should also correctly treat certain requests made by their children that make adults uneasy. For example, if an older child proposes to go on a trip to the countryside together, or to go mountain climbing under the guidance of a teacher, parents may want to refuse for safety reasons, but this will frustrate the child\’s mood and make them feel very disappointed or unhappy, so The correct attitude is that smart parents should take this opportunity to let their children exercise, actively help their children arrange activities, and strictly guard against possible accidents; if the child is indeed too young, or the thing to be done is still the child\’s weakness, . If it is true that it cannot be done at the moment, parents should explain the truth to their children and give good words to dissuade them. This will help protect their children\’s enthusiasm and will be of great help to their children\’s growth. It has always been the first principle of \”bad\” parents to be fully \”bad\” in dealing with the kind of requests made by their children that can be met or not. This has always been the first principle of \”bad\” parents, and do not easily satisfy their children\’s requirements. In this way, it can not only prevent children from having excessive material desires, but also help cultivate children\’s self-control ability. If parents have agreed to some reasonable requests from their children, but the actual situation has changed, for example, the things they wanted to buy have been sold out, causing the parents\’ promises to be temporarily unable to be fulfilled, at this time, parents should consciously make their children understand that it is not If parents break their word, they should tell their children that the promise is still valid, and they should pay close attention to their children at all times, and fulfill their children\’s requirements as soon as the goods arrive. When dealing with certain requirements of children, especially those characterized by aesthetics and exploration, such as high-level requirements such as production, experimentation, and creation, parents should not only agree to them, but also use guidance, encouragement and other methods to let the children realize them on their own. . This can stimulate children\’s pride, happiness, self-confidence and willpower to overcome difficulties, and is more conducive to the healthy growth of children. When children are relatively young, it is often difficult to distinguish between reasonable and unreasonable demands. Therefore, children tend to make unreasonable demands. Faced with these demands, parents also need to know how to deal with their children\’s unreasonable demands. Skills and abilities reasonably required. In the face of their children\’s unreasonable demands, \”bad\” parents will also show a serious side. They believe that parents must first refuse with a clear attitude, making the children realize that there is no room for negotiation, and leaving a deep impression. If the weather is still very cold, the child will ask to wear a short skirt to go out to play; it is already the closing time of the zoo, but the child still refuses to leave; the child will endlessly ask to buy him a certain snack, etc. If parents meet their children\’s requests without principle, it will only make their children\’s \”appetite\” grow bigger and bigger, making them willful, domineering and without self-control. Parents must let their children understand that if their demands are not allowed by objective conditions, they must give up and exercise restraint. Understanding this will be of great benefit to their children\’s future life path. Secondly, in a family, the attitude of parents must be consistent. If the attitudes of both parents are inconsistent, the child will take advantage of the conflict to take advantage of the situation in order to achieve satisfaction.To satisfy one’s own unreasonable demands. Regarding children\’s unreasonable demands, family members should cooperate with each other and speak in a consistent manner to prevent children from taking advantage of them. In addition, \”bad\” parents also remind parents to pay attention to their methods when rejecting their children\’s unreasonable requests. It is best not to dampen their children\’s emotions or hurt their self-esteem. If parents want to establish a friendly image of themselves in the minds of their children, they might as well show great importance when their children put forward a suggestion or opinion that they don\’t really care about. This will not only make the children feel that their parents take them seriously, but also make the children feel that their parents take them seriously. Children can also think carefully when making requests in the future. Parents must keep their promises and tell their children to be responsible for what they say.