Seeing Ma Rong angrily scolding Wang Baoqiang, do we really still need to teach our children to be kind?

The night before yesterday, Ma Rong, who had been silent for more than a year, suddenly spoke up. But her statement really made people feel uncomfortable after reading it. She said this: To sum it up simply, she mainly made three key points: 1. It took me a year to speak out. It’s not that I don’t want to respond, but that I Weibo is out of use and cannot respond! 2. Even though there is such a big public outcry, I am still trying to be a good mother and protect my children from getting hurt. I have a clear conscience. 3. Wang Baoqiang, you are the one who turned family matters into a social topic, and you are the culprit that harms the physical and mental health of your children! This is completely a victim image! If you don\’t know what happened a year ago and just read the text, you will believe that Ma Rong is full of grievances and bitterness, and that she, a \”good\” mother who has endured many hardships and a \”good\” wife who endures humiliation and burden, was ruined by Wang Baoqiang. Got it! Ma Rong\’s statement is full of complaints about others and herself: Look, it was Wang Baoqiang who used the Internet to cause a family incident that caused a storm in the city. It is known to everyone on the street. In order to protect my young children in such a bad situation, I But he endured the humiliation and tried his best to eliminate the influence of public opinion on his children. People who don\’t know the truth almost think that Wang Baoqiang\’s cheating caused a storm in the city. I really hope that her Weibo will never be used, so at least there won’t be this statement that taints everyone’s eyes. Throughout the article, you shirk responsibility, use children as a shield, and push yourself to a moral high ground. Is there any more ridiculous rhetoric in the world than this? I really don’t know where she got the courage. Talk about the child and say that you are trying to protect the child from being affected. But is it Wang Baoqiang’s fault that his children have to face a family that is falling apart? She doesn\’t think that everyone has forgotten that she cheated on her first, got together with Wang Baoqiang\’s assistant Song Zhe, and tried her best to transfer the family property, which made Wang Baoqiang unable to bear it and issued a statement, right? ! If what she posts on Weibo is to clarify her relationship with Song Zhe, announce that she does not have an \”illicit relationship\” with Song Zhe, and provide tangible evidence to prove that she has not transferred property, she does not need to say anything about her children. It is much more powerful than her shouting ten thousand times, \”Ten years of family, having children, giving everything, and having a clear conscience.\” The crux of the problem is that her entire statement said nothing about these two core issues, but she still wants to push herself to a moral level and use her children as an excuse. This statement of eating fish that tastes fishy, ​​being a thief and being scornful of others, trying to get any benefits, and not accepting any responsibilities is the real reason for irritating everyone. If she hadn\’t cheated first, and worked with the adulterer to find ways to transfer property, and even let her mother fake marriage and divorce with Song Zhe\’s father, repeatedly challenging everyone\’s bottom line, the divorce of ordinary entertainment stars would have caused one-sided public opinion. Denounce it? She destroyed the home with her own hands. This is the greatest harm to the children! Ma Rong has always acquiesced in the matter of cheating in marriage. When Wang Baoqiang issued a divorce statement last year, he named Ma Rong and Song Zhe for having an extramarital affair. Ma Rong\’s response at that time was to post an inexplicable and incomprehensible Weibo message. Let\’s put ourselves in the shoes of a woman. If she is innocent and has been wronged, if this woman did not have an adulterous relationship with the person she was accused of having an affair with. , see thisHow could they not come out to clarify the accusation immediately and distance themselves from each other? If you really have a problem, you won’t dare to face it. To be honest, if she had the courage to admit cheating, everyone might think better of it. Nowadays, the degree of autonomy in marriage is so high that a woman no longer needs to be a chaste and martyrdom her whole life. If two people in a marriage no longer have feelings, there is no need to forcefully tie them together and divorce early. After the divorce, each other can start a new relationship. But if you cheat in your marriage, it’s wrong! She had an affair and conspired with the adulterer to transfer her property. She made a mistake and refused to admit it, which made her make more mistakes. Since you have the courage to pursue love, you must have the courage to take responsibility! A selfish person who blindly pursues his own comfort and ignores everyone else will certainly be looked down upon by everyone! Look at Ma Rong, then look at Liu Xin and Chen Shifeng, and everyone will be surprised to find that they are all the same type of people: they magnify their selfish desires infinitely, nakedly demand for their own interests and enjoyment, plunder wantonly, and do not hesitate to harm anyone. people. It would be a lie to say that such people are not scary. Speaking for myself, I would be scared if I had such friends around me. From a parent\’s perspective, I\’m more worried about my children making friends like this. But precisely because there are so many people like Ma Rong and Liu Xin, and I have seen so many of their tricks, I am even more determined to educate Zai Zai well and cultivate him into a caring, responsible, upright, kind, confident, and brave person. Because what I believe in myself is what I will attract. Just as flowers naturally attract butterflies and bees, garbage dumps naturally attract flies and mice. If my child is full of energy, enthusiasm and responsibility, he will be more likely to attract upright and kind people as friends. Professor Adam Grant of the Wharton School once conducted a study and found that people who are honest, kind-hearted, and good at giving are more likely to succeed. Of course, their integrity and kindness are not bottomless. Being kind like Jiang Ge only gives others a chance to hurt themselves in the end. These kinds of kindness and integrity are all based on personal boundaries. Keep a sincere heart. At the same time, you must learn to identify what kind of people are worth helping and what kind of people will waste your feelings. You cannot help others without a bottom line. Good guys do 8 points, leaving 2 points for vigilance. Kindness without boundaries is the same as stupidity and cowardice. Just like there is day and night every day, there are good people and bad people in this world. There must be bad people around us. No bad person will take the initiative to admit that they are bad. They will use various methods to disguise themselves, so we must be defensive and cannot be kind without a bottom line. Some people may feel unbalanced, why should they be a good person? Obviously, scheming people like Ma Rong and Liu Xin seem to have a better life! In the short term, it is indeed easier for Ma Rong, Liu Xin and others to gain advantages in material interests. But if you take a longer-term view, you will find that the villain\’s success is often only short-term. In the long run, if everyone learns from these villains, the surrounding environment will be filled with the same villains. When everyone has a strong sense of protection, the villain will not be able to succeed as always! At that time, those honest and kind peopleOn the contrary, it is easier to stand out. Therefore, we cannot let our children become people like Ma Rong and Liu Xin just because there have been so many weirdos this year. Even if society reveals so many dark sides, even if life is full of thorns and ups and downs, you still maintain your integrity and be a passionate and energetic person. Maybe we will occasionally get lost in the face of money and power, maybe we will be confused and can\’t find the direction, but in the end we will choose the right direction and stand on the side of justice, because this is what each of us is born with. Energy, we are born with enthusiasm, joy and optimism. We are born with the tendency to do good people and good deeds. Doing so will make our life more practical and better.