She unraveled what maternal love is, and I couldn’t bear to look at it again

I watched a bone-chilling movie a few days ago. It was so exciting that I couldn’t help but want to share it with you. I have recommended the British drama \”Black Mirror\” many times on my official account. It uses extraordinary imagination to depict the darkness and embarrassment of human nature. It is a masterpiece. And this \”Your Children Are Not Your Children\”, which is called the Taiwanese version of \”Black Mirror\”, although it does not have that level and popularity, it is still astonishingly exciting. There are a total of 5 stories in this series of movies, and each story is beautifully shot. It allows us to see the typical Chinese parent-child relationship in which \”sacrifice and aggression coexist\”. How does the mother, who is the carrier of the child\’s life, become the \”murderer\” who destroys the child\’s life? Each episode begins with a shocking picture: a baby\’s brain is covered by the mother\’s silhouette, and the soul has an extra shackle. What moved me the most was the last story – \”Must Move\”. If the first few stories made me feel depressed, the last one made me tremble. It completely subverts the concept in our minds that \”it is instinctive for mothers to love their children\”: in a world where maternal love disappears, mothers who use grades as a whip can cultivate (destroy) each child. 1. How terrible is a world where maternal love disappears? The film fictionalizes a cold world where the birth of a child has nothing to do with \”love\”. Here, men are no longer needed for reproduction, and the role of the father disappears completely. Just like the \”Daughter Kingdom\” in \”Journey to the West\”, it\’s just that the water of the Zimu River has become technology in the hands of doctors, and giving birth to a child has become a simple and emotionless thing. When a woman wants to be a mother, she can go to the hospital. The doctor puts the embryo into the uterus, and within a few minutes, the child has a heartbeat. Here, motherhood is a career, and children are the \”springboard\” for mothers to flourish. The arrival of a child will make the mother excited. But this excitement does not stem from their love for their children, but more from their longing for their own bright future. Because if they can educate their children well, they will have glory and wealth. Here, performance is the highest law and the performance indicator for mothers. The entire society worships grades and attaches great importance to examinations, which is almost crazy. Children have an appraisal test when they are ten, fifteen and eighteen years old: for children who do well in the test, their mother will receive a medal and live in a mansion; if the test score is less than 20 points, they will be sent to Jinjin (destroyed). As a result, my mother will move into a slum-like pigeonhole community. Heaven and hell are only separated by a big exam. Under such high pressure, everything is cold. Children shuttle in a cold world every day, struggling to survive between grades. Just like what is said in the movie: \”In this world, no matter whether your grades are good or bad, life is so hopeless.\” Children are destined to be victims. And Yang Juan, the gold medal mother, interprets this coldness to the extreme. She regards her love for her children as an investment. Her first investment paid off handsomely. Her son Ruojie got perfect marks in all subjects, which allowed her to win a gold medal, live in a mansion in the city center, and win the admiration of everyone. But this is not the life Ruojie wants. In his innocence, he once said to his mother: \”How about I build you a tree house when I grow up?\” The tree house was the most beautiful thing in his heart, and he wanted to dedicate it to his mother. but momHe said, \”What mom wants is that golden pin. Can you help her get it?\” When Ruojie grew up and handed the key to a delicate tree house into her mother\’s hands, her mother told him: \”Don\’t waste it.\” It’s time to do this.” When he told his mother that it was his dream to do carpentry, her mother firmly said that his mind would change in the future. His mother threw away Ruojie\’s important carpentry tools, which were \”like my hands.\” Ruojie lost his dream. He didn\’t want his mother to live in a pigeon cage, but he couldn\’t continue to live in the real cage. He chose She committed suicide… her mother faked Ruojie\’s death as a car accident, so she received a new embryo compensated by the government and gave birth to her daughter Ruowa. She continued to raise Ruowa with elitist educational concepts, but Ruowa\’s talent was not good and her grades were very poor. The tutor said that tutoring would not help. Her gold medal light began to dim; seeing her neighbors being kicked out of the Pigeon Cage community because their children failed on exams, she felt a crisis, so she taught her daughter to fake ADHD at school; because when her daughter was diagnosed with ADHD Afterwards, the embryo will be destroyed because it is defective, and she can get a new embryo. When the child conflicts with her future, she does not hesitate to sacrifice the child to achieve herself. She could not bear to live in the Pigeon Cage community even more than the death of her child. This mother can cook exquisite nutritious meals, comb her daughter\’s hair into beautiful braids, and educate her children about circuits when the lights at home are broken. She invested money, time, and energy in raising children, but she did not invest in love. The utilitarian values ​​​​of the entire society not only kill the child, but also backfire on the mother, causing her to lose her maternal tenderness. There is a section in the video where Yang Juan went to Ruojie\’s cabin, looked into the distance with tears in her eyes, and said, \”Mom loves you.