Respecting other people\’s rules is an important lesson in a child\’s life

I saw a video on Weibo: a man calmly crossed the track in front of a high-speed train that was about to stop, and climbed to the opposite platform. He put his hands on the ground and tried to climb onto the platform, but failed. Although it was slow at this time, the huge high-speed train did not stop in front of him. Instead, it squeezed his body and drove forward for a while before stopping. In the end, the man died during the rescue process by fire officers and soldiers. Some bystanders said that if he had jumped onto the platform, he would not have been caught. It\’s a pity that he didn\’t jump up. After reading it, I sighed and may the deceased rest in peace. I don’t want to make too many personal comments. I just want to say that it is not a pity that he did not jump onto the platform, but that he should not have ignored the rules and crossed the track. There was also news before. In the same wild tiger park where a tiger killed an old man and injured a woman in July 2016, a family got out of the car for a walk many times and only returned after being dissuaded twice by the staff. in the car. Netizens commented with sadness: \”So many bloody lessons, but still can\’t wake you up?\” Why can\’t some people wake up? Because of ignoring the rules. There are rules in Huyuan that you are not allowed to get off the bus in the middle of the journey. There are staff on the road to dissuade you. There are clear and clear slogans on the roadside \”Cherish life, do not get off the bus.\” Some people just want to block it automatically. The train platform cannot be climbed over. When the station is beyond the one-meter line, some people just turn a blind eye. It must be said that specialization is a bad habit of the Chinese people. It can be as small as cutting in line or as big as paying bribes to gain privileges. People who are above the rules are often not panic-stricken, but rather proud. Their inner monologue is: Look, you all don’t dare, only I dare, you all can’t, only I can, I am better than you all. In their minds, rules are for others and have nothing to do with them. They feel that following the rules is a sign of disadvantage. It is their ability to be special and to override the rules. The rules must be formulated to benefit the makers and harm those who are regulated. I cannot praise this kind of thinking. No one wants to be bound, but freedom is not absolute. As parents, we give our children unlimited love in the small family group. However, who can spoil your children like parents outside this family? We should try our best to cultivate children who can integrate into this society and be able to stand on their own. To integrate into society, you must first understand the rules of this society and respect the rules. I started to instill a sense of rules in my children by starting from small things like not making loud noises in public places, being obedient during security checks when taking the subway, and having to queue up when waiting for meals. His first serious encounter with the \”rules\” was when he was more than two years old. He once took the subway and brought a hydrogen balloon. When he went through the security check, he was stopped. I have said before that hydrogen balloons cannot enter the subway. He could not accept this fact. He held the rope of the hydrogen balloon tightly and said sternly: \”No, you have to take it with you. You have to take it with you.\” I decided to let him Go and confront the security guard yourself. After he was stopped, the security inspector said to him: \”Kids, you can\’t take the hydrogen balloon with you on the subway.\” He was completely desperate, his mouth was pursed, and tears came out all of a sudden. The security uncle said that the gas inside can be released and only the outer belt can be left in, or the balloon can beI gave it to the security uncle and asked my mother to buy another one after getting off the subway. However, you must not bring balloons when taking the subway. The little guy finally gave in, let out the gas in the balloon, and passed the security check holding a balloon that was not a balloon. With tears in my eyes, I kept asking, \”Why can\’t I bring balloons? Why does the security guard want to take away my balloons?\” I solemnly explained to him the potential dangers of taking balloons on the subway. \”I guarantee that I can hold my balloon properly and don\’t let it run around, right?\” \”What if you can\’t hold it properly? Once the balloon flies and causes harm, the loss will be great, and it may even be dangerous. Other people\’s lives. Which is more important, balloons or life?\” He may not necessarily understand such a big truth, but the tone and expression when I speak can make him feel the seriousness of the matter. From then on, needless to say, he never brought a balloon with him when taking the subway. He was also particularly well-behaved when passing through the security check. He took the initiative to help me put my backpack on the conveyor belt every time. If I had not resolutely stood on the side of the rules, but instead interceded for him out of luck, or complained about the security personnel, it would have given him a psychological hint: the rules can be ignored, or at least they can be challenged. Then he may not be so smooth when taking the subway in the future. He will have to argue about \”can\’t bring balloons\”, he will argue again about \”can\’t bring scissors\”, and he will have to argue again about \”can\’t eat in the subway\”. What\’s even more frightening is that in the end there will be hostility to the rules, and then hostility to the \”guardians\” of the rules such as security guards and police. The consequences of this will be very serious. As he grows older, he becomes a \”curious baby\” and is always asking questions these days. He went from blindly worshiping the police uncle to trying to turn himself into a bad boy and questioning authority. He asked me: \”Mom, why are everyone afraid of the police uncle? If I am a bad guy, can I beat the police uncle?\” If I say, Because the police uncle has a gun. It seems that there is nothing wrong with this answer, because the police uncle has a gun and can arrest you, so you should not be a bad person, but a good person. However, this answer actually has a lot of holes and will soon be overturned by another round of questions from the children. If having a gun makes someone scared, then he will want one too. The answer I gave my children is that the reason why everyone is afraid of the police uncle is because the police uncle actually represents rules and laws. What the bad guys fear is not the police uncle himself, but the laws and regulations. If you are a law-abiding child, you don’t need to be afraid of the police uncle. On the contrary, the police uncle is still your friend. Don\’t you want to be good friends with the police uncle? It is of no harm to children to teach them what the rules are and what the bottom line is from an early age. How far can a child who doesn\’t follow the rules go? Like the people who got off the train at Huyuan, like the people who climbed over the tracks, they took chances, ignored the rules, and were full of hostility towards law enforcement officers. If they were not careful, their lives would be lost. Life is gone, family, family ties, fame and achievements are all in vain. Even if this is alarmist, it is true that a small number of people lose their lives due to ignoring the rules, but for those who do not lose their lives, do you think they are living a good life? Roar freely on the seemingly restricted flat road andWhich one do you choose when climbing recklessly on a seemingly free and thorny mountain road? Which one do you choose for your child?