Self-checklist for unqualified parent behavior: You are too much delaying your children

In this era, \”naughty children\” has become an almost ubiquitous hot topic, and you can always see information related to it when you open the hot search. On the morning of November 25 last year, Ms. Liu went to the Xuefeng Police Station in Lizhou District, Guangyuan to report to the police, My child was lost and I couldn’t find it after searching all night. It was learned that Xiao Song was only 13 years old this year. His parents were worried that playing with mobile phones would affect his studies, so they only bought him an old man’s mobile phone. Xiao Song’s behavior made people angry and funny. But behind these \”bear children\” who make people love and anger, why don\’t they stand their own \”bear parents\”? In the \”bear parent\” behavior self-check list published by the People\’s Daily Weibo, we summarized 10 There are 17 kinds of behaviors that can easily spoil children and 17 kinds of \”bear parent\” behaviors of unqualified parents. Parents, please check yourself! These 10 behaviors can easily spoil children! 1. Give children special treatment. Children have a superior status at home. If children receive special care everywhere, such as eating \”alone\”, etc., if things go on like this, the child will become selfish and unsympathetic. 2. Protect the child\’s mistakes in person. Many parents use \”don\’t be too strict, they are still young\” as an excuse to protect their children\’s mistakes. This will cause the child to have no concept of right and wrong and cause the child\’s personality to be distorted. 3. Paying too much attention to the child and the family not caring about the child all the time will make the child think that he is the center and the family will revolve around him. 4. Easily satisfy the child\’s unreasonable demands Parents will give them whatever they want. In this way, they will develop a character that does not know how to cherish, cares about material enjoyment, and is inconsiderate to others. 5. Allow children to live a lazy life, allow children to be picky eaters, sleep in, play without restraint, etc. In this way, they will easily lack self-motivation and Perseverance means you can live a life of peace. 6. Begging your children is like coaxing and begging them to eat, and agreeing to tell them three stories before finishing the meal. The more you beg, the more coy and pretentious your children will be. Not only will they not be able to distinguish right from wrong, but the authority of the parents will also be exhausted. . 7. Arrangement Substitution Some parents never require their children to work, and they have to feed their children when they are three or four years old, and do not do any housework when they are five or six years old. In this way, the children will definitely not become hard-working, kind, and capable. 8. Making a fuss when the child is sick , the parents panic and spoil them, which will eventually lead to the children not letting their parents take a step away and becoming cowardly and timid. 9. Deprived of their independence, they are afraid of melting when held in their mouths, and afraid of flying away when spit out. Such children will develop a dependence mentality. They often become \”gatekeepers\”, domineering at home, and are as timid as mice outside, forming character defects. 10. Parents who are afraid of crying and afraid of their children crying are incompetent parents. If they allow their children to beat and scold their parents, it will affect their character. Sow the seeds of selfishness, ruthlessness, and willfulness. These 9 types of mothers are unqualified! 1. Mothers who are untrustworthy must do what they promise, otherwise the mother\’s prestige will disappear and the children will become more difficult to educate. 2 . A mother who speaks ill of her father half of the child comes from the father and half from the mother. Denying one parent is equivalent to denying half of the child. 3. Mothers who love to compare always compare the shortcomings of their children with the advantages of other people\’s children. In contrast, blaming the child will make the child unconvinced or even disgusted. It is also detrimental to cultivating the child\’s personality and self-confidence. It will also make the child feel that his mother does not love him at all. 4. Moms who always say \”I\’m doing this for your own good\” Some mothers always seem to have endless concerns, but some just use the banner of \”for your own good\” to plan their children\’s lives without authorization. 5. Mothers who do not respect their children’s privacy. Some mothers like to disclose their children’s privacy to the public when chatting with friends and neighbors. 6. Grumpy mothers. Some mothers use their children as a punching bag without distinguishing right from wrong, which will make their children blame themselves. The children mistakenly believe that he is the cause of their mother\’s unhappiness. If things go on like this, children will have low self-esteem when they grow up. 7. Crying poor mother \”Do you know how difficult it is to raise you?\” This sentence is very hurtful to the child. You can tell your children what they can buy, what they can’t buy, and why they can’t buy it, but don’t always say “no money” or “can’t afford it.” 8. Mothers who are too \”humble\” When their children show off their best strengths, sometimes mothers always say in front of others that their children are not doing well to show their humility. In fact, appropriate encouragement is more conducive to children\’s growth. 9. Mothers who always play with mobile phones. When a mother neglects her children because she plays with her mobile phones, the children will feel that their mother is perfunctory and will naturally not want to communicate with them. If parent-child communication is hindered, the child will become withdrawn and autistic. These 8 types of dads are unqualified! 1. A grumpy father. If a father has a grumpy temper and beats and curses at every turn, the child may also be the same, or even to a greater extent. 2. Fathers who don’t understand their mothers. Some fathers take their wives’ efforts for granted and even put the responsibility of educating their children on their mothers, which makes their children lose their sense of security. 3. Fathers who are absent from their children’s education. Boys will learn masculinity from their fathers, and girls will learn how to get along with the opposite sex. 4. A father who has no integrity. A father who does what he says is not only a role model for his children, but also the best education for his children. 5. An overly controlling father. If the children always act according to their parents’ ideas and do not have the right to make their own choices for a long time, they will be eager to become independent from the family and become more rebellious. 6. Nagging dads. Some dads don’t like reading, but they teach their children all day long to “stop watching TV and go read a book.” 7. Dads with bad living habits. Some men don’t pay much attention to personal hygiene and don’t like to take baths or brush their teeth. Their children won’t be able to distinguish right from wrong and will just follow what they learn. 8. An overly strict father. If a father always treats his children with a stern face, it will easily lead to estrangement over time. Family education affects a child\’s life, and parents have no choice but to do so. Family education emphasizes results rather than process.