\” When I saw this, I was thinking, did what she said to Ruojie come from sincerity, or was she feeling guilty? Maybe what she loves is just the hard work she put in, because Ruojie is her more perfect work. Just like she often wears a silk scarf given by Ruowa, she does not cherish it because it was given by her daughter, but just because this scarf was given by Ruowa when she got good grades in the exam. To her, it is symbol of good luck. What she cares more about is fame and fortune. Therefore, her love for Ruowa is completely traceless. After Ruowa died, she became a mother again. She also wrote a best-selling book about the \”growth\” brought to her by raising two children. She continued to give speeches and serve as a role model for parenting; at the \”Good Mother Annual Award Ceremony\”, she emotionally shared: \”Only a 100% mother can have a 100% child; men are the producers of society, and women , is the most important force in cultivating the next generation; as a mother, no matter how good the quality of the embryo is, we must work hard with him; if you do not do well in the fifteen-year-old identification test, don’t be discouraged. Keep up the good work in the eighteen-year-old identification test, and the whole family Move back to a nice house in the heart of the city! The final scene of chanting slogans was even more exciting: \”Education promotes class mobility, long live motherhood!\” \”She seems to be radiant, but she makes people feel chilly. Finally, in the TV show, she revealed the secret of raising children: Don\’t worry about what the child looks like at the beginning, there is always a way to make the child better.Become your ideal self; of course, the most important thing is to love yourself. The calm expression really makes people tremble. When reading this story, I kept thinking, if motherhood is really a profession, what are the scoring criteria? In any case, love should not be an indicator of being obliterated. So this mother who seems to have a hundred percent score is actually a zero percent mother in my eyes. Behind her seemingly affectionate \”maternal love\” are all kinds of utilitarian purposes that cannot be expressed in words. She is just an exquisite egoist and a mother who is incompetent in love. 2. How pitiful are unloved children? \”Silent Confession\” says: \”All our lives, we want to get rid of the expectations of others and find our true selves.\” Children are eager to find themselves, just like Ruowa asked her mother: \”Can\’t I just be myself?\” But It is difficult for children to break away from their parents\’ expectations and love and recognition. There is a section in the film where Ruowa sadly leaves home and comes to a \”shelter\” after knowing her mother\’s true purpose of letting her pretend to have ADHD. In this magical \”paradise\”, many abandoned children gathered; the children in these five stories all appeared here. Here, every child can give full play to their talents and do what they are good at. But after a short stay, Ruowa chose to return to her mother. She wants to make her mother happy more than being herself; without her mother\’s love, she doesn\’t even know what she would be. When she got home, she begged her mother to comb her hair and to help her with her homework. She hopes her mother can still love her and not give up on her. She desperately asked her mother: \”Do you love me?\” Her mother asked: \”What about you?\” \” Ruowa said \”: love\”. Her mother said: \”That\’s enough.\” Even if it was true that her mother did not love her, she still loved her mother deeply. On the way to be destroyed, she still cried and said to her mother in the air \”Thank you.\” They say that children are the mother\’s weakness. In fact, the mother is the child\’s weakness. The mother has the power to shape the child. It is like holding a sword, which can cut through thorns for the child; it can also stab the child and make the child powerless. Resistance. But with the sword in our hands, can we wield it at will? We may have forgotten that children are not only our children, but also themselves! The film comes from life and is higher than life. I like this story because I think it It is like a mirror that awakens every parent. Let us think about how, as parents, we should love our children properly. This does not mean that we don’t care about our children’s grades, but it means that we should break our \”only reading is good\” Our single education view respects children\’s interests; it does not mean letting children live as they please, but finding a balance between our expectations and children\’s wishes to guide children to realize their own values. Compared with success and fame, I hope that my children can live a safe, healthy and happy life.