Psychologically speaking, the most important attachment relationship between children before the age of three is the parent-child attachment relationship. That is to say, before the child is three years old, the most important person is the mother. As long as the child can be with the mother, the child will feel very happy. But after a child turns three years old, he needs peer relationships, so we recommend that children go to kindergarten after they are three years old. Going to kindergarten is not to let the child learn things, but to let the child play with peers of the same age. When playing with friends, he can learn to share, and he can learn how to interact with his peers. That is to say, the foundation of children\’s interpersonal relationships is actually laid in kindergarten. A senior principal mentioned: In fact, children develop early and late. There are three types of children, even if they are three years old, it is not recommended to go to kindergarten, otherwise teachers will be afraid of annoying their parents. What are the three types of children? Senior Kindergarten Director: Children in the third category should not go to kindergarten too early. Not only will the mother be tired, but the children will also suffer. Category One: Children with relatively weak bodies live in a group in kindergarten. Children who have some minor problems usually go to kindergarten. , so there are actually more germs in kindergartens, and even if they are disinfected frequently, it is difficult to avoid them. If the child\’s body immunity is relatively weak, it is easy to get cross-infected and sick when going to kindergarten. Repeated illness is a headache for parents, and it also makes teachers helpless. . Therefore, parents of children with poor immunity may need some exercise, such as taking their children to more public places to get more accustomed to them before going to kindergarten. Category 2: Children with poor self-care ability. Many children can go to the toilet, take off their pants, and eat by themselves when they are more than two years old. However, some children have very poor self-care ability. Although teachers can help a little when they go to kindergarten. , but other children can do it on their own. If he only needs help from the teacher, he will feel that he is different from other children, which is not a good thing for the child\’s psychology. Therefore, as a parent, if you want your child to go to kindergarten at the age of three, you must train his self-care ability in advance. At least the child can eat by himself when eating, and he can take off his pants when going to the toilet. When attending small classes in kindergarten, some children may need the teacher to help wipe their butts. This is not a big problem, but you\’d better ensure that your children can only be a little more self-disciplined. Such children are easy to be praised by the teacher and envied by their classmates. This can make children more confident and better adapt to kindergarten life. Category 3: Children with severe separation anxiety. The so-called separation anxiety means that when the child is separated from his mother, he will become very anxious, very sad, and even cry bitterly. This is most likely caused by the child being separated from his mother before the age of three. The mother has not established a secure attachment relationship, which makes him very afraid of being separated from her. As long as the mother sends him to other places, he will be frightened and uneasy. When a child is in a bad mood, he won’t sleep well, won’t eat well, and will cry all day long. This will also affect other children, and most importantly, the child will be in a bad mood, which will also affect It affects his physiology and makes him prone to illness. Therefore, as a parent, you must avoid these behaviors when your child has separation anxiety around one year old.For example, if you secretly leave your child at home and run out for the whole day, it can easily lead to the child\’s fear of being abandoned. When weaning, weaning should be done slowly and naturally instead of weaning the child suddenly, or leaving the child at home and living out of town for a week, which will also destroy the child\’s sense of security. To avoid separation anxiety in children, it is necessary to have a sense of ritual when separating from the child before he is one year old. For example, the first separation is 5 minutes, and slowly lengthens it to 10 minutes or 1 hour to allow the child to adapt to being away from his mother. It is also very important that the relationship between families must be harmonious. Before a child is three years old, he can actually understand what his parents are saying and can especially feel his parents\’ emotions. If the child often sees his parents quarreling or even getting physical, , this will cause great trauma to the child\’s young mind, and he will be very uncomfortable in a strange environment. If you want your children to go to kindergarten smoothly at the age of three, then parents should raise their children well before the age of three, take their children to exercise outdoors more, feed them more nutritious and balanced food, keep their children in good health, and exercise their children more For example, children must eat by themselves after one and a half years old, and children must learn to use the toilet by themselves after two and a half years old. What is more important is to help children establish a secure attachment relationship so that they feel safe. Parents\’ love for their children is profound, so as a parent, you must understand and love your children.
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