Retired professor from Tsinghua University: These three points of controlling your children will make it difficult for them to become talented in the future.

On August 15, Tsinghua University held the 2019 Undergraduate Opening Ceremony, welcoming more than 3,800 undergraduate freshmen. Many of the top students and gods showed up one after another. There are \”Prince of Go\” Ke Jie, \”Poetry Talent\” Wu Yishu, and Yang Chenyu, who has the highest score in the national college entrance examination. At the opening ceremony, Qiu Yong, President of Tsinghua University, delivered a speech, \”Life will never wither because it is integrated into the vast history, and individuals will be forever remembered for devoting themselves to great causes.\” He also sent a message to the students to \”step on the eternal rivers and build an immortal life.\” Education has always been an eternal topic. As the top university in China, every move of Tsinghua University attracts great attention. Many parents think that education starts from school, and that children should have an unfettered childhood. In fact, this is not the case. There is an old saying that \”you will see your elders when you are three years old, and you will see your elders when you are seven years old.\” Educating children should start from an early age. Family education is very important for children. \”If you raise a child for one hundred years, you will have ninety-nine worries.\” From the moment a child is born, every parent worries about their child\’s growth and education. When I was a child, I was worried that my children would not grow tall and have good nutrition. When I grew up, I was worried that my children would be bullied outside. As long as the children are around, parents can\’t help but meddle in things, and in the end they end up being thankless. Education is ever-changing, but it remains true to its origins. A retired Tsinghua professor once said frankly that as long as you control these three things, your child’s failure will not be your fault! Control your children\’s desires. Nowadays, everyone\’s living conditions have improved a lot. Parents have begun to meet their children\’s various requirements. As long as the children feel happy, it is worth the investment. As everyone knows, it is this kind of thinking that makes children get lost in their ever-expanding desires and ultimately achieve nothing. A very good friend in college had a difficult and dangerous labor, and it took 12 hours to give birth to a son. For this reason, the couple doted on the child, who was a domineering figure at home, and was like a \”little bully.\” When the child was 8 years old, he fell in love with Taekwondo and insisted on asking his friends to take him to sign up. At that time, my friend was quite happy, thinking that the child had finally found a talent that interested him, so he immediately took the child to participate in a Taekwondo training class. But the good times didn\’t last long. Within a week, the child shouted not to go, saying that his back was sore and his hands were swollen. Seeing the unhappy look on the child\’s face, his friend followed him. A few days later, I saw some friends I was playing with learning hip-hop, and I begged my friends to sign up. Unexpectedly, during the practice, I moved too violently and broke my hand. After a few months of rest, the child who was supposed to continue practicing turned to painting again. A few years have passed in the blink of an eye. Children of the same age have their own strengths and skills, but my friends\’ children are still picky… Children\’s desires are always numerous and complex, and they are impatient and uncertain. This requires parents to control and manage. If children are allowed to develop freely, they will end up doing nothing. Isn\’t there a saying like this: \”Things that are obtained easily will never be cherished; but things that are obtained with hard work will always be taken into consideration.\” Keep your children\’s mouths in check As a parent, you must have had this kind of trouble! \”Mom, I\’m going home to watch TV!\” \”Wait a minute, Mom has something to tell Aunt Zhang.\”No, I have to leave now, the TV has started. \”Why are you so annoying, kid?\” Can you please be quiet for a while? \”Especially when you are talking about something important with others, children always interrupt or lose their temper, which is very rude and ruins the atmosphere. When I was in class, when it came to the climax, there were always some children To extend the topic, within a few minutes, the whole class was booed by this child who talked casually, which completely disrupted my thoughts. It can be said that teachers do not like children who interrupt and cause trouble in class, even if the child is a top student. The child\’s Habits will follow them for a long time. If their interjection temperament does not change, it will be very detrimental to their future work. I want to ask, which company boss would always want an employee who likes to interject, wants to show off, and does not respect others? Control it. Laziness in children. A person\’s success is no accident, but the person\’s willingness to work hard and study. On the other hand, the vast majority of children nowadays are lazy by nature and are good at everything, but this is really terrible! Once, my aunt suddenly called me and said that she was traveling out of town and asked me to cook breakfast, lunch and dinner for her grandson, so that the child would not have to order takeout all the time, which would be bad for his health. This was not difficult, so I agreed. . I rushed over after hanging up the phone. As soon as I entered the door, I saw socks scattered on the ground, rancid takeout boxes and a thin layer of dust on the ground. My aunt had only been out to play for two days, and the child had already put the The house was a mess, not cleaned, and the curtains were not even opened. In the dim light, children covered with quilts and playing games could be vaguely seen. I asked him, why not open the curtains and play games? And he gave me The answer is: Too lazy! I really feel that the living conditions of children today are much better than when we were young. There are people to pick you up when you go out, someone to pack books when you go to school, someone to wash your clothes, and someone to take care of your bed. As long as you open your mouth, someone will help with everything. , extremely happy. But is such a lazy child really good? Can that child who is too lazy to open the curtains open his own glorious life in the future? Impossible. In a recent mid-term exam, he was too lazy to think and answer the questions by himself. , was caught cheating, and was severely warned and punished by the school, and he was already in the third grade of junior high school. This punishment is likely to follow him for the rest of his life! Therefore, parents, if you want your children to be successful, you must stop being lazy! Parents always hope that their children will succeed. I hope my daughter will become a phoenix, and I hope I can train my children to become talents. However, for children to become talents, it is by no means something that can be achieved overnight. It requires accumulation over a long period of time. Smart people know how to break the whole into parts and complete their goals step by step. To To achieve the big goal of children becoming talented, you can first set an achievable small goal, such as letting your children develop good habits. The following good habits that will benefit you for life must be developed by your children! ➀ Go to bed early and get up early High-quality Sleep is crucial to a child\’s physical development. Going to bed early and getting up early is not only great for the child\’s physical health, but also keeps the child energetic throughout the day and full of energy to do everything well. ➁ Keep exercising and running , football, basketball, skipping, gymnastics… These various forms of sports can not only exercise the body, but also make children grow stronger.It is taller and stronger, and can also enrich children\’s lives and bring them a good mood throughout the day. Therefore, it is important to let your children develop at least one exercise habit. ➂Read more and read good books. Reading and fitness are the most valuable investments! Reading can make children\’s minds broad, their horizons broad, their thoughts profound, and their vision long-term; it can help children understand the truth, understand right and wrong, and be a good person! Allowing children to spend an hour reading every day is more effective than any other education. It is worth noting that good books can make a child successful, and bad books can also destroy a child. There are always some bad books on the market that are not good for children\’s physical and mental health. Parents must help their children to check carefully and choose good books that are suitable for their children, that they are interested in, and that are beneficial to their children! ➃ Study first, play later. It is said that when doing things, you need to balance work and rest. This is of course no problem. However, children must remember and resolutely implement the saying \”learn first, play later\”. A relaxed and comfortable life is based on a strong economic foundation. People who put entertainment first and work last will definitely be miserable. Unless you are wealthy and confident that your children can live comfortably without doing anything, you must let your children develop the habit of learning first and playing later. Education is a long-term process, and children at each stage face different problems. As parents, we must pay attention to changes in our children in a timely manner and adjust our educational methods in a timely manner so that our children can grow up with correct educational methods.