Should a child be spanked back? The 3-year-old son was kicked in the head, and his mother’s actions caused countless people to argue

There was once a topic in the education field: If your child was beaten by another child, what would you teach your child to do? Should the child be patient to avoid further harm, or should the child resist or even fight back? This problem has troubled many parents, but it is a problem that almost every child will encounter when growing up. The attitude of parents may determine the child\’s life choices, or may shape the child\’s future character. A 3-year-old son was kicked in the head by a child, and his mother grabbed her son\’s hand and taught him to hit him back. Recently, I saw a piece of news that said \”A 3-year-old son was \’bullied\’ by a classmate, and his mother grabbed her son\’s hand and hit him back.\” At that time, many netizens hot discussion. Mr. Yao said that his son Xiao Yao was very active and bullied another child in the English training class by kicking his head. After the child\’s mother saw it, she grabbed her son\’s hand and hit Xiao Yao in public, and taught her son to say \” I have to fight back.\” Mr. Yao was very dissatisfied because the other mother’s move caused little Yao to suffer from insomnia and incontinence after being frightened. He asked why she couldn’t communicate with him first if something happened. Among the netizens who participated in the discussion, some condemned the children who hit others, some supported the mother of the child who was beaten, and some believed that adults should not intervene in fights between children. With all due respect, this is an overstatement, why should I explain it as \”active\”? Sir, stick your head out and let you see what it means to be active? If you don’t educate your children yourself, others will educate them for you! In the face of school bullying, Professor Li Meijin supports fighting back. The People\’s Daily once disclosed a school bullying incident in which girls from a middle school in Jiayu County, Hubei Province were slapped in turns. In just 40 seconds, she was slapped no less than 20 times. The girl who was spanked did not dare to move, her expression was dull and her face was red. Staff from the local education bureau said it was just a joke among classmates. In a school bullying incident in Baoding, Hebei, a girl was forced to kneel down, slapped, had her hair pulled, kicked, beaten with a stick, and forced to take off her clothes. School bullying has become a hot topic in society. The famous host Jin Xing once said: If someone does not offend me, I will not offend others; if someone offends me, I will be polite; if someone offends me again, I will eradicate it. Professor Li Mujin, an expert in criminal psychology at the Public Security University of China, shared an incident in which his granddaughter was harmed when she went to kindergarten when she was a guest on the \”Let\’s Talk\” program. When Professor Li Meijin\’s granddaughter was in kindergarten, she was picked up and thrown down by a little boy in her class within a month. Her head hit a hard object, causing swelling. The difference is that she taught her granddaughter how to protect herself with professional knowledge. Because of the disparity in physical strength between boys and girls, your granddaughter cannot break free. If this happens again, just pull each other\’s ears with both hands. If it hurts, he will naturally put you down. Why should you fight back if you are bullied? Professor Li Meijin said: If the children who are bullied do not fight back, those naughty children who bully others will bully others again and again, because it is fun. This is not only true for adults, but also for children: once they lose their sense of awe, they will become unscrupulous, lawless, and even lose their bottom line. Recently, a mother asked me in the background: My son just went to school for a week and said he didn’t want to go to school tomorrow. Asked him why, he said that a boy in the class bullied him. My son is usually very good at home and is very good outside.He was so polite but weak. I was so angry. I asked the teacher if he had told me, and he said he had, but he continued to beat me the next day. I answered with a real example from another mother: her child was bullied by classmates at school and came back to tell his parents. The first time they encountered this situation, the parents said: \”Tell the teacher!\” The result was an apology. Thinking about it, the teacher had no choice but to call back! But then this happened once, twice, three times… or even five or six times. Then the parents couldn\’t sit still and told their children: \”Hit him wherever he hits you; hit him wherever he hits you; Just give him a few blows!\” It worked! If you don\’t tell him that it\’s evil, he can drive others to death. If you don\’t tell him to resist, he can be driven to death by others. Once, Jolin Tsai played a video of a mother who lost her beloved son at a concert in Taipei, and all the fans at the scene gathered together. Tears! This is a true story. The little boy in the video is Ye Yongzhi from Taiwan. Because his personality was too much like a girl, he was bullied to death by his classmates. At school, he was bullied almost every day by his classmates, who teased him for being a sissy. They even took off his pants forcibly while he was going to the toilet to check if he was a girl. As a result, every time he had to go to the toilet, he had to finish class a few minutes early and run out before his classmates went to the toilet, living in trepidation. Once, Ye Yongzhi still left the classroom five minutes before get out of class to go to the toilet, but this time he never returned to the classroom. When he was found, he had collapsed in the toilet and was bleeding. In the end, resuscitation failed and he died on the spot. The angry mother Ye took the school to court, but the verdict she got was: a heart attack. \”There is no autopsy? How do you know whether he is sick or not?!\” The mother who lost her beloved son complained like crazy. She dug out all the physical examination certificates of Xiao Yongzhi from childhood to adulthood, and none of them proved that her son had a history of heart disease. . However, no one was moved by her tears. She was the only one who lost her child. More people chose to watch and remain silent. After her son\’s death, Ye\’s mother started a six-year appeal. It is hard to imagine what kind of time it was like and how a poor and lonely mother persisted. However, she won! After six years of appeal, the court changed the conviction of three school supervisors for death due to professional negligence. But this still cannot make up for the pain of a mother losing her beloved son. Children are children not only because they have no ability to protect themselves, but also because they have no self-control over doing evil. If you don\’t tell him that it is evil, he can drive others to death. If you don\’t tell him to resist, he will be forced to death by others. When encountering malicious bullying by others, in addition to telling parents and teachers, parents must teach their children to learn to resist and defend their rights. This is a very important part of children\’s interpersonal skills, because it means that their own A bottom line. Kill other people\’s bullying of you in temptation. Legality and justice cannot give way to illegality and injustice, and such illegal infringements must be dealt with head on. Fighting back against someone who hurts you is the first and most precious truth-telling in life. In recent years, I have seen a lot of news about \”children hurting children\”: a primary school student was raped by his deskmate.All kinds of bullying caused neurasthenia and made me afraid to go to school. There was once a primary school student who shaved his head because of a scratch on his head, but was ridiculed by some classmates for being a bald guy, so he beat his classmates in order to defend his \”dignity.\” Not hurting others is a kind of education, but not being hurt by others is a kind of aura. And this needs to be known to children from the moment they begin to face the world. Fighting back against someone who hurts you may be the first and most precious edge in life. Professor Li Meijin also gave parents some advice in \”Let\’s Talk\”. 1. Your children should not bully others. Parents should tell their children what they can and cannot do, and they must not bully their children. 2. Let children learn to protect themselves. Children must have physical exercise. If they exercise, they will have explosive power. If they have explosive power, they will not be easily bullied. If a child never exercises and does not have a strong body, he can be easily pushed down. Others will push him next time. It’s fun. Failure to resist after being hurt will cause children to gradually lose their initial judgment of likes and dislikes in the world. So, child, if someone hits you, you must resist without fear; child, if someone hits you, you must learn to protect yourself immediately when you have to fight back. No one can take care of you for your whole life, but you have to learn to love yourself from now on.