Say three more words and your children will no longer think you are a nagging mother.

As the saying goes, every family has its own scriptures that are difficult to recite. To use an interesting analogy, parents are like the verbose Tang Monk in Journey to the West, and their children are like the monkeys who cause havoc in heaven. The \”sutras\” that parents love to recite most are \”be obedient\”, \”do it for your own good\”, \”fight for your reputation\”… these few sentences. The words are all correct, but as time goes by, the children turn a deaf ear to it, and the parents don\’t do anything. However, out of love for their children, the parents have no choice but to \”recite sutras.\” Mother Lu suggested that it is better to try a new version of the \”Three Character Classic\” to educate children from another angle. Ask your children \”Why?\” \”Mom, why is the sky blue?\” \”Dad, why do I have no wings?\” Children like to ask \”Why\” because they are very curious about the world. But in fact, not only children, but adults also need to ask more \”why\”. When you don’t understand your child’s behavior and feel that your child has done something wrong, you might as well ask a few questions before criticizing. There is a short story called \”The Candlelight That Night\” and there is a dialogue in it. The daughter said: \”Mom, my favorite thing is typhoons.\” The mother felt that her daughter was ignorant, but she still asked patiently: \”Why?\” The daughter replied: \”Because there was a power outage during a typhoon.\” The mother then asked: \”You mean, you like power outages?\” The daughter said, \”When there is a power outage, I look for candles.\” The mother\’s heart gradually softened, \”What\’s so special about candles?\” \”I walk around the house holding candles. Go, you said I look like a little angel.\” Fortunately, the mother asked \”why\” one more time, and there was only one more little angel in the world. Sometimes parents think they know their children well, but they don’t. Parents see things from an adult perspective. However, sometimes you have to bend down a little, stand from the child\’s perspective, and ask more \”Why?\” After listening carefully, you will find that the child\’s world is actually very simple, and their ideas are also very simple. So, for example, if your child writes homework slowly or doesn\’t go to bed on time, don\’t rush to criticize him first. Ask him why. Maybe he does it slowly because he is careful, or he doesn\’t sleep because he has a little secret. Never scold a child indiscriminately. To listen to your child\’s inner voice, start by asking \”why\” more often. Telling children to \”be responsible\” Parents like to say that their children are \”disobedient\” and often tell their children to \”be obedient\”. Some children are good and stop making trouble as soon as they are told. But there are also many willful children who won\’t listen no matter what they say. My nephew Haohao is such a \”bad boy\”. I was originally very smart, but in junior high school I loved having fun and made some shady friends. One day I said I didn’t want to study anymore and wanted to go out and join the society. The family tried to persuade her, crying, making trouble, or hanging herself, but it was no use. My eldest brother, Haohao’s father, smoked cigarettes all night and nodded the next day. The eldest brother only said one thing to Haohao: \”You are responsible for your own decision.\” Haohao only went away for three months and then came back. After he came back, he said, \”The outside world is really hard.\” From then on, he studied hard and was admitted to university. Parents want their children to be obedient because they want their children to make fewer mistakes and suffer less. But many children have been flowers in the greenhouse since childhood and cannot understand the feelings of their parents. Therefore, sometimes, you might as well let your children be aloneOK give it a try. Making mistakes is not terrible, failure is not terrible, the important thing is to bear the consequences. Being responsible for your own choices is a required course for children to grow up. As the saying goes, you must become an adult first. So when your child is still young, you might as well give him the right to make mistakes and let him experience what \”responsibility\” means. Only when you first learn to be responsible for yourself can you be responsible for others, your family, and even your country. Encourage children to \”take your time.\” I believe everyone has heard the saying \”Don\’t let your children lose at the starting line.\” The pace of society is getting faster and faster, and many parents are also falling into anxiety. For fear that the child would fall behind, not even a second could be lost. For example, if a child\’s grades are not good, he will be sent to various cram schools; if a child fails in an exam once, he will be told that he must do well next time. In \”Little Joy\”, Yingzi has excellent grades and has always been ranked first. However, during the placement test, the transfer student Lin Lei\’er took the first place. Look what her mother Song Qian said: However, as a parent, you cannot Is this all for the sake of the children? But children are children after all, and if you are not a parent, you cannot empathize with them. They simply don’t understand how much it hurt their mother on the day they were born, how hard it is for their father to make money to support the family, how much their parents love them and how much they want to give them the best things in the world. Parents become parents for the first time, and children become children for the first time. So, can we give each other more time? For example, if he didn\’t do well in the exam, don\’t be too busy blaming him. Instead, have a good chat with him, analyze the reasons together, and then take countermeasures. Give him a few more chances and take your time. For another example, if you have a conflict with your child, don\’t get angry immediately, communicate after calming down, and slowly bridge the generation gap. Liu Jing in \”Little Joy\” is such a parent. She is rational and calm, not impatient and impatient. She is like the lubricant between father and son, leading the family to happiness. There is a saying that Rome was not built in a day. Take your time to be fast. The nagging of a child who feels irritable is precisely an expression of love from the parents. Chinese parents cannot say \”I love you\” warmly and directly like Western parents. Instead, love your children in every detail of life, such as saying a simple \”wear long johns\”. This selfless love is eternal, so parents will nag their children for a lifetime. But sometimes nagging doesn’t work and the child doesn’t appreciate it, try these new “Three Character Classics”. Maybe just like Tang Monk conquered Sun Wukong, parents conquered the naughty child like this!