Shocked! Mother punishes her child like this

Many times, when faced with our children\’s mistakes, we become confused and impulsively make some overreactions and severely punish our children. It\’s not that you can\’t be punished if you make a mistake, but punishment also requires strategy. If you handle it well, you can turn punishment into an art. 1. Treat it coldly and let the child \”try and make mistakes\”. A mother took the bus home with her son, but her son, who was naturally lively, made a lot of noise in the car and even ran around. As a result, the mother chose to take the bus to the nearest I took my son off the bus at the station. The son was puzzled for a moment: \”Where is this? We haven\’t arrived home yet, why did we get out of the car?\” The mother calmly replied: \”Because you were extremely rude in the car, I had to take you out of the car in advance. Because you did Something was wrong, so we have to walk home now.\” Thinking about it, what would happen if this mother saw her child making a big fuss at first and scolded her child in front of everyone in the car? I\’m afraid the mistake has not been corrected, but the child\’s self-esteem has been hurt first. Children will make many mistakes, whether they are scolded or beaten, why not give them a chance to try and make mistakes? Parents should not be impatient when their children make mistakes. Give each other a period of calm, guide the children to take their own responsibilities, follow the guidance, and let the children realize their mistakes like spring breeze and take responsibility for their actions. This is the most suitable punishment for children. 2. Make rules and inform punishment consequences. When I went to a friend’s house for the first time, I found a piece of paper taped to the wall of her house. When I looked carefully, I found out that it was a “Family Behavior Reward and Punishment Chart”, which carefully listed “Not going to bed on time”. , wash the dishes once”, “I forgot to write my homework, didn’t write it seriously, and I’m not allowed to watch TV for a day”… Looking at my incredible look, my friend said with a smile: “Clear rewards and punishments, let him know what he should do and shouldn’t do, discipline. It’s really worry-free!” Sometimes when children make small mistakes, they will try to cover up the past by lying, because they are afraid of unknown punishment, and small mistakes become big mistakes. Indeed, it is better to tailor a set of rules according to the child and clearly tell the child that if you make a mistake, you will be punished accordingly. Punishment can be doing housework, or it can be self-reflection and review, allowing children to eliminate the influence of mistakes by changing themselves. There is no need to be fierce every time and make your children tremble for fear that they will be \”eaten\” by you if they make a mistake. Informing children of the consequences of being punished actually gives them the courage to admit their mistakes. 3. Work with the child to find ways to make up for the mistake. When my daughter came back from kindergarten, she carefully told me that she accidentally broke the child\’s toy. Seeing my daughter\’s helpless look, I held back my anger and said, \”What should we do if we break someone else\’s things? Why don\’t we buy him a new one!\” When I was choosing toys, my daughter said to me. : \”Mom, I know I was wrong. I should apologize first, and I will give the new toys to the children tomorrow.\” Sometimes the child\’s behavior is uncontrollable. When he does something wrong unintentionally, we don\’t have to panic and think carefully. Thinking about how to help the child make up for his mistakes, the little kid still doesn\’t know how to take responsibility for his own actions, so the reaction of his parents becomes the guide for doing things. Standing in the shoes of a parent and giving the child a clear path,Let your children know that even if they do something wrong, they can correct it. Making mistakes is not terrible. What is terrible is not knowing how to repent. What is even more terrible is not knowing how to repent. 4. Don’t settle old scores after punishment. In \”Family with Children\”, Liu Xing has always been a naughty child who loves to get into trouble. Every time Liu Xing makes a mistake, his mother Liu Mei will keep scolding him, \”You cheated on that exam…\” , \”I beat the fat guy downstairs a few days ago…\” Later Liu Xing felt that her mother could not see her progress and chose to run away from home. Only then did Liu Mei realize her mistake and regretted it. It is often said that people should treat each other with admiration after seeing each other for three days, not to mention children who are in the growing stage. Children are constantly learning about the world and growing up. We cannot always look at children with a static eye! When children make mistakes, parents should correct them promptly and seize the opportunity for education. The past is the past, and there is no point in rehashing old scores. It will only make the children live in the shadow of mistakes and dare not look up. Parents should also be more relaxed and live in the present with their children. Punishment is for the betterment of the child, not simply to avoid mistakes. Take your children\’s mistakes seriously. Punishment is just a strategy. I hope parents can turn punishment into an art so that their children can thrive.