Should children be raised poor or rich? I\’ll tell you the answer

Last year, a friend bought a house and after signing the contract, he invited some brothers to have dinner together. We grew up together, we were all born in rural areas, went to the same junior high school and the same high school, and went to university in the same city. Now they have all bought houses one after another and settled in neighboring communities. A friend lamented: I cannot guarantee that I will be able to bring anything else to the next generation in the future, but I can at least be proud to say that I brought him from the countryside to the city. So, our topic successfully switched from \”Exciting Life\” to the parenting channel. Then, my friend got into an argument with his wife over the issue of food and clothing for their son! In the end, it was obvious that my friend couldn\’t argue anymore. After holding it in for a long time, he came up with a golden sentence: \”Boys should be raised poor. You will spoil him sooner or later. Look at all our brothers, which one is not raised poor! Now! , look at it, tsk tsk tsk, all of them are presentable, they are simply a model of success!\” His wife was shocked when the golden sentence came out in the first half of the sentence. But when it came to the second half of the sentence, after asking a few of us to set an example, my friend’s wife burst out laughing. After my friend realized that his words were not convincing enough, he had to turn around and ask me, is that true? Hope I can help. Whether a boy should be raised poor or not is a topic that has been debated on the Internet for a long time. I didn\’t reply to them immediately, but told them a story, a story that many people have heard. In ancient times, there was a man named Fan Li who had three sons. The second son committed a murder in Chu State and was caught. He should be executed as usual. Fan Li heard that his son could be saved from death by spending a large sum of money to ask a friend to help him. So he sent his youngest son and his daughter to go to Chu to save people. After the eldest son heard about it, he felt that his father did not trust him, so he had to go alone. Fan Li refused, so his eldest son threatened to commit suicide. Fan Li had no choice but to agree. He told his eldest son to go to Chu State to find Zhuang Sheng, give him a thousand pieces of gold, and forget about anything else, just come back. When the eldest son arrived in Chu and found Zhuang Sheng, he immediately gave him a thousand pieces of gold as a gift. Zhuang Sheng told him that he would help him get it done, and asked the eldest son to leave Chu as soon as possible and not to stay. However, the eldest son saw that Zhuang Sheng was a pauper, and he was worried. He always felt that Zhuang Sheng was cheating money, so he secretly stayed in Chu State to observe. Although Zhuang Sheng was poor, he was quite prestigious in the Chu State. Through some operations and some rhetoric about changes in the stars, he persuaded the King of Chu to grant amnesty to the world. The king of Chu agreed. Soon, the news that the King of Chu was going to grant amnesty reached the ears of his eldest son. His first thought was that he had given him a thousand gold in vain, and he wanted to amnesty the world anyway. So, he asked Zhuang Sheng to get the money back. Although Zhuang Sheng returned the original amount of money, he still became more and more angry as he thought about it. So he went to the King of Chu again and said that there were rumors that the King of Chu\’s amnesty was to save Fan Li\’s son and to protect the sinners. After hearing this, the King of Chu killed Fan Li\’s second son in a rage, and then announced a general amnesty for the whole world. The eldest son was dumbfounded and had to find a car to take his brother\’s body home. After Fan Li saw his son\’s body, he regretted: I had guessed this result. The eldest son has lived through hard times and has witnessed our family\’s rise from poverty to prosperity. He knows that life is not easy, so he is reluctant to part with a large amount of money. If he is not decisive when it is time to spend money, problems will definitely arise. The younger son has lived a superior life since he was a child.A rich man might not even blink an eye. If I had insisted on sending him, this problem might not have arisen. My friend was thoughtful after listening to my story. He must have understood that there is no standard answer from ancient times to whether one should be raised poor or rich. It depends on what age the child is, what kind of family it is, and what kind of qualities it needs. Children raised in poverty have experienced the hardship of life and the difficulty of making money early on, and have developed the spirit of hard work without fear of hardship or fatigue since childhood. They have the courage to face the setbacks in life and will not be easily knocked down by fate. However, they may be like Fan Li\’s eldest son. Sometimes they are not well-organized and can only see immediate benefits and miss important matters. My friends and I both went to college from rural areas, and we are both poor children. Although compared with our friends in the village, we are already doing well. We can find a job with a worry-free life and have our own family. House of. However, compared with those classmates in college, we are still among the backward group. We found that seven or eight years after graduation, the current situation of rural students in the class is basically a grade worse than that of students who have lived in cities since childhood. In addition to having families as back-up support, children in cities generally have a larger structure than children in rural areas. For example, when they first graduate, rural children are more likely to be attracted by the high initial salary, while urban children pay more attention to the development prospects and industry direction of a company. After earning their first income, rural children are more inclined to save it or feed it back to their parents, but urban children are more inclined to manage money or use it as social capital to advance their careers. While the children raised in poverty are focusing on the arithmetic of how much overtime pay they can get for working one more day, the children raised in wealth are thinking about where I should go in the future! Pattern is a mysterious thing, but it can affect a person\’s life at critical times. However, wealthy children also have their own shortcomings. They may not be able to bear the hardships of life and may not have enough adversity. Whether your children should be raised rich or poor depends on the stage of your family. If your family is poor and needs your child to move from the countryside to the city and be raised in poverty, then he needs to study hard, start a business hard, and not flinch when millions of people squeeze into the single-plank bridge. Just like me and my friends, like Fan Li’s eldest son. But if your family background is okay, you don’t have to worry about basic problems, and you want your child to develop far and become a social elite, you can choose to be wealthy to a certain extent, give him a bit of \”chic\”, and don\’t waste too much of his attention on things that don\’t require food. Don\’t worry about the suffering, look at the overall situation, a person\’s vision is very important. Like Fan Li\’s youngest son, he would not put all his thoughts on that one thousand pieces of gold and worry about gains and losses. Of course, what I mean by \”enrichment\” here is not pampering or pampering that is divorced from reality, but rather the provision of sufficient material to suit its development. You see, in all the discussions above about being rich and poor, I did not differentiate between men and women. Many people may think that if it is a daughter, exceptions should be made. The daughter should be rich and raised so that she can see the world so that she will not be easily deceived by men when she grows up. This statement is like a woman\’s only life is love,It\’s just like the love between children, it seems that only by soaking in money can a girl grow up \”in the world\” inch by inch. Being poor and being rich are just rough divisions in the dimension of money. Of course, money has an influence, but it is by no means the whole story. In addition to \”raising\”, raising children is more importantly \”nurturing\”, which is the guidance and example of parents. If, in an environment that lacks equality and respect, no matter whether you are raised poor or rich, you will not be able to withstand the indiscriminate upbringing of your parents.